How to let go of hate and forgive those that have wronged us

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Ultimately, I would like some advice through the Catholic perspective on how to deal with feelings of hate and to learn to forgive.

Here is a good technique to aid in the process of forgiveness. It is a process. There is first a decision to forgive, but it is not complete with just that. Occasionally you will have thoughts about how he treated you. When you do, say to yourself, “No, I have forgiven him.” and let the thought go. Don’t engage in gossip about him. When you see him, that will probably trigger the worst thoughts, but again you say in your mind, “No I have forgiven him.” You’ll see that over time your anger and hurt drops away because you are no longer feeding it. Now even if you still feel some anger, hurt or resentment, you are still in a forgiving state if you are not thinking and acting against him. Also when he comes to mind, pray for his healing.