I need my father more than my mother, is it wrong?

[Clovis]

Ever since I remember childhood, I always favored my father. My mother would be screaming at him with the most demonic expression on her face, causing me to cry, and my father, not wishing to create a scene, left the house. Because of my father refusing to fight in front of me with my mother, I always loved him more. You here of many Catholics loving their mother, though I realize it is a stupid stereotype. I just always associated better with my father, no matter how nasty he was with me, my mother was nastier to him, and I never forgot that. This day and age, my mother always tells me he was judgmental, cold, mean, and that he didn’t love here. I should tell her still, that theirs no reason to scream in front of a child, while the other parent acts innocent. It leaves a warped impression in the mind.

 

[3GirlsRUs]

Interesting. I was a “Daddy’s Girl” when I was small. Before my dad left, he was my whole world. I have maybe 2 or 3 memories of my mother from before the divorce, but TONS of memories with my Dad. When he left us, a part of me died.

Now, I do have a relationship with my dad now. It’s a “good” one, but it’s defnitely not what it could have been. My mother always talked bad about my father, but my father never did. And THAT made an impression on us kids. It really broke down the trust that we might have had with her.

As a parent, my middle daughter and my DH have a “special bond” much like I remember having with my dad. This is wonderful to watch, but at the same time it has re-opened the wounds I have from my parents divorce…because I see what I had and sometimes it makes me so resentful that I lost it. My feelings about the divorce now are not as resolved as I had once thought they were and it is because I now have children and I see what my father walked away from and that also hurts.

Anyway…I understand the special relationship with one parent…my baby right now is closer to me than either of my other two children were…we just have a connection. I think because each child is so different…a unique person…a parent is not going to have the “same” relationship with each kid.