I am scared and need more prayers

[AlwaysChatholic]

My elderly In-laws don’t know what they are doing anymore. My family and and they are all moving to a safer neighborhood in a week. My father in law is constantly angry. He even takes it out on my 12 year old and yells at him and even made him cry. We know moving out of the bad neighborhood is the best for both our families. But he is head strong and refuses to listen to my husband. He is constantly suspicious of my husband and my family. He loses his important documents at his house and accuses us of taking them. He is even accusing us and telling us the only reason we are moving to the nice neighborhood is that we wanted to take advantage of him and move into a bigger and better house to benefit us. We are in the process of cleaning both our houses to get ready to sell them. Now he does not want to sell his house even though someone broke into his garage twice already. Today mom got upset too. She was asking why do they need to tell us everything that they do. They go places leaving their cell phone at home and don’t tell us where they went. They are writing large amounts of checks to charities. My husband found a 500 dollar check and another 100 check written to 2 different charities mixed in with their other bills. We did donate some of their stuff to the thrift store to get ready for the move. But nothing is packed and they don’t really accept my help when I try tohelp them pack. My father in law constantly says they are his stuff and watches me like a hawk when I even try to put recycle papers in the recycling bin. Although the new house is going to be heavenly and it’s super close to their doctor’s, restaurants, grocery, shops and church plus my husband and I are going to be their primary care givers dad is not a happy camper. He is saying it was not his idea to move in the first place. I have a feeling that he is not going to be happy at the new place either and will get mad at us especially my children. I am showering him with all my love and nothing seems to be working. They know they are moving into the new house in a week but still keep going shopping and buying a whole bunch of things. Please pray that they will be happy at the new house and won’t get mad at us when all we are trying to do is take care of them. I am scared of the unknown.

 

[Irishmom2]

Have either of them been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or dementia? It is very hard to see one’s parents decline in brain function. If they have not had recent check ups, contact their doctor(s) with your concerns and ask that he evaluate them without announcing it as your request.

Your husband may need to establish power of attorney in order to handle things down the road or sooner.

If they are both okay, there may not be much you can do to force them to move or control their finances, but if they are diagnosed with something, you may want to check into senior services, or whatever your county or state has.

I wish you all the best with the move and the sales of your homes.

 

[AlwaysChatholic]

My husband is the power of attorney but my father in law is saying he wants to remove my husband’s name of being the power of attorney. They cannot move into an assisted living. Due to Covid 19 we are not allowed to visit them if they move into a facility. Plus the facility my father in law wants to move in is 2 hours away from us and very expensive. Our only option is us taking care of them. I do think they are forgetting things more and more every day. My only hope is prayers.

 

[Viki63]

It sounds as if you are in that very difficult transitional stage where your in-laws may be in the beginning stages of dementia of one kind or another, but don’t recognize it and refuse much help.

You really need to get their doctor on board and ask for a diagnosis.

Talk to a geriatric care manager or senior care advisor; they may have useful information for you.
God bless.

 

[0Scarlett_nidiyilii]

My first thought?
Dementia.
Suspicious and paranoid behavior (especially if these are new behaviors) are part of dementia because the person is aware they’re “losing it”, and it’s more terrifying than you realize