I chose my confirmation saint out of haste

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A few years ago I was confirmed under the beautiful saint of St Francis of Assisi.

I understand that my confirmation is a once off only thing and that choosing a saint is a very special thing spiritually that cannot be redone.

Unfortunately, I chose my saint out of haste. I feel more closer to St Charbel Makhlouf of Lebananon.

Is this something I should worry about?
 
I think that it’s possible to have a “relationship” with any saint.

When I read the Bible, I feel closer to God, especially in the gospels. Yet I need a saint as a friend who can pray for me to calm my anxiety.

Any thoughts about this matter? Is this common?
 
You can pray to both saints. I would recommend that you do so.

Sometimes we don’t see the relevance of a saint to our lives until we are older, or the saint suddenly helps us at a time we’re least expecting it. That happened to me with my confirmation saint. For years I thought I chose a saint with little relevance to my life; then all of a sudden I realized I was wrong, but it took 40 years.

I have prayed to a number of saints in addition to her though, so there’s nothing wrong with you praying to St. Francis AND St. Charbel and any other saint you feel drawn to.

And yes, the saints are our friends and help pray for us and keep us company. That is one of the main reasons we have saints.
 
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You can pray to any number of Saints.
My confirmation saint is Saint Paul. But I pray to St. Jude, St. Gertrude, and others.
 
St Francis famously traveled to the Holy Land and met with Muslims… Perhaps you could concentrate on that aspect of his life and find something he had jn common with St Charbel, where both could guide you together.
 
I have a few saints that I pray to often, none of which is my confirmation saint.

I do like to pray a novena to my confirmation saint leading up to his feast day.
 
My confirmation saint was St Jude, patron saint of lost causes. At the time, I had recent returned to the church and had felt for the longest time as a lost cause. Now that I’m older and a father, St Joseph has a special place in my heart, especially the Holy Family. Either way, nothing wrong with having two saints in your corner.
 
My confirmation name is Mark. I chose Saint Mark because (1) he wrote a Gospel, (2) the Catholic High School closest to me at the time was St. Mark’s and (3) a cool & athletic dude I went to school with was named Mark.

So I thought it was a cool name to use.

Today - I would have most likely picked another Saint, like St. Thomas Aquinas or someone (not that there’s anything wrong with St. Mark).

These things happen and it’s nothing to worry about.

God bless
 
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I chose St. Therese of Lisieux mostly because she was (still is!) popular. I didn’t really feel any special affinity for her at the time, but neither did I for any other saint. Over the 15 years since then, however, there have been quite a number of ways in which I’ve noticed how St. Therese is an apt choice for me. I now have a particularly special place in my heart for her, having conceived my first child on her feast day after praying her novena, and after several years of infertility. So maybe even if you don’t currently feel especially drawn to your confirmation saint, you might in the future find some connections with him for your life situations.

On the flip side, I too now feel drawn more powerfully (in some ways) to other saints than to her - again, also because of various life situations that have come up. It’s good that there are so many saints that are patrons of various things and can help us out, and I don’t think it’s anything to worry about if you are feeling more connected to other saints than your confirmation saint.
 
It is nothing to worry about 🙂

You can ask any saint for prayers, and you can take any saint on as a spiritual companion for you to help you through your days. So if you want the intercession of St. Charbel, then pray to St Charbel!

I promise more good will come out of your confirmation Saint, St Francis, than you know at this time. I felt a similar anxiety not all that long ago–worrying I hadn’t picked my Confirmation saint (St Agnes!) for the right reasons, worrying I should’ve picked someone else. But you know what? This January, on her Feast Day, she intercessed powerfully in my spiritual life, which had a domino effect that months later really changed my life for the better!! So, know St Francis will always be praying for you and cares for you, and this will have fruits throughout your life that you may or may not see, but you may always pray to any other saint as well and there is absolutely no problem with that!
 
My confirmation “saint” wasn’t even a saint at the time. That did not come until April 27, 2014 (Pope Saint John XXIII).

I wouldn’t worry about this at all.
 
Not really. My patron Saint is Eugène de Mazenod, whom I picked for the specific reason, his full name includes my middle name, and my dad’s middle name. I spend a lot more time with our Lord and our Lady, that doesn’t mean I forget about him though I might not talk to him as much, but I still am very thankful for his prayers.
 
Faustina’s convent had a tradition where every January 1st, they would randomly draw a special patron saint for the coming year. I’ve done it myself, and the saints I’ve drawn have been remarkably pertinent toward my interests.

So— we can have a Confirmation saint, and that’s good, but we’re not limited to just one companion on our path. Other times, different saints may play a greater or lesser role in our lives as our needs and situations change. And still other times, a saint may be a special patron for a limited period-- such as at Faustina’s convent.
 
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