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I have been the president in an association in school since September. There is a teacher supervisor sent to supervise the club, so that nothing goes wrong. However, this is getting me great trouble and stress.
I do not want to point my finger at his faults, let me write this in brief. He claims that he wants to remain being a “supervisor”, that is to supervise and advise only; yet his acts contradicts with his speech. He requires instead of suggests, demands instead of advises, and notifies instead of asks. He is more like the president, many of our committees are very stressed out and upset as we are more like servants than committees. We have been carrying out orders instead of managing the club ourselves. Sometimes he gets unreasonable, like asking for the slightest details of things in the far future, and setting requirements that are impossible to fulfill. And after he works on things he was not asked to do, he would then blame us for putting unreasonable extra work on him because of our incapabilities; yet we never asked him to do so.
I have to admit that I’m not a good leader, but in a club for high school students to learn, unless we are doing something sinful, dangerous or harmful, it’s not a big deal. Whether it’s of good, moderate or bad, how we learn from the process is the key. I have indeed reflected from my work and found what I lacked and failed to do. He claims that he understands this, but again his attitude denies so. I have been suffering great stress and anxiety, I have nightmares about the club too. I’m new in this kind of work, but my experienced friends also expressed that what I’m facing is uncommon and unreasonable.
I have wanted to resign for some time, other committees also expressed the intent to leave. Yet, despite he is unreasonable, I think he is unaware of his problem. I’ve once talked with him, and I’m sure he understood, he just fails to accept other’s feedback and minimal change was reflected in him. I’m unsure whether I shall resign now. The semester is not over yet, it may seem as I am escaping from my duty. He may not recognize his need to change, no matter how I explain in the resignation letter. Also, some committees may choose to stay. My/our workload will fall onto them before they find substitute.
I see this as a cross which God gave me, to train up my perseverance and teach me how to “love my enemies and pray for those who persecute me”. Jesus did pray for those who persecuted Him when He was crucified, He meant to teach us do the same. While I try to tolerate and wait until everything gets over in May to resign and wake him up from his mindset, it is just very difficult to literally “love my enemy and pray for him”.
Would anyone give me some advice on how should I do so? Do you think this is a cross from God, and should I resign now or later?
I do not want to point my finger at his faults, let me write this in brief. He claims that he wants to remain being a “supervisor”, that is to supervise and advise only; yet his acts contradicts with his speech. He requires instead of suggests, demands instead of advises, and notifies instead of asks. He is more like the president, many of our committees are very stressed out and upset as we are more like servants than committees. We have been carrying out orders instead of managing the club ourselves. Sometimes he gets unreasonable, like asking for the slightest details of things in the far future, and setting requirements that are impossible to fulfill. And after he works on things he was not asked to do, he would then blame us for putting unreasonable extra work on him because of our incapabilities; yet we never asked him to do so.
I have to admit that I’m not a good leader, but in a club for high school students to learn, unless we are doing something sinful, dangerous or harmful, it’s not a big deal. Whether it’s of good, moderate or bad, how we learn from the process is the key. I have indeed reflected from my work and found what I lacked and failed to do. He claims that he understands this, but again his attitude denies so. I have been suffering great stress and anxiety, I have nightmares about the club too. I’m new in this kind of work, but my experienced friends also expressed that what I’m facing is uncommon and unreasonable.
I have wanted to resign for some time, other committees also expressed the intent to leave. Yet, despite he is unreasonable, I think he is unaware of his problem. I’ve once talked with him, and I’m sure he understood, he just fails to accept other’s feedback and minimal change was reflected in him. I’m unsure whether I shall resign now. The semester is not over yet, it may seem as I am escaping from my duty. He may not recognize his need to change, no matter how I explain in the resignation letter. Also, some committees may choose to stay. My/our workload will fall onto them before they find substitute.
I see this as a cross which God gave me, to train up my perseverance and teach me how to “love my enemies and pray for those who persecute me”. Jesus did pray for those who persecuted Him when He was crucified, He meant to teach us do the same. While I try to tolerate and wait until everything gets over in May to resign and wake him up from his mindset, it is just very difficult to literally “love my enemy and pray for him”.
Would anyone give me some advice on how should I do so? Do you think this is a cross from God, and should I resign now or later?