I had four abortions by the age of 17

[gam197]

This sad story just shows how young people use abortion as a form of contraception. Peer pressure is strong and they don’t want to be isolated and alone so they have sex.

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From article…

Dental nurse Louise Kelly is eagerly looking forward to the day she becomes a mother. Engaged to a hospital doctor, the 23-year-old is already planning their wedding and talks of possibly having a ‘honeymoon baby’.

The only thing casting a shadow over these happy preparations is the guilt Louise constantly carries over the four babies she aborted when she was a teenager - the first when she was only 14, two when she was 16 and the final one when she was 17.

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• ‘More than 100 teenage girls a month have multiple abortions’
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Dental nurse Louise Kelly is eagerly looking forward to the day she becomes a mother. Engaged to a hospital doctor, the 23-year-old is already planning their wedding and talks of possibly having a ‘honeymoon baby’.

The only thing casting a shadow over these happy preparations is the guilt Louise constantly carries over the four babies she aborted when she was a teenager - the first when she was only 14, two when she was 16 and the final one when she was 17.

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• ‘More than 100 teenage girls a month have multiple abortions’
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Second article on number of girls having multiple abortions.

dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/health/healthmain.html?in_article_id=424256&in_page_id=1774

 

[catsrus]

This is awful but, in my experience, too true.
I know personally 3 women who have had multiple abortions - and not all when they were teens either.
Unfortunately, none of these women I know feel one iota of guilt or sorrow. It was “the wrong time” or “the wrong guy” or some other “me, me, me” excuse.
Interestingly, 2 of these women had difficulty carrying a baby when they finally decided to not abort one. For two of the women, there were multiple complications.
The other woman has had 5 abortions and no children. She is 51 years old now and quite pleased with herself for having made “the correct choices” for herself.

 

[Jennifer123]

This is awful but, in my experience, too true.
I know personally 3 women who have had multiple abortions - and not all when they were teens either.
Unfortunately, none of these women I know feel one iota of guilt or sorrow. It was “the wrong time” or “the wrong guy” or some other “me, me, me” excuse.
Interestingly, 2 of these women had difficulty carrying a baby when they finally decided to not abort one. For two of the women, there were multiple complications.
The other woman has had 5 abortions and no children. She is 51 years old now and quite pleased with herself for having made “the correct choices” for herself.

Yes, these girls will have a tough time getting pregnant and keeping a baby to term. It’s no coincidence that premature births have skyrocketed since the legalization of abortion. But PP and the scientific community don’t tell them these risks and put a lot of pressure not to research these findings further.

 

[apricot_yogurt]

A friend of mine has had 6 to date, including an ectopic and two children. I wish we still knew that sex=babies.

 

[deb1]

Oh wow! I’ve never known of anyone that had more then one abortion and most of the women that I know of had tremedous sorrow and regret.

The only woman who I know who didn’t express remorse was a woman that my hubby worked with. She lived with a man that she refused to wed because she didn’t like men(don’t ask me why she lived with the man if she disliked men) My hubby used to return home annoyed because she could spend all day speaking poorly of men and his superior would not stop her.

Anyway the same woman told my hubby that when she left her husband that she aborted their baby without telling him. She said it was better for her and her unborn child.

Very odd reasoning.

 

[masondoggy]

I had a friend that had 4 (that I knew of). What made me so angry about it is that when I first met her I had just had a miscarriage and she told me about the 3 “miscarriages” that she had had. We talked a lot about what we went through. It felt good to finally talk to someone who had “BTDT”.

Then a few years later, after we had lost contact, I found out that she was pg and scheduled to abort. I tried to call her and talk her out of it, but I called too late. She had just gotten home from the abortion clinic when I called. It wasn’t until that happened that I found out that her “miscarriages” were really abortions. I felt very betrayed.

I haven’t talked to her in years and often wonder if she has regrets. I can’t imagine carrying that on my conscience…

 

[GregoryPalamas]

St. Athanasius wrote in “The Divine Dilemma” that the fall caused a slow death of the human race in which many have fallen to the level of beasts. It is true that many lower animals kill and or eat their own offspring. It is a very sad day when we see creatures who look like humans who are actually beasts.

CDL

 

[Ecce_homo_1]

I know a married couple who had an abortion so they could “honeymoon” a little longer. The guy owns his own business his parents gave to him and makes well over $150,000 a year. He told me this like it wasn’t anything, it’s sad but this is what it is now, a means of birth control.

 

[Lil_M]

If I have to hear “It’s a woman’s choice” ONE more time…

Yep it’s her choice all right- her choice to put herself at risk for pregnancy. And if you are pregnant there are still choices! Adoption or parenthood.

That is why I hate being called “anti-choice”! Just another catchword to cover up the truth. Jan. 28 is the 18th anniversary of Canada’s abortion law being struck down. What a great stride in women’s rights

 

[Hastrman]

I wish we still knew that sex=babies.

Apparently 40% of Americans think abstinence is not the best form of birth control. Not to offend, but…are Virgin Births not as miraculous as we thought they were?

My dad insists, with childlike faith, that they must have meant best all-around, as in “easiest and nicest to use.” But sometimes I don’t know.

I can’t even get into all the problems with even one abortion–other than moral, there are medical and mystical problems, too. Multiple abortions…blech.

 

[Holly3278]

Wow that is incredibly sad. Four abortions before even turning 17. Do these children not realize that abortion is murder?

 

[LittleRose]

A friend of mine has had 6 to date, including an ectopic and two children.

At this point in time the technology is not available to save babies in ectopic pregnancies (this is when the baby implants in the fallopian tube instead of in the uterus). The baby will inevitably die. Sometimes, if left alone, the fallopian tube will rupture and kill the mother as well.

When a woman is treated for an ectopic pregnancy, the baby does die as a result, but the Chruch does not place this in the same category as an abortion, because the death of the child is not the direct intent of the medical treatment, but rather a tragic secondary effect.

Hopefully, one day, we will be able to move these babies to the womb, so they can complete their development.

Interestingly, previous abortions and certain STD’s can increase a woman’s risk of having an ectopic pregnancy.

 

[tamccrackine]

I had a friend that had 4 (that I knew of). What made me so angry about it is that when I first met her I had just had a miscarriage and she told me about the 3 “miscarriages” that she had had. We talked a lot about what we went through. It felt good to finally talk to someone who had “BTDT”.

Then a few years later, after we had lost contact, I found out that she was pg and scheduled to abort. I tried to call her and talk her out of it, but I called too late. She had just gotten home from the abortion clinic when I called. It wasn’t until that happened that I found out that her “miscarriages” were really abortions. I felt very betrayed.

I haven’t talked to her in years and often wonder if she has regrets. I can’t imagine carrying that on my conscience…

Sounds like she needs a friend. Most women that have had mulitiple abortions will describe them as miscarriages if they feel just a twinge of regret… which is like the crack in the dam. Eventually the emotional trauma will catch up and she’ll need someone to help her. Give her info to Rachel Vineyard retreats. (let her know that if/when she ever wants to talk about it, she can contact them because those retreats are very healing). Most women are in such denial that they really do try everything to cover it up.

I had two and it took ten years for me to come to grips with what I had done. I hated myself the second I did the first and wanted to die right after the second. Don’t ask what kept me from committing suicide because I don’t know. I told mysel for the longest time that it was the best thing I could have done because I wasn’t ready (and yes, the typical pro-life responses ran through my head but I’d “out-justify” my responses.) Eventually, it just got to me. Whenever someone would talk about miscarriages, I’d tell them I’ve had two. Then that started to bother me because it wasn’t miscarriages and ya know… I knew it. I was hiding.

I finally came to grips and fell to my knees to admit what I had done. It’s just like an alcoholic… overcoming denial is the first step. I finally went on a retreat and holy cow… the healing got to start! My biggest problem that I’m facing right now is trying to forgive my mother because she’s supposed to be a devout Catholic but refuses to apologize for telling me abortion is the only answer otherwise she’d disown me. Even now, 13 years after my first abortion, she insists it was the right thing to do, denies any suffering I endured from the pain and grief of what I’d done at her insistence, and she says she’s Catholic (she’s an EME in her parish) but she’s so pro-abortion it makes me so stinkin’ angry whenever she starts to talk in her women’s group of how pro-life she is. (Only publicly is she pro-life, but privately, she’d rather help someone get an abortion than to really help them)… sorry… you can see my anger.

Do I feel horrible for my past? Yes. Am I embarrassed by it? Oh yeah. But I won’t hide because the more I talk about it, the more others that may find themselves in a similiar situation can gain knowledge… or even better, NOT have that abortion they’re contemplating.

Anyway… I feel for the women that have used abortion as a form of birth control. I understand their “justifying” it because they really do feel as if there is no other “choice.” Seriously… you feel as if you have no other choice. Unfortunately, fear is the biggest motivator and when you don’t have an iota of support, you’re inclinded to do what is the easiest without thinking.

So pray for these women that Christ will break through to them to let them start healing. And pray that when they do finally begin a family, they don’t have complications or develop an abuse problem with their first born (it happens because of that underlying, untreated grief).

 

[Grace_Angel]

Oh wow! I’ve never known of anyone that had more then one abortion and most of the women that I know of had tremedous sorrow and regret.

The only woman who I know who didn’t express remorse was a woman that my hubby worked with. She lived with a man that she refused to wed because she didn’t like men(don’t ask me why she lived with the man if she disliked men) My hubby used to return home annoyed because she could spend all day speaking poorly of men and his superior would not stop her.

Anyway the same woman told my hubby that when she left her husband that she aborted their baby without telling him. She said it was better for her and her unborn child.

Very odd reasoning.

Hello Deb,
I would suggest that the woman you are speaking about has morfe issues that hurt her deeply than the abortion. The abortion is a long line of self destructive acts because she has so much pain within her. Tell your husband (if he still works with her) that her ill talk is her way of coping with abuse in her life. Tell her to forgive her lot on behalf of the men in her life who have wounded her deeply and maybe pray for her. I dont want to diagnose on line but there are other deep wounds affecting her behaviour.
GraceAngel.

 

[deb1]

Hello Deb,
I would suggest that the woman you are speaking about has morfe issues that hurt her deeply than the abortion. The abortion is a long line of self destructive acts because she has so much pain within her. Tell your husband (if he still works with her) that her ill talk is her way of coping with abuse in her life. Tell her to forgive her lot on behalf of the men in her life who have wounded her deeply and maybe pray for her. I dont want to diagnose on line but there are other deep wounds affecting her behaviour.
GraceAngel.

I included all the information on her, both her abortion and her dislike of men, because I thought that it might all be interrelated somehow.

Hubby no longer works with her, but I have prayed for her before. Maybe she will come to terms with whatever is causing her pain.

 

[JamesN]

I was in a relationship for several years during which my partner underwent a number of terminations for various reasons, all of them utterly selfish. Each time, we told ourselves that it was ok because it was legal. We hid under the petticoats of the law, trying to conceal what we did from God, and from ourselves. But, as so many people find out to their cost, there is in fact no hiding place from something like this. Something eventually has to give, and only by finally focusing on the Lord and what He wanted for our lives did we eventually manage to get away from the destructiveness and the misery. Yet deep regret at having been party to such acts is still an everyday emotion. The memory never leaves us, and is probably made worse by the fact that we went on to have two beautiful children who have enriched our lives and brought happiness beyond measure. I often wonder why the Lord chose to bless us so when we had grieved Him so much in the past. Now, to anybody considering going down that road, we say that it leads to a dark, dark place that they should try to avoid at all costs. No matter how bleak your situation may be, no matter how many problems having a(nother) child in your life is going to bring, killing him or her in order to avoid them definitely isn’t the solution. Instead, pray often, pray fervently, and listen for the Lord’s voice. Trust in Him. He will honour your commitment to His word and give you the help you need.

Thanks for being here.

 

[gam197]

originally posted by** JamesN**
I was in a relationship for several years during which my partner underwent a number of terminations for various reasons, all of them utterly selfish. Each time, we told ourselves that it was ok because it was legal. We hid under the petticoats of the law, trying to conceal what we did from God, and from ourselves. But, as so many people find out to their cost, there is in fact no hiding place from something like this. Something eventually has to give, and only by finally focusing on the Lord and what He wanted for our lives did we eventually manage to get away from the destructiveness and the misery. Yet deep regret at having been party to such acts is still an everyday emotion. The memory never leaves us, and is probably made worse by the fact that we went on to have two beautiful children who have enriched our lives and brought happiness beyond measure. I often wonder why the Lord chose to bless us so when we had grieved Him so much in the past. Now, to anybody considering going down that road, we say that it leads to a dark, dark place that they should try to avoid at all costs. No matter how bleak your situation may be, no matter how many problems having a(nother) child in your life is going to bring, killing him or her in order to avoid them definitely isn’t the solution. Instead, pray often, pray fervently, and listen for the Lord’s voice. Trust in Him. He will honour your commitment to His word and give you the help you need.

Welcome to the forums! Thank you for that beautiful testimony. God has blessed and will continue to bless you because he saw the pain and the love you had.

Again thanks!

 

[tamccrackine]

I was in a relationship for several years during which my partner underwent a number of terminations for various reasons, all of them utterly selfish. Each time, we told ourselves that it was ok because it was legal. We hid under the petticoats of the law, trying to conceal what we did from God, and from ourselves. But, as so many people find out to their cost, there is in fact no hiding place from something like this. Something eventually has to give, and only by finally focusing on the Lord and what He wanted for our lives did we eventually manage to get away from the destructiveness and the misery. Yet deep regret at having been party to such acts is still an everyday emotion. The memory never leaves us, and is probably made worse by the fact that we went on to have two beautiful children who have enriched our lives and brought happiness beyond measure. I often wonder why the Lord chose to bless us so when we had grieved Him so much in the past. Now, to anybody considering going down that road, we say that it leads to a dark, dark place that they should try to avoid at all costs. No matter how bleak your situation may be, no matter how many problems having a(nother) child in your life is going to bring, killing him or her in order to avoid them definitely isn’t the solution. Instead, pray often, pray fervently, and listen for the Lord’s voice. Trust in Him. He will honour your commitment to His word and give you the help you need.

Thanks for being here.

check out www.rachelsvineyard.org. Their retreats are well worth it! I understand your pain and grief… I live it all the time as well. To an extent, my DH (who is the father of the second aborted baby), doesn’t see it the way I see it (he’s not Catholic and according to him we “did what we had to do at that time.”) He sees my grief and pain but he’s said that I’ve gotten too religious about being pro-life. And of course he sees the pain my mother causes when I see her handing out Communion while still espousing her pro-abortion rhetoric.

And welcome to the forums!!

 

[Grace_Angel]

I included all the information on her, both her abortion and her dislike of men, because I thought that it might all be interrelated somehow.

Hubby no longer works with her, but I have prayed for her before. Maybe she will come to terms with whatever is causing her pain.

Hello Deb1, please continue praying for her and maybe getting others to pray for her. (just by first name only God knows who it is). If it is what I thinking about, she CAN’T come to terms with the problem by herself. All the signs are there that there is a major type of abuse in her life.
Maybe pray that God will send the right person to lead her towards full healing.
God Bless
Grace Angel.

 

[masondoggy]

Sounds like she needs a friend. Most women that have had mulitiple abortions will describe them as miscarriages if they feel just a twinge of regret… which is like the crack in the dam. Eventually the emotional trauma will catch up and she’ll need someone to help her. Give her info to Rachel Vineyard retreats. (let her know that if/when she ever wants to talk about it, she can contact them because those retreats are very healing). Most women are in such denial that they really do try everything to cover it up.

Just to clarify, I didn’t stop talking to her because of her abortions. We just sort of lost touch, I guess. I wouldn’t end a friendship over something like that. I really wish that we had stayed in contact so maybe I would get a chance to help her with her grief.

I sort of feel that I failed her because I was her RCIA sponsor. I suspect that she stopped attending Mass and I should have been there to encourage her to go back. But I didn’t.