I Kissed Dating Goodbye

[Ridgerunner]

I would love to date…finding a single Catholic man is a problem…

Sometimes on here you hear the same complaint from young men…finding Catholic women. There have been a lot of things said; suggestions of this or that, some of them sounded plausible, some not.

I am years and years past my dating years, but I still felt some of my suggestions to young men were valid. I have no clue for young women, but surely someone does.

One thing I did learn in those other threads was that a lot of young men will not hazard a “cold call” approach to a young woman, that is, approaching a young woman you don’t know at all, totally out of the blue, getting acquainted and then asking her out. For some reason a lot of young men don’t seem to think they ought to do it. Possibly young men fear rejection more than was once the case, or don’t think they could stand it if it happened. Struck me as very strange, because that was once just part of it. You risked. I don’t know why so many young men seem reticent to risk now.

 

[Methos]

There is a Catholic book, I don’t remember the exact title, Dating in an Oversexed World written by a Catholic priest. I think it is written for dating, as an adult. If I remember it also has planning a catholic wedding in it. Caution: There is some adult content and I would not recommend this to a younger person.

I read both of these 7-8 years ago…so my memory is a little fuzzy.

The correct title is “Christian Courtship in an Oversexed World: A Guide for Catholics” and it’s by Thomas G. Morrow.

 

[DarkLight]

Sometimes on here you hear the same complaint from young men…finding Catholic women. There have been a lot of things said; suggestions of this or that, some of them sounded plausible, some not.

I am years and years past my dating years, but I still felt some of my suggestions to young men were valid. I have no clue for young women, but surely someone does.

One thing I did learn in those other threads was that a lot of young men will not hazard a “cold call” approach to a young woman, that is, approaching a young woman you don’t know at all, totally out of the blue, getting acquainted and then asking her out. For some reason a lot of young men don’t seem to think they ought to do it. Possibly young men fear rejection more than was once the case, or don’t think they could stand it if it happened. Struck me as very strange, because that was once just part of it. You risked. I don’t know why so many young men seem reticent to risk now.

It probably doesn’t help that a lot of young men have no idea how. And perhaps young women are more suspicious. As a young woman who’s out by herself a lot, I get one or two guys approaching me a week. Many are overtly crude; even the ones that aren’t often become rude or hostile if their advances aren’t accepted. I’ve gotten into the habit of just not engaging young men I don’t know in conversation, because I don’t want yet another polite discussion turning into someone asking me what’s wrong, why am I so “frigid”, and telling me how I just need to loosen up and get laid.