I have suffered hatred from my own friend

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The fact that man is flawed and sins.

“For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God” -Saint Paul
 
Sometimes the truth leads to hatred. When you point out the truth to some people they will hate you for it because they are not ready to hear the truth. Jesus told the truth and was hated and crucified for it.
 
Your friend is the only one who knows why he/she hated you so ask him/her. That is … if you still consider that person a friend.
 
Seeing things in others that they do not like about themselves.
 
Sometimes people, especially a friend, feels close enough to you to let their inhibitions let go a little and show some emotion. On top of that, emotion can be overwhelming and just sweeps you out to sea with the strong undertow, you just go with it sometimes. Ever been super crabby and not even know why you’re snappy? Happens to me all the time! Turn the tables, let’s say you were the one having a bad day and for whatever reason, reacted out of emotion and said and did something mean to your friend. As much as you’d like to forget about it, being forgiven of your hurtful outburst would make you want to keep that friend, especially if he or she is willing to accept you for being nasty from time to time. Perhaps extend that forgiveness to your friend, mention something non-chalant as … “I know you wouldn’t be hateful to me on purpose, seems like you had a really bad day the other day” … laying under these words are, “I forgive you” and instead of saying “you did this to me”, defer nicely and blame it on the bad day, even though it was your friend having that day.

Maybe this event, similar events in the past, and interactions in the future are what is needed to bond the friendship into something stronger … as we know, using love and charity, we will always experience more good from an evil situation than the evil itself.

forgive, blame it on a bad day, and be the friend you would want to have.
 
I agree. Instead of asking a bunch of strangers why your friend suddenly hates you, why don’t you ask your friend. (unless you are looking for a pat on the back and a “attaboy”)
 
Did you say something, did you express an unpopular opinion? Did you insult them? Until we know what exactly has happened, we cannot possibly be of any help.

It’s true that some people seemingly hate for no discernible reason. But more often than not it’s because you have said or done something they don’t like.

We live in a fallen world so expect negative energy.

If you are saying and doing things in the world, then you have to expect as a matter of principle that some people are not going to like you.It doesn’t mean that you have done anything wrong, it’s just that people want what they want and if what you want conflicts with what they want then their might be a conflict of interest.
 
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I know what you mean. My weakness (among many others) is that I am very unforgiving. Someone does something to me or my family/friends, I hate them forever. So I know what you mean. Age has dulled some of it, but you aren’t alone. Frequent prayer and confession helps, but it’s just something you need to learn to control.
 
How do you define hate?
Did your friend wish you would drop dead and go to Hell for all eternity?
Or was it a disagreement over an issue?
Or something in-between?
 
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