Brethren,I’d like to request for prayers that may God save me from sinful sexually immoral feeling I’ve been experiencing for a long time now.Whenever I see a lady that does not leave much to the imagination I feel myself losing my control.My saving grace
is the fact that I avoid girls but my fear is I don’t know how long that is going to continue.
I had a friend, a guy friend, who felt like you and wanted to live his life according to God’s will. He would make a comment to me like this, “Sometimes, all I want to do is get a girl and bring her home.” He said that it was very difficult for him, but he went to daily Mass, and worked full time 9 to 5 job, and went to Holy Hour. He made two hours a week before the Blessed Sacrament. He also went to weekly confessions and discussed how he felt with the priest. I kept him in my prayers. He found a girlfriend and he fell into temptation. They did break up and he moved away. I lost touch with him for 8 years and recently I talked to him again. He is now a priest! If he could do it so can you and every man. He had lost his virginity when very young in his teen, but later in his twenties was trying to live a chaste life. He was very very difficult for him. I am not saying that you will be a priest, but this man once told him he could never live this life without a woman and wanted to get married. Ever since the day I met him, I had prayed for him to be a priest. I don’t know why, but I did even when I fell in love with him, but we were not right for each other. Don’t give up and try the things he did. Go to Mass daily if you can, go to weekly confessions and go sit and kneel before our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament. You will get your strength in all these and will grow closer to Jesus and won’t want to offend him by how you view women. I am a woman and I hate it when women dress so immodest for it does cause men temptations.
Don’t worry so much about it and keep praying and you have my prayers. You are only human, but try to keep your thoughts on things of God and maybe when you see a woman you dressed like what you describe, you won’t take a second look. I pray that if it be God’s will that you find yourself a woman who will help you keep a chaste life until you marry. Pray for a good and holy woman to marry and pray to see if you’re called to the priesthood.
Trust me the way my friend use to talk about women, I did not think after a while that he would be a priest, but he is a priest. He is trying and did try to live a holy life as a single man. He heard God’s calling in the attempt to live a good and holy life. It was not easy and he fell some times, but he got up and went to confession and continued to try. That is all we can do in this life of struggles. The prize, Heaven, is worth the effort.
Trust in the Lord to help you and strengthen you. By the way, my friend also read many spiritual books. I think reading about St. Augustine helped him.
praying for you