I lost my friend overcoming with God

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Hello, I would like to know your opinion, why God allowed so hard situation in my life. I had a friend. She was a woman. We weren’ t dating nor thinking of it, because she was much older and she was a Lutheran. We were in contact for 5 months. We were calling and sending SMS each other. I was going through a hard period in my life and she helped my by talking to her. We both have problems with depression, so she understood me and gave me advices to overcome it. In that time of our contact I felt that I have someone by me, that helps me, because I had nobody. A month ago, she wrote me that she would like to cancell our contact.I had to accept it. That changed my life I have problems with my duties. I was thinking of suicide. I would like to ask you which prayer, saint will me help I can not stop thinking of past or her. I feel constantly pain. I am just a catechumen. I would like to ask why God allowed so painfull situation in my life Thanks
 
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Sorry to hear of your struggles V100.im going to say my Rosary now ,so will include you and your intentions in them .God bless .You can pray to St Dympna to help.
 
Your parish has many people, I would imagine that most of them are friendly!

Join a group or volunteer at your parish. Getting involved with others is often helpful in battling depression.
 
Try the novena “Mary Undoer of Knots.” That you shared your problems is good to an extent, but perhaps it was also stressful for your friend. This may be her best recourse and may be under advisement to ‘cut the cord’ from her Dr/therapist. Consider her needs rather than just your own. Pray for her.
 
Maybe join a support group for depression or for those who’ve experienced loss?
 
Relationship loss can be difficult . the bible says "guard your heart because out of it come the issues of life.
Be careful who you bond to.
 
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This may be her best recourse and may be under advisement to ‘cut the cord’ from her Dr/therapist. Consider her needs rather than just your own. Pray for her.
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I am really sorry, that I stressed her. I did not realised at that time that I stress her a lot. I apologised her for that and she said I have nothing to apologise for, I said her at farewell it is up to her whether she will contact me one day. Yes, I pray for her every evening that God may guard her that she would be healed from endogenous depression and that we meet up in heaven. Thanks for prayer I ll try it.
 
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Vianney100 said:
Hello, I would like to know your opinion, why God allowed so hard situation in my life. I had a friend. She was a woman. We weren’ t dating nor thinking of it, because she was much older and she was a Lutheran. We were in contact for 5 months. We were calling and sending SMS each other. I was going through a hard period in my life and she helped my by talking to her. We both have problems with depression, so she understood me and gave me advices to overcome it. In that time of our contact I felt that I have someone by me, that helps me, because I had nobody. A month ago, she wrote me that she would like to cancell our contact.I had to accept it. That changed my life I have problems with my duties. I was thinking of suicide. I would like to ask you which prayer, saint will me help I can not stop thinking of past or her. I feel constantly pain. I am just a catechumen. I would like to ask why God allowed so painfull situation in my life Thanks
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First of all, before doing anything drastic, speak to your doctor.

When suffering with severe depression we can become deeply attached to someone who shows kindness, especially if it’s a women. It’s nice to have someone care about you. But you have to understand that humans are not perfect and cannot always serve our needs. That’s why it’s important to build our self-esteem on the foundation of God and not another human being. I don’t know why this girl has ceased contact, but she did like you otherwise she would not have spoke to you. Take the good times, try not to focus on the negative feelings, and look at it as a growing pain in your self-development, see it as an event on your journey through life. It is only the end of a chapter, not the end of your life. Build upon the good things and learn from the bad.

God bless you, you will be in my prayers. Don’t let the negative thoughts win. Your existence has infinite value.
 
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Maybe unknowingly, one or both of you became more depressed?
 
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