I made my mom angry by telling her to go to confession

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My mom hasn’t confessed for around 30 years, the last of which was during her marriage. She is a good woman, but I’m concerned that she still partakes the Eucharist knowing that she has missed masses along those 30 years.

I’ve always reminded her to go to confession when missing Sunday masses since mortal sin adds when you partake the Eucharist unworthily. Just earlier I reminded her again and she got mad at me, saying that God will forgive her even if she doesn’t receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

Was it my fault for telling her to do so? I feel guilty.
 
Why is that? I’m just concerned and care about her salvation. Would you care to explain? Who would tell her then?
 
You’ve done your Catholic duty by telling your mom, more than once, that if she’s going to be receiving Holy Eucharist then she should be going to confession and not remaining away from confession for 30 years.

I think, given that she got upset, you got your point across and she heard you.

Now is the time for you to let it drop and just pray for her.

If you are going to confession yourself at some point you might invite her to come with you. If she says no, don’t push. Pushing is not going to help and moms don’t like to be lectured by their kids.

Harping on “mortal sin” is a particularly bad way to get anyone to go to confession. Back when I was regularly committing grave sins, I cut friends off and never spoke to them again, for much less judgmental remarks.
 
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It’s normal to feel guilty in a case such as this about reminding your Mother of the very important necessity of receiving the Sacrament of Reconciliation, but as with Tis_Bearself, I also feel that you did the right thing. The state of your Mother’s soul for all eternity is much more important than just about anything else you might ever remind her of. I’ve had to live with this type of decision regarding a close family member as well, and they also got very upset to hear my thoughts - which resulted in a lot of anger being displayed. It was a terribly hurtful experience for me, to say the least. After several attempts, I had to hand the situation over to God and pray even more fervently for them. When I mentioned my feelings of guilt and anguish to a Priest, he told me to try to concentrate on their good traits - and PRAY! I also kept reminding myself that every one of us is a sinner in various ways. I pleaded with Our Blessed Mother as well as St. Monica (and some other Saints, too!) for their intercession and assistance. It took a few very long years, but my prayers were answered in a beautiful way, and that person now seems to realize how vital Confession is and does partake of its many blessings and mercy. Our Lord’s time frame is much different than ours, and sometimes we won’t even see the fruit of all of our prayers here on this earth, but we will see the results one day when we meet God! Our Lord’s peace to you always.
 
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If you gave your mom advice to confess and repent with charity and humility, I am sure that there is nothing wrong. I also must commend that you did tell her that and warn her, because that takes some bravery. But, we should all advise each other, warn each other, edify each other, and love each other.
Pray for your mom, and whenever you get the desire to correct/advise her, do it with love, peace and humility. She most definitely will see your love for her, I believe that. Remember the verse, let your light shine before others that they may glorify God.
God be with you and your family, and bless you.
Praised be Jesus and Mary!
 
Thanks for getting your point across this thread! God bless, will keep that in mind.
 
Blessings! Thanks for your insight and sharing of your personal realizations. Will pray. This gave me a clearer mindset on peaceful encouragement to Christians who have strayed away from the sacrament. May His peace be with you!
 
Encouraging people to repent, to confess can’t possibly a bad thing. If done in honest love and humility, what is wrong with advising your parent to confess and change their ways?
But, seriously, if I am wrong, correct me, maybe I am not getting something right.
 
What you say is true, but in this case the Op mentioned that:
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Just earlier I reminded her again
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So they have already mentioned at least once that their mother should go to confession. It’s time to move aside, continue to pray, and let the Holy Spirit move the mother’s heart to repentance.
 
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