Hypocrisy or am i crazy?

[Jkelly416]

Heres my dilemma, my wifes father says he’s catholic. He lives in my house, he is married. His wife my mother in law lives down the road and he says he can’t live with her for some reason or another, this has been going on for 11 years. Am i missing something on the sacrament of marriage? Should he be taking communion? Then again the parish he attends doesn’t even have kneelers, a little horrific to me personally. I have tried talking with the wife on this to no avail. Not sure which way to go with this issue.

 

[Lou2U]

With all due respect, what happens in his marriage should stay between him and your mother in law. Don’t ask, don’t get involved. It’s not your business.

 

[angel12]

says he’s catholic.

And you have what reason to think he’s not?

Should he be taking communion?

That’s between him and his priest.

Then again the parish he attends doesn’t even have kneelers,

What does that have to do with whether he should be receiving Communion?

And most of all, how does your wife feel about your obvious disrespect for her father?

 

[GiftofMercy]

Kneelers is neither here or there. If it is good enough for the Pope and Bishops and clergy to kneel on hard cold marble floors, its good enough for us to kneel on wood or carpet, IMHO

Has your father in law been living with you for 11 years? Does he need care? Are you guys his carers?

 

[TheLittleLady]

There is no doctrine that spouses must live under the same roof.

If you do not want your Father in Law living with you, then, help him find other arrangements.

 

[CilladeRoma]

Why after 11 years is this bothering you?

And if no kneelers are “horrific” to you, life must be pretty darn good.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

It would be better if your wife’s father lived with his spouse. In general, Catholic married couples are supposed to live together.

However, if he is not dating any other women, and has provided for the needs of his spouse to the degree he needs to do so (she has a house, her bills are paid etc), plus he is just living down the road and likely sees his spouse regularly, then he might very well not be in serious sin. It’s not like he has abandoned her or is cheating on her. Also, you don’t specify the reason why they aren’t living together, so for all we know she threw him out of the house.

His parish not having kneelers is totally irrelevant to this discussion and it’s a bit odd that you’d bring it up.