How to "Get Right" With Estranged Bro & Sis

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I’m trying to do the right thing. I just don’t know what it is.

My bro/sis did some very awful things to our Mom during her life but especially near the end of her life. Because of that, I haven’t spoken to either one of them in many years. I doubt that either of them will come clean regarding their actions should I contact them. All I want is to know that I tried to do the right thing, whatever that may be.

Can anyone suggest an approach? I’m trying to accomplish Matt 5:24 but the situation is reversed.
 
Do you feel that you could forgive them even if they have/will not repent of what they did?
 
Oh, yes, I have forgiven them since I came home to Christ in 2013.

The issue is that I’m quite sure they either don’t think they did anything wrong (and they definitely did) or they’ll tell me to get lost and they don’t need my forgiveness.
 
In that case, I’d simply go to them and say that I’d really like to reestablish our relationship. Whatever happened in the past is water under the bridge. If they are willing to fix the relationship, great. If not, you will have tried and can move on knowing that.

If you have already forgiven them without their repentance, I see no need to insist on it now.
 
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Thank you.

No action I take or don’t take is conditioned on their repentance. I have forgiven them and that’s that.
 
You’ve done the hard work already. I hope they also wish to reestablish a relationship. Family is important even if they are sometimes difficult to get along with.
 
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