I can't stop Swearing…

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I have a hard time not cursing. I have been trying (poorly though) to stop. It has gotten bad enough that it is common for me to swearing infront of FAMILY and not get scolded. Even my religious Nan who would call me out on saying “Shut up” has stopped for a while. I know swearing is wrong but I can’t seem to break it. Living in NYC and going to public school with a bunch of bubble heads(To put it nicely) who think they are victims of the Church because it has rules. Even my teachers curse infront of students. What can I do?
 
My parents swear a lot but they used to make sure me and my siblings didn’t. Now we swear a lot and they don’t care unless its the R word. I do swear when I’m angry yes but also if I get over excited/histarical laughing which stinks.
 
I notice I swear a lot more when I’m surrounded by those who do/watch shows or listen to music with swearing in them.

Just two years ago, I would be teased relentlessly because I feel awkward when I curse. (my friend literally pinned me down and said ‘(my name), say ****’)

It’s hard to stop when you’re surrounded by people who curse. You can start by speaking softer. It sounds silly but I find that those who tend to speak loudly and emotionally tend to curse more. You can also start filtering your thoughts more. Maybe try speaking in a more formal manner/basically changing the way you speak by tweaking random words. Practicing some restraint here and there can help ultimately because you’re used to thinking before saying. Also stop watching shows with constant swearing. Reduce your exposure as much as you can.
 
I don’t have friends anymore since I left my old school but I could try talking to my distant cousins? They are mostly older then me so idk. Does that sound good though?
 
And when you do swear, try to take notice of it in the moment. Just recognizing that you’re doing it as you’re doing it can help you to be able to start noticing it beforehand. Then you’ll be able to work on actually stopping. Maybe when you curse, just say a quick prayer to yourself. “Help me to stop, Lord.”

I’ve been working on my cussing due to road rage. It didn’t happen over night, but I’ve got it under control now. Mostly.
 
I used to have quite the potty mouth myself, but I can offer you the method that did just the trick for me! It’s like a swear jar, but instead of money, I’d pray one decade of the rosary for each swear word.
 
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Hello.

This may sound silly, but read Shakespeare. There’s nothing like being surrounded by beautiful words, and swear words are so ugly, unpoetic, and harsh that after a while you will want to hear more beautiful language. If you start to read Shakespeare it helps to have an audiobook so you can follow along with a copy of the play or the sonnet.

Opt for beauty in what you say, read and hear.

Tell your teachers you are offended by their language. If they make fun of you, tell your principal. A teacher is supposed to be instructing you.

Hope this helps.
 
Cursing is a difficult habit to break. Take time to think when you speak. Try not to curse when you break something or stub your toe.
 
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