I need help with my son

[ivonneperla]

What can I do to avoid my son to become “Protestant” ? Since I married a “Protestant” man totally Fundamentalist Baptist and I disappointed him the day I told him I don’t go to church with him anymore but my 8 years old son I am raising him all I possible “Catholic” but we have bible reading at home thing that anyway a good Catholic should do but sometimes we should go to my husband’s church for some activities my son begs me for not going but if I don’t do it at least for important dates like “Church anniversary” or things like that my marriage will fall apart, I try to tell my son to be careful and if he has any question I am ready to answer but he says he does like sometimes what the Pastor preaches ( He is a really good preacher) kinda confuses him but right after I talk to him he does say he is not anymore, what should I do, I don’t want him to be Protestant …

 

[Cavaradossi]

What can I do to avoid my son to become “Protestant” ? Since I married a “Protestant” man totally Fundamentalist Baptist and I disappointed him the day I told him I don’t go to church with him anymore but my 8 years old son I am raising him all I possible “Catholic” but we have bible reading at home thing that anyway a good Catholic should do but sometimes we should go to my husband’s church for some activities my son begs me for not going but if I don’t do it at least for important dates like “Church anniversary” or things like that my marriage will fall apart, I try to tell my son to be careful and if he has any question I am ready to answer but he says he does like sometimes what the Pastor preaches ( He is a really good preacher) kinda confuses him but right after I talk to him he does say he is not anymore, what should I do, I don’t want him to be Protestant …

Honestly, and I don’t say this to be mean, I think that your question is beyond the ability of people on this forum to answer. From the language that you used to describe your situation, I think you should likely seek help from somebody more qualified (like a priest or a marriage counselor) on how you should best handle this situation. The last thing that anybody wants is that your marriage or your precious relationship with your son would be destroyed over you taking advice from somebody on this forum whom you don’t even know.

 

[ivonneperla]

Honestly, and I don’t say this to be mean, I think that your question is beyond the ability of people on this forum to answer. From the language that you used to describe your situation, I think you should likely seek help from somebody more qualified (like a priest or a marriage counselor) on how you should best handle this situation. The last thing that anybody wants is that your marriage or your precious relationship with your son would be destroyed over you taking advice from somebody on this forum whom you don’t even know.

THANK YOU BUT THE POINT IS LOOKING FOR THATTYPE OF ADVISE IT IS NOT TO BE MEAN…I DON’R FEEL OFFENSE AT ALL

 

[CountrySteve]

Honestly, and I don’t say this to be mean, I think that your question is beyond the ability of people on this forum to answer. From the language that you used to describe your situation, I think you should likely seek help from somebody more qualified (like a priest or a marriage counselor) on how you should best handle this situation. The last thing that anybody wants is that your marriage or your precious relationship with your son would be destroyed over you taking advice from somebody on this forum whom you don’t even know.

i agree

 

[Bluegoat]

Remember that this isn’t something that you can force, one way or the other. Your son has free will and will ultimately make his own decisions. And God is the one who is really able to act on our hearts and minds.

And remember to count your blessings - he could become a militant atheist or something. Being a Baptist would look pretty good compared to that.

In general I would say, never run down your husband or his beliefs to your son. I think that can do more damage than many other things. Disagreeing and giving reasons is good, but in a way that respects your husbands beliefs. (And you husband one hopes will do the same.)

 

[gierschie]

Hi, Some churches have active youth activities to draw children. The truth is in the Catholic Church, but that is not what your son is looking for. There are many books on Catholic saints. Has he received fist Communion? Get a childs book on the Mass and the history of it. We have such a beauty in our Catholic faith. Most important pay the Bible, as Fr Corapi says, the Rosary. One decade where you describe the mystery and how we are to live it. God bless you and your family.

 

[arunsebastian]

John said to him, “Teacher, we saw a man who was driving out the demons in your name, and we told him to stop, because he doesn’t belong to our group.”
“Do not try to stop him,” Jesus told them, "because no one who performs a miracle in my name will be able soon afterwards to say evil things about me.For whoever is not against us is for us.(Mk 9:38-40)

Being a protestant is not a big deal, when you consider about your Family. Because Family itself , a God’s altar.
If you really a good Catholic you should never break your relationship. Running away is easy but putting together is rather difficult. Its only through the love and sacrifice, you can be good catholic.
Please read the life of St.Monica (ref Wikipedia).

You are the people of God; he loved you and chose you for his own. So then, you must clothe yourself with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Be tolerant with one another whenever any of you has a complaint against someone else. You must forgive one another just as the Lord has forgiven you. And all these qualities add love, which binds all the things together in perfect unity.(Col 3:12-14)

May Jesus Christ bless your family.

 

[gierschie]

I understood the boy is Catholic. Yes we are all the children of God. I am sorry it was read that I was putting down other faiths, I’m not. It is easy to become bored at Mass if what is happening is not understood. I’m glad you know about St. Monica.

 

[LOCO]

What can I do to avoid my son to become “Protestant” ? Since I married a “Protestant” man totally Fundamentalist Baptist and I disappointed him the day I told him I don’t go to church with him anymore but my 8 years old son I am raising him all I possible “Catholic” but we have bible reading at home thing that anyway a good Catholic should do but sometimes we should go to my husband’s church for some activities my son begs me for not going but if I don’t do it at least for important dates like “Church anniversary” or things like that my marriage will fall apart, I try to tell my son to be careful and if he has any question I am ready to answer but he says he does like sometimes what the Pastor preaches ( He is a really good preacher) kinda confuses him but right after I talk to him he does say he is not anymore, what should I do, I don’t want him to be Protestant …

There are worse things than being married to a Baptist. What type of Baptist church is it? Are they openly anti-catholic? I wouldn’t worry too much about it unless your son is exposed to anti-catholic rhetoric. You said he is only attending the Baptist Church for ‘activities’ not worship.

Just make sure he doesn’t miss out on any of the Sacraments.

My Baptist friends are very welcoming and have always viewed me as brethren.

In fact my nephew (mum is Baptist) attended a Baptist Church/youth group/bible studies etc until he turned 18. He recently asked to come to Mass with me, because he said whenever he had a question about the Scripture or doctrine, I always had an answer which was ‘sound’ and he found his own Church was a bit ‘wishy washy’ his exact words.

St Monica is wonderful

 

[GeorgeTheWild]

You should read this question that was submitted to the Catholic Answers section of the forums, it seems to be rather similar to your situation:

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=254495

I hope you and your husband are able to work out this very tough issue. Unfortunately the Baptist faith and the Catholic faith have many points of contention. But remember, even though we don’t agree on many things, our hope for salvation is still the sacrifice made by Jesus on the cross.

 

[Stepson]

And the one poster doubted that the people on this forum could help with this problem. Those all sounded excellent!

 

[Cavaradossi]

And the one poster doubted that the people on this forum could help with this problem. Those all sounded excellent!

I wasn’t doubting the ability of the people here to answer this question. I just think that more caution should be used when dealing with such a situation. We wouldn’t think twice about telling people to seek out a doctor when they have a potentially dangerous medical issue, yet for some reason, when people ask about a potentially dangerous spiritual situation, we seem to forgo the obvious advice to insist that they visit a priest. I cannot stress this enough: when dealing with things spiritual in nature, we should always ask our spiritual father about it, whether we are talking about something as simple as adopting a prayer rule or a potentially family shattering issue like this.

 

[Stepson]

I wasn’t doubting the ability of the people here to answer this question. I just think that more caution should be used when dealing with such a situation. We wouldn’t think twice about telling people to seek out a doctor when they have a potentially dangerous medical issue, yet for some reason, when people ask about a potentially dangerous spiritual situation, we seem to forgo the obvious advice to insist that they visit a priest. I cannot stress this enough: when dealing with things spiritual in nature, we should always ask our spiritual father about it, whether we are talking about something as simple as adopting a prayer rule or a potentially family shattering issue like this.

My apologies to you. I did read it that way even though I now know you didn’t mean it. I do agree with you about our Spiritual Fathers. They are a gift from God. However, God also gave us each other to lean on in tough times and we should not forget that. I think the responses the OP got are proof of that. Although consulting the local priest is an excellent thing, fellow Christian are also part of this equation. Why can’t we seek council with each other? That’s why Christians aren’t meant to be alone. Even if it’s a very serious spiritual situation, the Holy Spirit can work though anyone. Some people on this forum have been outstanding helping me on my spiritual journey!

 

[Cavaradossi]

My apologies to you. I did read it that way even though I now know you didn’t mean it. I do agree with you about our Spiritual Fathers. They are a gift from God. However, God also gave us each other to lean on in tough times and we should not forget that. I think the responses the OP got are proof of that. Although consulting the local priest is an excellent thing, fellow Christian are also part of this equation. Why can’t we seek council with each other? That’s why Christians aren’t meant to be alone. Even if it’s a very serious spiritual situation, the Holy Spirit can work though anyone. Some people on this forum have been outstanding helping me on my spiritual journey!

Yes, it is ok for us to offer some advice, but look at the responses; nobody has yet advised that she seek the advice of a priest. The advice we can offer may be good advice, but we should always counter any advice given with the caveat that, since we are not in personal one-on-one contact with the original poster, she should consult with a priest before deciding on any course of action. Not to do so would be morally irresponsible of us.

 

[Tony888]

Yes, it is ok for us to offer some advice, but look at the responses; nobody has yet advised that she seek the advice of a priest. The advice we can offer may be good advice, …

Actually, the very first reply suggested a discussing with a priest

I don’t have additional advice on top of what’s already posted.

 

[Cavaradossi]

Actually, the very first reply suggested a discussing with a priest

I don’t have additional advice on top of what’s already posted.

Yes, I know that. I am the person who wrote the very first reply, haha :tiphat:. I’m talking about the other responses.

At any rate though, I have far surpassed giving my two cents. People are free to disagree with me, but I shall try to refrain from arguing any further so as not to hijack this thread with something that’s rather off topic. She has seen my thoughts and is free to choose whether or not to take me up on my advice (which doesn’t necessarily contradict anybody’s advice, just something to think of on top of everything else).

 

[ivonneperla]

Hi, Some churches have active youth activities to draw children. The truth is in the Catholic Church, but that is not what your son is looking for. There are many books on Catholic saints. Has he received fist Communion? Get a childs book on the Mass and the history of it. We have such a beauty in our Catholic faith. Most important pay the Bible, as Fr Corapi says, the Rosary. One decade where you describe the mystery and how we are to live it. God bless you and your family.

My already made his first communion goes to Cathesism on Mondays during fall-spring (it is how they have it set up) and goes to the Catholic Scouts group same from church, The only problem is the Baptist activities there is always preaching and calling to the altar to get Saved so, but I told him at his 8 yrs old chuch history the division of the protestant churches and the importance of Comunion, but the pastor preaches very nice he kinda get confuses

 

[ivonneperla]

Yes, I know that. I am the person who wrote the very first reply, haha :tiphat:. I’m talking about the other responses.

At any rate though, I have far surpassed giving my two cents. People are free to disagree with me, but I shall try to refrain from arguing any further so as not to hijack this thread with something that’s rather off topic. She has seen my thoughts and is free to choose whether or not to take me up on my advice (which doesn’t necessarily contradict anybody’s advice, just something to think of on top of everything else).

I already talked to my priest but his answer was kinda vague, maybe because we were in confession