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I am so very depressed. My husband was a manager of a specially retail shop. He was salary. Well the store is not doing well and his boss has had to lay him off. Well technically he isn’t layed off, he in now part time is will not even be making 1/2 of what he was making. What are we supposed to do?

I’m sure God is trying to tell us something. I’m just so very scared. I’ve been wanting to be a stay at home mom and couldn’t due to health insurance. Now if my husband doesn’t find another job, we may loose our house. :crying: My husband needs to finish his degree, maybe this is God’s way of insuring he does that for future needs. I’m just so scared that we won’t be able to feed our kids. :banghead: That’s what I feel like doing, banging my head on the wall until it hurts.
 
The corporate career paradigm has been eroding for 20 years now. I am involved in Private Franchising (as most people in these forums know), because I doesn’t like the bubble that the real estate market is riding and because I can’t find anything decent on the NYSE worth investing my money in (neither does Warren Buffet, by the way). I don’t see the “education, degree, corporate progression, retirement” paradigm lasting much longer either. Companies are streamlining and outsourcing alot of work to smaller, leaner, more flexible companies. Retailers are starting to loose business to online direct sellers. Private Franchising works for me, but I don’t recommend it for everyone. Most people don’t have the temperment to be in my line of work.
 
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AmberDale:
I am so very depressed. My husband was a manager of a specially retail shop. He was salary. Well the store is not doing well and his boss has had to lay him off. Well technically he isn’t layed off, he in now part time is will not even be making 1/2 of what he was making. What are we supposed to do?

I’m sure God is trying to tell us something. I’m just so very scared. I’ve been wanting to be a stay at home mom and couldn’t due to health insurance. Now if my husband doesn’t find another job, we may loose our house. :crying: My husband needs to finish his degree, maybe this is God’s way of insuring he does that for future needs. I’m just so scared that we won’t be able to feed our kids. :banghead: That’s what I feel like doing, banging my head on the wall until it hurts.
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  1. pray the rosary daily
  2. repeat after me at least once: “Jesus, I trust in You!”
  3. stay strong so your kids don’t freak out; stress helps nobody
  4. remember that God provides!
God bless you,
Corinne
 
I am sorry for your situation and will add you to my prayers. I have been downsized, out sized, laid off a few times myself as the sole provider of my family. While it is a frightening time, trust that God is providing for you. He is leading you elsewhere - and always for the better. Though it is difficult to see that now.

God is an awesome Father and will lead you. Trust.
 
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jrabs:
I am sorry for your situation and will add you to my prayers. I have been downsized, out sized, laid off a few times myself as the sole provider of my family. While it is a frightening time, trust that God is providing for you. He is leading you elsewhere - and always for the better. Though it is difficult to see that now.

God is an awesome Father and will lead you. Trust.
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Jenn, please note that your position as my goffe-ahem, VP is always secure.
 
Trust me, you WILL get through. My husband is also being laid-off in a couple weeks, which was a total shock to us, especially from the Air Force! But, I keep reminding myself that God will not give us more than we can handle, and to always look at the bright side of things. There will be a way, you may have to upturn some logs to find it, but things will turn out fine. Try and stay positive. I know how nerve-racking it can be to be faced with this situation. I went ballistic at first, ot it all out of my system, and now I’m starting to get excited about the options we have found in turn!!

I wish you the best, and I’m here if you need to talk!
 
It’s so nerve-racking you are right. I think I’m so upset today because it has just happened this weekend. We had bought a house 1.5 years ago, expecting the store my husband worked for to excel, not die. :crying: My husband is supposed to be making calls today. What’s really frustrating is he has been looking for a different job for awhile now and hasn’t found one.
We have both decided that it would be best for me to stay home with our kids. We were just waiting for him to find a job, one with health insurance. Now that option is out for awhile. Which I’m okay with. Now there is possiblity of losing our house, if he can’t find a job. Which I guess would be fine, then we could move somewhere cheaper and he can go back to school while I work.
I don’t know. I am just so very very stressed out.
 
Dont freak out. Trust in God to get you through, He will! Be not afraid.🙂 I had a similar situation, five years later things are going smoothly, though it defies reason and I wouldn’t have thought it possible. Thank you St. Jude.
 
Have you thought of the option of moving somewhere that has more job opportunities? That’s what we’re doing. We literally went to realtor.com and monster.com, and found compatible cities. Something with realty in our price range, and an abundance of jobs. It’s a big step - sort of going into the unknown, but now I find it so exciting!

When my husband made the choice to go into the Air Force last year, we had to sell our house, that took us months to find. His salary was cut to less than half, and we moved accorss the country. It all worked out, though it was a bit scary (though that was by choice). Now we don’t have a choice. He’ll be unemployed soon, and we’re having to make decisions pretty quickly. But, I’m not too worried. I know it’ll work out. I’m more impatient than anything! I just wish we could find a house and get him a new job NOW! That’s what’s stressing me out more - the unknown. Even though I know we’ll be okay somehow, it’s just not an easy change to make.
 
coralewisjr said:
1) pray the rosary daily
2) repeat after me at least once: “Jesus, I trust in You!”
3) stay strong so your kids don’t freak out; stress helps nobody
4) remember that God provides!

God bless you,
Corinne
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…good advice:thumbsup:
 
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AmberDale:
I am so very depressed. My husband was a manager of a specially retail shop. He was salary. Well the store is not doing well and his boss has had to lay him off. Well technically he isn’t layed off, he in now part time is will not even be making 1/2 of what he was making. What are we supposed to do?

I’m sure God is trying to tell us something. I’m just so very scared. I’ve been wanting to be a stay at home mom and couldn’t due to health insurance. Now if my husband doesn’t find another job, we may loose our house. :crying: My husband needs to finish his degree, maybe this is God’s way of insuring he does that for future needs. I’m just so scared that we won’t be able to feed our kids. :banghead: That’s what I feel like doing, banging my head on the wall until it hurts.
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No job is secure nowadays. I know, believe me I know what you are going through. The sadness, then the depression, then the resentment. I know. So many good people going through this and it tries the faith. What’s worse is that it is in very tough times as these that one knows who is a real friend, and who in the family REALLY cares. I have come to realize that one cannot even depend on family, but must seek to detach from them, and seek to really trust one or two really good friends. In my case these few three frinds have really been there in my toughest times, mostly encouraging and helping me have hope when I had lost all traces of it. It’s amazing how so many people are just self absorbed that they don’t as much care of even emailing or phoning to “see how things are”? As per siblings, forget about it, they have their own lives and don’t really care. Especially of the siblings happen to be the sister: seems the husbands if the woman is dependent on all on him ($) will always put HIS opinion over any brother.
All will be fine, don’r loose hope, and know that your greatest friend will be Christ.
 
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misericordie:
No job is secure nowadays. I know, believe me I know what you are going through. The sadness, then the depression, then the resentment. I know. So many good people going through this and it tries the faith. What’s worse is that it is in very tough times as these that one knows who is a real friend, and who in the family REALLY cares. I have come to realize that one cannot even depend on family, but must seek to detach from them, and seek to really trust one or two really good friends. In my case these few three frinds have really been there in my toughest times, mostly encouraging and helping me have hope when I had lost all traces of it. It’s amazing how so many people are just self absorbed that they don’t as much care of even emailing or phoning to “see how things are”? As per siblings, forget about it, they have their own lives and don’t really care. Especially of the siblings happen to be the sister: seems the husbands if the woman is dependent on all on him ($) will always put HIS opinion over any brother.
All will be fine, don’r loose hope, and know that your greatest friend will be Christ.
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Yup.
 
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AmberDale:
I am so very depressed. My husband was a manager of a specially retail shop. He was salary. Well the store is not doing well and his boss has had to lay him off. Well technically he isn’t layed off, he in now part time is will not even be making 1/2 of what he was making. What are we supposed to do?

I’m sure God is trying to tell us something. I’m just so very scared. I’ve been wanting to be a stay at home mom and couldn’t due to health insurance. Now if my husband doesn’t find another job, we may loose our house. :crying: My husband needs to finish his degree, maybe this is God’s way of insuring he does that for future needs. I’m just so scared that we won’t be able to feed our kids. :banghead: That’s what I feel like doing, banging my head on the wall until it hurts.
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Never lose faith and hope in the Lord. God can always make good from bad so do not be discouraged and lose faith. Continue to pray and look for the Lord for guidence. Pray to your guardian angel as well for help. You will be in my prayers.

matt
 
Hey all, sorry about not updating. Here’s what’s going on.

A few weeks ago, my husband and I made the decision for him to go back to school. So that’s good.
We also realized that we have truely been living beyond our means for awhile. We are going to sell our house. This way when DH is done with school, I can stay home with my kids and homeschool. So that’s what we are going to do.
Then what happens??? My husband Found a Job!!!1:D
It’s great! I still have to work until he finishes school, but that’s okay. At least we should be able to feed ourselves. He won’t be making quite what he was before, but I’m not worried anymore
We are still going to sell the house. Because we believe that the Holy Spirit was trying to tell us something. When we made the above decisions everything seemed to start working.
Now we just need to get the house sold. 👍

My health also seems to be getting better. :dancing:
My labs are looking good! I may be able to stop some of my meds sooner than expected. WOOHWOOH! I’m not going to get too excited though, because I don’t want to jynx ourselves.

God is good. :love:
 
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AmberDale:
Hey all, sorry about not updating. Here’s what’s going on.

A few weeks ago, my husband and I made the decision for him to go back to school. So that’s good.
We also realized that we have truely been living beyond our means for awhile. We are going to sell our house. This way when DH is done with school, I can stay home with my kids and homeschool. So that’s what we are going to do.
Then what happens??? My husband Found a Job!!!1:D
It’s great! I still have to work until he finishes school, but that’s okay. At least we should be able to feed ourselves. He won’t be making quite what he was before, but I’m not worried anymore
We are still going to sell the house. Because we believe that the Holy Spirit was trying to tell us something. When we made the above decisions everything seemed to start working.
Now we just need to get the house sold. 👍

My health also seems to be getting better. :dancing:
My labs are looking good! I may be able to stop some of my meds sooner than expected. WOOHWOOH! I’m not going to get too excited though, because I don’t want to jynx ourselves.

God is good. :love:
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That is wonderful news! I’m so glad to hear things are looking up for you!! I missed this thread the first time around – my dad lost his job THREE different times (he’s a good man, really!) and we had 4, then 6 and then 7 kids at the times he got laid off…that’s when he started his own business with a friend – realized nothing is for certain, esp things you don’t have an active hand in. That job (while it was eventually replaced by technology – doctors billing) put 6 kids thru college, and none of us have any student loans – so as awful as it was to look at 6 kids sitting around a dinner table and know that next week you’ll be jobless, it did lead him down a road he would NEVER have thought to go down otherwise. How wonderful that you realized you were living outside your means – so few people are willing to own up to it, let alone actually DO something about it – the gift of staying home with your kids will repay you ten times the value of that house – and probably in half the time too!!
 
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AmberDale:
I am so very depressed. My husband was a manager of a specially retail shop. He was salary. Well the store is not doing well and his boss has had to lay him off. Well technically he isn’t layed off, he in now part time is will not even be making 1/2 of what he was making. What are we supposed to do?

I’m sure God is trying to tell us something. I’m just so very scared. I’ve been wanting to be a stay at home mom and couldn’t due to health insurance. Now if my husband doesn’t find another job, we may loose our house. :crying: My husband needs to finish his degree, maybe this is God’s way of insuring he does that for future needs. I’m just so scared that we won’t be able to feed our kids. :banghead: That’s what I feel like doing, banging my head on the wall until it hurts.
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I’m so sorry. I think the first thing he has to do is write a resume and start looking for a full time job. Going back to school is expensive and he won’t be able to do it, unless you can get a good paying job and pay the mortgage and feed the kids. Maybe he can work full time and go to school part time if he has the energy to do that. My husband spends so much time at work he is just too tired to go to school. Whats more we just heard GM is planning to lay off 25,000 workers, and my husband’s company is a GM supplier!. :eek: So we may be in the same boat soon.

In the meantime maybe you can get a part time job and help out so you don’t feel so helpless? I don’t know how old your kids are and if you have to pay for baby sitters. One other option is doing something part-time from home. You have to research that because there are so many bogus companies out there.
 
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