Husband wont go to Church

[m_crane]

I am 29 and he is thirty. Thank you everyone for you awsome advice. I talked to him about joining a mens group at church and he said no. My sister is part of the alter rosary society and wants me to join with her. However he says no becuse that takes our time away from each other. We will have to work it out, this weekend is my churches mount carmel feast. My family goes and volunteers every year. This year I am going to help out, I havent been in a few years.
Thank you so much everyone for listening, oh and I did tell my parents why he wont go. They dont think very much of it, they say the woke us up to go to church and put us in catholic school, and now my sisters and I go on our own, Who knows I hope this is resolved before we have children.
Have a good weekend everyone.

Don’t make your participation in the Church activities a division in your family. Your husband may feel your sister and mom and dad in law are competing for your time and using church activities to do this.

Your husband is your family. For now, if he doesn’t want you to go to church activities, don’t go. You can pray at home. As for Mass, you must go, and it is very wrong of him to ask you not to. And don’t let him keep you from Confession either. Perhaps you can go to an early Mass so you can be home when he wakes up. If you are like me(not a morning person) an early Mass would be a great sacrifice and you could offer it for your husband that he come back to the Church.

 

[m_crane]

very true thanks guys, I asked him to go to a diffrent church becuse he says our priest offended him. We had not gone from the time we got married, and when we walked in our priest pretended to have a heart attack, then said just jokeing im so glad your back havent seen you in a while. Now he hates our priest for this, and thats said becuse he is sweet. We have more problems to, we did lots of stuff when we were dateing now he stays in bed all weekend long, and on the week days he comes home gets the dinner i have made and goes straight to bed with it. Then after dinner he is on his comp or playing video games in bed.
I ask him to eat at the table with me, then go for a walk. He says no he dosent like to do thoughs things. He tells me its ok becuse he dose do things for me, on the weekends he gets up about 6:00 and showers then we go to dinner and target. I told him I want more out of my weekends and week days, just go to church with me go for a walk, lets go golfing. He told me hes never going to do the things I want so I just better deal with it. He did go to the movies with me this weekend, but we planed to go to the early one and he stayed in bed to long so we had to go to the late show. He tells me I nagg him to much and to just let him be. He screams at me so hard when I do things wrong. I dropped his psp this weekend becuse I was moving it to clean and he tried to grab it out of my hands,I didnt think I was ever going to live that down. One time I forgot to turn off a light he followed me around for months saying did you turn off the light. If I dont clean as well as he likes he scuffs his feet on our hard wood floors and says nope not clean enough, I am a therapy aide and dont make alot of money, so he thinks he is the ruler becuse he makes more then I do and makes every desision. Im going back to school becuse of this, he tells me when I got my degree the first time I should have looked to see what job makes the most money. I just dont know what to do with myself these days. I love him dont want to ever get divorced, but im sooooo fustrated I almost walked yesterday, I dont knwo what to do. Cant tell my family they would hate him and drive me crazy to leave him. Im sorry I shouldnt have posted all of this on here im sure of it but I just dont know what to do. Oh and I forgot one thing he has a teddy bear from when he was little and it is his best friend. He sleeps with it at night, if we cuddle it has to cuddle with us. He makes it dance and sing to me, and kiss me. He wants me to always sit with it and talk with it. If I dont want to he says its a big part of him and it hurts him, and if I dont like the bear I can leave becuse thats not respecting him. I knew he had the bear when we were dateing but it just sat on his endstand. now that we are married it talks and drives me crazy.

Please seek counseling, something is very wrong here.