I don't want to offend my family but

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Lately, I have been trying to not buy anything on Sundays. My aunt informed me that this coming Sunday we are having a birthday party for my grandfather at a local pizza place. Everyone will be going back to my Uncle’s house afterwards so I do have the option of just waiting until then to visit. However, my family doesn’t understand, nor care for my convictions on the matter and it would be causing some strife if I decide not go to dinner. I’m not sure if it would be sinful for me to go out with them this Sunday or not. What would you do in my place?
 
Where in Church teachings do you find any prohibition against joining in a family celebration at a restaurant on a Sunday?! I would say that is a marvelous way to spend a Sunday–enjoying the fellowship of your extended family over a meal. You have overworked this in your mind and twisted a good thing into something you consider questionable. Go to the dinner and enjoy every minute with your relatives!
 
I would go to the party. I think honoring your grandfather in this way is a lot different than just going out to a department store and shopping for clothes, for example.

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I commend you for refraining from shopping or buying things on Sunday because you feel called to that witness to Keep Holy the Sabbath. In this situation, however, I would definitely attend the party. Not to do so would demonstrate an alarmingly similar attitude to those priests and scribes who challenged Jesus for healing on the Sabbath.

“The Sabbath was created for man, not man for the Sabbath.”
In other words, don’t let your efforts to “keep holy the Sabbath” interfere with your ability to do good, wholesome thing and be Christ to your family.
 
Just a thought-maybe you could buy a gift certificate to the restaurant before Sunday and then use it to pay for your meal. Then, you wouldn’t be buying anything on Sunday and you’d still be able to spend time with your family without going against your convictions.

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Go to the birthday party and celebrate your grandpa’s birthday! 🙂
Have fun!

The Catechism lists going to a restaurant as a traditional activity for Sundays, its ok to go, especially if its for a family gathering!

2187 Sanctifying Sundays and holy days requires a common effort. Every Christian should avoid making unnecessary demands on others that would hinder them from observing the Lord’s Day. Traditional activities (sport, restaurants, etc.), and social necessities (public services, etc.), require some people to work on Sundays, but everyone should still take care to set aside sufficient time for leisure. With temperance and charity the faithful will see to it that they avoid the excesses and violence sometimes associated with popular leisure activities. In spite of economic constraints, public authorities should ensure citizens a time intended for rest and divine worship. Employers have a similar obligation toward their employees.
 
Your heart is in the right place but you haven’t thought this out. To buy a meal on Sunday to honor your grandfather is not a frivolous and unnecessary purchase. You’re not going shopping, you’re celbrating the gift of life.

How blessed you are that your grandfather is still alive, and that your family is close enough to want to celebrate his life.

My grandpa died when I was nine years old. That was forty-three years ago and I still miss him. Go, rejoice, and praise the Lord.
 
Go. I almost didn’t go to my grandmother’s 86th birthday party last year (I wasn’t feeling well that morning). Now I’m glad that I did. She passed away less than a month later, and that party was the last time I saw her in a conscious state.
 
I was always taught, in circumstances like this, that CHARITY is the greatest virtue.

It is charity that drives you to refrain from shopping on Sunday (which is wonderful- we do the same), but that same charity should prompt you to go to your grandfather’s party.

If I go home to visit and we go out to eat on a Sunday, or someone makes plans for my family to attend an event on a Sunday (like on Mother’s Day or something) I will attend, because it is the more charitable thing to do. I don’t normally shop on Sunday, though.
 
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Your heart is in the right place but you haven’t thought this out. To buy a meal on Sunday to honor your grandfather is not a frivolous and unnecessary purchase. You’re not going shopping, you’re celbrating the gift of life.

How blessed you are that your grandfather is still alive, and that your family is close enough to want to celebrate his life.

My grandpa died when I was nine years old. That was forty-three years ago and I still miss him. Go, rejoice, and praise the Lord.
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I say go too, I never got to meet either of my Grandfather’s,… (YET)… they both had passed on before I was even born. I commend you for wanting to offer the Lord’s day completely to Him and I think it’s great too when we do whatever we can on the other six days, however, it’s a joyous time, birthdays, and I know your grandfather would miss you if you weren’t there. God would certainly understand and I doubt seriously that it could in any way be sinful.
 
Thanks for the replys everyone! I really did not think the whole thing out. Thank you. I suppose the reason for my scrupolosity towards this matter is that use to have to work every single Sunday, and my family has made Sunday their day to go out shopping and do heavy cleaning around the house. It’s kind of a battle for me because this issue comes up a lot. “Should I go out with my mother, or risk her being angry with me”…etc… Things like that.
 
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