How to remain a faithful to Jesus and have friends / family who use profanity

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I was wondering how could we remain faithful to our Catholic Christian beliefs if our family and friends use profanity and we keep company with them?
 
If language gets really “blue” I just excuse myself. Same with vulgar conversations and inappropriate movies. I don’t make a big deal about it.
 
If they take Jesus’ name in vain, then interject something like “yes, He died for me too.” Or if it’s God you could say “Have mercy on us” or “Forgive us our sins” or if it’s Mary you can say “pray for us”. That usually shuts them up.

If it’s other words like “d**n" or four letter words for sex etc, you can either tell them you’re not comfortable and could they tone it down to PG, or else just put up with the fact that some people swear a lot and try not to spend time around them, excuse yourself etc.
 
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I do my best to ignore it, although that can be particularly difficult if they take the Lord’s name in vain or swear constantly. Similar to what mrsdizzyd said, I focus my attention elsewhere (usually my phone) if immoral things start pouring out of one’s mouth, or if someone puts it on an immoral song or movie. I’ve actually had people take offense at me, someone they know to be Christian, for not giving my full attention to media that is explicitly anti-Christian. What can you do?
 
We can politely ask them to keep their language clean around them. Some will respect us, others won’t. Then it is up to us to decide how much time we choose to spend around the people with bad language. If you genuinly feel they qualities outweight their bad language, practice forgiveness. If you are adament you don’t want to be around that language, don’t keep company with them
 
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I can’t imagine someone regularly using profanities would be a good company to keep and at the same time there are times when we need to interact with those people.

I guess the only option would be to remain only as needed and leave as soon as possible. Naturally never should we repeat what we hear and must also demand they use clean language when directly addressing us.

“Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.”(Ephesians 5:4)
 
well… your original post said ‘keep company with them’ which I interpreted as you spend a lot of time with them by choice

If it is a case you are only around on occasion and you can’t avoid them, that is different. If you choose to not go near anyone who sins you would need to become a hermit
 
Sorry if I did not explain correctly but I meant interacting with them and keeping faithful to our Christian Beliefs.
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Definitely not, I am a sinner after all. However, there are sinners who enjoy sin and never care about sinning, and then those who fight and at least do the effort to resist it.
 
True, some sinners actually love commiting sin.

Sadly, we live in a world where a lot of people don’t care if they sin
 
Good suggestions you’ve had. Unfortunately just the other day when I held my nose and went on FB due to a family tragedy, the latest post said family were discussing and upholding, with language to boot, was some sort of ‘study’ which proved that people who ‘used profanity are more authentic’. Authentic whats, I wanted to say but did not, proving that since I celebrate an expletive-free life I am myself not authentic enough to participate in the conversation.
 
I understand what you mean, however I respectfully disagree. Authenticity only can come from living according to our beliefs and goals, always and everywhere both in our private life as well as in our public one.

People who use profanity and do not care are directly going against the teachings of Sacred Scripture and Catholic Doctrine. While we remain open to forgiveness and need to exercise our patience with them, I would not seek them out as role models to follow or trust.
 
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Not at all, however I know some of them dislike me because I decided not to speak like them.
 
When you decide to not speak to someone, it is very common they will dislike you. Now, with that said, if you genuinly feel ok with them disliking you, then that is OK.
 
If you have a big dislike for the way they talk, I should think you’d be happy they dislike you so you won’t have to listen to them.
 
I do speak to them, otherwise it would be uncharitable, however I do not use their profanity. As long as I know I am following good Catholic doctrine and my conscience is clear I do not dwell too much on what others think (even less so coming from people using profanity), however I would rather have people dislike me than God. If you want to remain a faithful Christian you have to expect opposition, specially since the evil one has a strong influence in the world.

Even Christ had enemies !
 
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