How to forgive

[arunangelo]

Here are few ideas about how to forgive.

1. Perfect forgiveness comes through Jesus, who compensated for the offenses we committed against Him by sacrificing His own life. In order to forgive, we must, therefore, surrender our will to God by desiring nothing except to do and accept His will.
2. Sacrifice our hurt and pride, just as Jesus humbled Himself and sacrificed His life for us, in order to bring forgiveness and healing to those who offend us.
3. Constantly remember that we are sinners who are forgiven by the sacrificial body and blood of Christ.
   Please feel free to add some more.

 

[water]

1. go to the confession more often - when one tastes the great mercy of God, he/she will find it easier to forgive others.

Note: do not worry if you ever run out of sins if you go to confess often. I try to go weekly, and the more times I confess, the more sins I remember - some sins I have committed 20 years ago and now I am reminded about that. I believe this is how Jesus help you when you truly want to repent.

 

[littleone]

I agree with what is writen above for those contemplating the issue, and wanting to resolve the past.

There are many people who have unresoved issues from their ast that cause much pain to others in their relationships. Their past catches up and they get into a comfort zone where it is too hard to even think about others. Also a large number of these people go into denial They blame the other persons from their past for their bad actions they have started to do.

The only way to resolve the past is forgiveness.
You might say that they won’t forgive. Yes this is a very deep situation and can be very dangerous. Cover yourself with the blood of Christ every day. ( For Christ shed his blood for our sins).

You might ask the person if it is good to keep hold of the past, Do they realy want to hurt their family,
don’t they care about others.
Is this the way they wish to live.
Or you might tell the person that all this hurts because the negative actions and words by these others of their past hurt because the informatin in the long term memory of the angery person have become intertwined with the actions and words of the perpetrator.
It is not that they wish to live this way but they don’t want to forgive because why should they? They havent done wrong, it hurts too much to talk about it. But that’s only one side of the situation what aout the others in the family?
But this is NOT a blame situatin Jesus sayes that.
The victim of the past has to realise that unless they forgive there is NO freedome for them. So is it worth keeping hold of this? Or will they forgive, nail it to the cross, to carry on without pain for all concerned?