Hi again SK…Just drawing your attention to what the CCC has to say on the subject of mortal sin, or not being in the state of Grace (and only mortal sin can do this)…especially the quote below. I did have a look at your profile and I dont really understand your Faith Profession (my fault due to culpable ignorance!). I would be gravely remiss and an offence against charity and fraternal love if you are Catholic to not stress your serious current position (outside the state of Grace), if indeed this
is the actuality and only you can answer this and you may need the advice of a priest to help you discern your actual position. Grave matter alone is not mortal sin…and often though grave matter may be present, there is constraint on the will which means that full consent is lacking - hence not mortally sinful. If in doubt, I head for the Confessional:thumbsup:
Presupposing you are not in the state of Grace and not going to Confession, this could well be the reason you have difficulty getting at the why of sin…or your motivation. Certainly I have had a habit of sin I found very hard to break and only continually confessing along with heartfelt prayer and a lively desire to overcome my failing brought success of God’s gift.
See l860 below: “The promptings of feelings and passions can also diminish the voluntary and free character of the offense, as can external pressures or pathological disorders. Sin committed through malice, by deliberate choice of evil, is the gravest.”
1854 Sins are rightly evaluated according to their gravity. The distinction between mortal and venial sin, already evident in Scripture,129 became part of the tradition of the Church. It is corroborated by human experience.
1855 Mortal sin destroys charity in the heart of man by a grave violation of God’s law; it turns man away from God, who is his ultimate end and his beatitude,
by preferring an inferior good to him.
Venial sin allows charity to subsist, even though it offends and wounds it.
1856 Mortal sin, by attacking the vital principle within us - that is, charity - necessitates a new initiative of God’s mercy and a conversion of heart which is normally accomplished within the setting of the sacrament of reconciliation:
When the will sets itself upon something that is of its nature incompatible with the charity that orients man toward his ultimate end, then the sin is mortal by its very object . . . whether it contradicts the love of God, such as blasphemy or perjury, or the love of neighbor, such as homicide or adultery. . . . But when the sinner’s will is set upon something that of its nature involves a disorder, but is not opposed to the love of God and neighbor, such as thoughtless chatter or immoderate laughter and the like, such sins are venial.130
1857 For a *sin *to be
mortal, three conditions must together be met: "Mortal sin is sin whose object is grave matter and which is also committed with full knowledge and deliberate consent."131
1858 Grave matter is specified by the Ten Commandments, corresponding to the answer of Jesus to the rich young man: "Do not kill, Do not commit adultery, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Do not defraud, Honor your father and your mother."132 The gravity of sins is more or less great: murder is graver than theft. One must also take into account who is wronged: violence against parents is in itself graver than violence against a stranger.
1859 Mortal sin requires
full knowledge and
complete consent. It presupposes knowledge of the sinful character of the act, of its opposition to God’s law. It also implies a consent sufficiently deliberate to be a personal choice. Feigned ignorance and hardness of heart133 do not diminish, but rather increase, the voluntary character of a sin.
1860 Unintentional ignorance can diminish or even remove the imputability of a grave offense. But no one is deemed to be ignorant of the principles of the moral law, which are written in the conscience of every man.
The promptings of feelings and passions can also diminish the voluntary and free character of the offense, as can external pressures or pathological disorders. Sin committed through malice, by deliberate choice of evil, is the gravest.
1861 Mortal sin is a radical possibility of human freedom, as is love itself.
It results in the loss of charity and the privation of sanctifying grace, that is, of the state of grace. If it is not redeemed by repentance and God’s forgiveness, it causes exclusion from Christ’s kingdom and the eternal death of hell, for our freedom has the power to make choices for ever, with no turning back
. However, although we can judge that an act is in itself a grave offense, we must entrust judgment of persons to the justice and mercy of God.
It’s the thrill of sexual excitement and the powerful pleasure of the orgasm followed by the satisfaction of sexual release. It doesn’t take much scrutiny to know what the reasons are. 
The reasons are obvious. What you need to do is say NO to sins of the flesh no matter how seductively Satan dangles the carrot of forbidden lust in front of you. It’s refusing to be bribed with the promise of pleasure in order to do what is right.
