I don't know how I can help my Nan

[Harriet]

My Nan is very ill, she used to be such an independent woman and now she is bed bound. Illness has made her bitter and so she has turned to drink, she drinks often and frequently. The thing is, alcohol has a very bad effect on her, it makes her say bad things so nobody goes to see her anymore. My Uncle and his family have disowned her and don’t speak to any of us. The only friend she has is somebody who just pretends to be her friend for money. My Mum despises her. Lately though, I hate going, I love her but it is so difficult when she is drunk and says such terrible things. Last time I went she went into a horrible rant about why she’d cut me out of her will if I ever dared go out with a black man, I found it offensive and upsetting.

She is not even remotely religious and when I try to share my new found love of God with her hoping it may bring her help she sneers and asks me if I’m joining a convent.

She never used to be like this, she was once a very happy person and I have always been close to her.

I haven’t been to see her for near two months now, she phoned me yesterday and I just put the phone down because she was drunk. She asks to see me but the thought of going fills me with dread. I don’t know what I can do to help her anymore, I’ve tried so hard but it is like she has just given up on life altogether.

I worry she will go to Hell because she abuses drink and has no faith.

 

[Lisa4Catholics]

Pray and pray hard, Go and see her stop at he Church and pray. Get everyone you know to pray for her I will pray for her. The abuse of alcohol can open the door to the demonic so she my very well be demonically oppressed. If you want a link for spiritual warfare pm me and I will send you the link. God Bless

 

[monica_fan]

Hi Harriet,
This is so sad for all of you. Could you tell your grandma that you will come visit her when she hasn’t been drinking? Then when you call to come over, ask her if she has been drinking before you come. Does she like pets and little children? If so and if she’s sober you may be able to cheer her up by bringing them. Also most older people love to reminisce about old times. Try to get her talking about those times. You could bring a journal and write down her memories to put in a memory book for the family. It will also help to make her feel important. I’ll be praying that she softens so you can talk to her about your love for God.

Harriet:

My Nan is very ill, she used to be such an independent woman and now she is bed bound. Illness has made her bitter and so she has turned to drink, she drinks often and frequently. The thing is, alcohol has a very bad effect on her, it makes her say bad things so nobody goes to see her anymore. My Uncle and his family have disowned her and don’t speak to any of us. The only friend she has is somebody who just pretends to be her friend for money. My Mum despises her. Lately though, I hate going, I love her but it is so difficult when she is drunk and says such terrible things. Last time I went she went into a horrible rant about why she’d cut me out of her will if I ever dared go out with a black man, I found it offensive and upsetting.

She is not even remotely religious and when I try to share my new found love of God with her hoping it may bring her help she sneers and asks me if I’m joining a convent.

She never used to be like this, she was once a very happy person and I have always been close to her.

I haven’t been to see her for near two months now, she phoned me yesterday and I just put the phone down because she was drunk. She asks to see me but the thought of going fills me with dread. I don’t know what I can do to help her anymore, I’ve tried so hard but it is like she has just given up on life altogether.

I worry she will go to Hell because she abuses drink and has no faith.