How to make men better fathers

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Here’s to you Hermione.

Unfortunatly there seems to be a lack of interest in family. This culture of enlightenment errrrrrr culture of death seems to lend itself to also being a culture of unresponsibility. A job should not be used as an excuse to avoid duties to the family. Any ideas on how to make a males desire to come back to the family?
 
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jman507:
Here’s to you Hermione.

Unfortunatly there seems to be a lack of interest in family. This culture of enlightenment errrrrrr culture of death seems to lend itself to also being a culture of unresponsibility. A job should not be used as an excuse to avoid duties to the family. Any ideas on how to make a males desire to come back to the family?
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I guess the only thing I can think of is for men to grow in love for their wives and their children. Because if they truly love them they will do the duties of the family for them. As for how to do this… I suppose grow in faith! It seems that God is the answer to everything.

I guess if both spouses truly loved each other the way God wants them to love each other nothing would be a problem because each spouse would forget the self and would work for the good of the other. And instead of trying to do less, or half, they’ll BOTH try to do as much as possible for the other person and be happy doing it.
 
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jman507:
Here’s to you Hermione.

Unfortunatly there seems to be a lack of interest in family. This culture of enlightenment errrrrrr culture of death seems to lend itself to also being a culture of unresponsibility. A job should not be used as an excuse to avoid duties to the family. Any ideas on how to make a males desire to come back to the family?
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Get them involved and Christ Centered

wwww.couplesforchrist.us
 
Spend time with the children and father them. Some growth happens with exposure, time alone to bond.

Good books could help, if they like to read. Being exposed to good speakers on the topic would help.
 
Do a study on the Theology of the Body. I sujest the book “Sex and the Sacred City” by Steven Kellmeyer.

A mens group study would be best.
 
My husband is a WONDERFUL dad. I cannot stress this enough. I think he was born with it, though, his father is NOT the role model my husband is as a father.

I think the number on priority that men need to shift their thinking on is providing for the family - and not with material things. My husband used to have a huge salary with his last company and we lived very “comfy”. Then 9-11 hit and he started thinking differently. He joined the military and is giving back to his country. He would rather fight in wars now, than to have our children in them later. Everything he does, it’s for our family - EVERYTHING. Even after a long day flying, he comes home and will change all the diapers and tuck the kids in bed, laying with them until they fall asleep.

Prioritize your family before you have kids. What do you want in life? Your kids to learn what? How will you teach that to them? Start your plan early.
 
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Hermione:
I guess the only thing I can think of is for men to grow in love for their wives and their children. Because if they truly love them they will do the duties of the family for them. As for how to do this… I suppose grow in faith! It seems that God is the answer to everything.
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Right on Hermione!!! It’s a matter of LOVE. As we all notice, everyone finds the time to do what they LOVE. As a man or woman too grows in their Love and communion with God, I think this would naturally be the basis for good relationships, and love follows. But as in our culture, the me, me, me generation, without good men’s and women’s groups out there in the church, and teaching on how to grow in Christ, its really futile. We all must seek out good groups, IMO, bible studies, couples’ groups, youth groups for our kids’, because it’s not very readily available from the world, quite the contrary. Just immoral stuff on TV, and the majority of parents today living completely “in the world” as well, and equally attracted to all the immorality. How does this encourage Christian family relationships???

Sometimes we can’t get everything we need just from church or mass, you know?

God Bless~~
 
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Any ideas on how to make a males desire to come back to the family?
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I think we as a culture need to value men more. :hmmm:
Some in our society tell us that men and women are the same. Well, if that’s true, then why would men want (or need) to come back to the family?

Families need fathers and mothers. We sometimes try to force men to be just “male mothers”. Many men have no desire to be what they can not be. If we continue to devalue males, we will continue to breakdown families. We can make men better fathers by letting them be fathers.

(We should also pray for them and encourage them to grow in their faith.)
 
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Families need fathers and mothers. We sometimes try to force men to be just “male mothers”. Many men have no desire to be what they can not be.
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Well put!
 
One step at a time! The next time you step into the “family room” to watch TV with your kids…don’t watch TV. Play a game, take them outside, read to them, you get the point. One step at a time.
 
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