How to talk to boyfriend about religion?

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I have been best friends with this great guy for almost two years, and we recently started dating. I was raised Catholic, and I am stronger in my faith now than I have ever been. My boyfriend was raised without any religion, and hardly believes in God at all. He has always been supportive of my faith, but every time I try to talk to him about his views he tries to change the subject. He says that he might choose to become religious later in his life, but right now if would be too much of a hassle because he will be leaving for college in the fall. I think this is ridiculous because now is the time in his life when he needs God MOST!

I only have 3 months before we will both be leaving for college (in different states) and I want to help him with his faith as much as possible before I leave…I just don’t want to be too pushy. Any ideas?
 
If we shine with the light of Christ then we will lead the way for others to follow.

If we are on fire and show our zeal for all that is holy and from God those around us will want it too.

We have to set an example for those we love. Sometimes words get in the way. Actions speak louder then words.

Don’t tell him to love God show him your love of God.

In the process you might have a conversion too.

Religion is how we bind ourselves to God.
Don’t talk about it show it.
With how you talk how you walk and how you treat others.

Give thanks to God always and everywhere for every blessing He gives you.

Be happy for you are a child of God.

and pray for him

In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit
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Amen
I believe!
 
I am not suggesting that you cannot help your boyfriend but it would be dangerous for your faith to be with a partner that is not a Christian. If he loves you, he will do what is best for your relationship.
 
Stay-at-Home Catholic Dad of 3… is me! (and proud to be)

The only thing you can do is talk to him, pray for him and be the example for him.

Bigger things to think about is… say a few years down the line after you are very invested emotionally in your relationship and you both decide to get married…

Do you want to be married in the church?
Will he even want that?

Assuming you get married first…
Now the children come along…
Is he going to fight against you for the childrens’ religious upbringing?
What will the children say in a few years…“Why doesn’t Daddy go to church with us?”

Are you willing to compromise these things and “settle”?
Don’t you want someone you can share the joy of your faith?

His want of religion “later in life” could be too late.
Nobody knows when our “later in life” is going to be… maybe sooner then later!!!

Things to ponder though… try to evangelize an unwilling recipient
Or stay friends and move on to find “a good Catholic boy”???

Tough life choices but once your married it will be tougher and you don’t want to think about being older and looking back in regret of things that could have been.

We don’t have control of lots of things that go on in life… but this you do.

Paul
 
I’d get a copy of “What’s So Great About Christianity”, read it then give it to him and ask him to read it. I’d follow that up with “The Case for Christ”… then “Mere Christianity”… 😃
 
Tell him to get his relationship right with God first then everything else will take care of itself.

Under the present circumstances, it would be very wise of you not to date him. In fact, that should be a condition of dating anyone.
 
Woah, you sound exactly like me!! Every little detail except for the college part. My bf didn’t leave for college…

… anyway, like you- I really wanted my boyfriend to become faithful (I always wanted a Catholic boyfriend). But at the same time, i didnt want him to think that I was forcing him/pressuring him to convert. The first months were really hard. Especially because he came from a Jehovah’s Witness family - but that’s a different story. And also like you- every time I tried talking to him about my faith or religion in general he’d pretend he didn’t listen or pretend he was too busy to pay attention.

we’ve been dating for two years now and I realized that the best thing to do is just give him time. He comes to mass with me every Sunday now. And we do talk about our faith, but just slightly. Recently he’s been getting very interested in the Church. He asks questions and I try to do my best to answer him…

So my advice to you is to just be patient with him. Most importantly: pray for him. And just be a good girlfriend. And invite him to Church once in a while.
Be a good Christian role model for him.- as St. Francis of Assisi said: “Preach the gospel at all times. If necessary, use words”.

Hope I helped.
God bless!
 
chellebelle090 said:
I have been best friends with this great guy for almost two years, and we recently started dating. I was raised Catholic, and I am stronger in my faith now than I have ever been. My boyfriend was raised without any religion, and hardly believes in God at all. He has always been supportive of my faith, but every time I try to talk to him about his views he tries to change the subject. He says that he might choose to become religious later in his life, but right now if would be too much of a hassle because he will be leaving for college in the fall. I think this is ridiculous because now is the time in his life when he needs God MOST!

I only have 3 months before we will both be leaving for college (in different states) and I want to help him with his faith as much as possible before I leave…I just don’t want to be too pushy. Any ideas?
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Everything in God’s time. If it doesn’t happen the way you want it to, just trust in God’s will. The only thing you can do is prayer. Don’t be pushy. At the beginning of my relationship with my GF, i was almost chased away by seemingly overwhelming pressure.

Be patient, keep living your life. Pray to God, offer sacrifices for him.

But most of all it will happen in God’s time
 
I seriously must disagree with the people saying that you should not date him. As far as I understand it, the only real “rule” about dating non Catholics in the long run is that if you end up getting married then he has to be okay with raising your children Catholic, which I suspect he would be considering he’s supportive of your faith. (So even if he never converts, it’s okay for you to be in a relationship with him). If he says he needs space and time to think about it (religion), maybe you should give him it. If he is curious then he will ask you about it. Also pray for him.
 
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