I may be posting this in the wrong spot, but I do not know where to post. I have been having a very difficult time with my husband having an affair, and although I am very hurt by his actions, forgiving him has not been very difficult. The problem is I have a lot of built up anger and resentment toward the other woman. I do not know how one could be so selfish. As a woman, I could never try and take a married man from his wife, no matter what the circumstance, especially if he were a father and his wife were pregnant, as I am. Please do not misunderstand, my husband is fully responsible for his own act of betrayal and selfishness, and I may not have forgiven him for everything he did during the affair, but I am working on it. However, I feel like his “mistress” could not have cared less for the pain she was putting me, our children and our unborn baby through, and for everything she took from me and my marriage (my confidence, our innocence, etc) and to point out, she was aware that he was married, had children, I was pregnant… I feel so much anger and jealously toward her. Ultimately my husband is here working on our marriage, but while he is putting forth effort in our marriage, I am harboring hard feelings. I don’t “want” to forgive her ever, but the truth is God loves us all, and how can I make the decision to hold on to this resentment when I really want to follow God. I want to be the best mom and wife I can be, and carrying this woman with me is preventing me from being so. The thing is I don’t even know how to begin to forgive someone I have never met, who hurt me, my children, my marriage, God and because of the affair brought this much pain to my husband. Please be kind here, I am dealing with a lot of emotions, and I am really trying to be the best person I can be for God, but I can’t take harsh criticism right now. Please sympathize with me here. Thank you.
