I now have a permanent confessor/spiritual director, now what?

[twiztedseraph]

I now have a permanent confessor/spiritual director, now what? What type of stuff should I be asking, what advice etc?

This is obviously related to the Sacrament of Penance.

 

[Tonks40]

twiztedseraph:

I now have a permanent confessor/spiritual director, now what? What type of stuff should I be asking, what advice etc?

This is obviously related to the Sacrament of Penance.

Well, get your thoughts together, and make an appointment with him. I know some who meet with their spiritual director on a regular basis. You may want to work out a schedule with him that would suit both of you.

 

[LilyM]

Congrats twiztedseraph - I’ve been kinda cautiously looking for one (not looking too hard though - I’m only a recent revert) and haven’t come across anyone who would really click with me as a spiritual director …

Never mind, keep looking I guess, and maybe a few prayers to St Francis de Sales, who I’ve been reading lately … and a SD will probably find me …

 

[shannin]

You’re very lucky. I’ve been looking for a good one. We can’t tell you what to ask or give you advice on this one because only you know yourself and areas of your life you should be working on. Everyone of us is different.

When I find a spiritual director I want to talk about how I can feel God’s presence more fully in my life and how I can tell for sure when God is speaking to me. I also want to talk about a few sins that I keep repeating over and over (I’m getting a little better though) - gossiping and exagerating.

 

[LilyM]

shannin:

You’re very lucky. I’ve been looking for a good one. We can’t tell you what to ask or give you advice on this one because only you know yourself and areas of your life you should be working on. Everyone of us is different.

When I find a spiritual director I want to talk about how I can feel God’s presence more fully in my life and how I can tell for sure when God is speaking to me. I also want to talk about a few sins that I keep repeating over and over (I’m getting a little better though) - gossiping and exagerating.

Aah, the old recurring sins, I think they used to be called ‘besetting’ sins. I think most of us have a few, and I tend to exaggerate as well (perhaps I can blame it on my family a little - but of course I still want to DO something about it).

 

[shannin]

LilyM:

Aah, the old recurring sins, I think they used to be called ‘besetting’ sins. I think most of us have a few, and I tend to exaggerate as well (perhaps I can blame it on my family a little - but of course I still want to DO something about it).

As hard as I try I can’t seem to escape from being drawn into gossip. Most of it is harmless, but some of it really isn’t.

As far as the exageration goes - I’m Irish - as in Irish blarney

 

[Shoshana]

I wish you the best twistedseraph! I have had one for over 20 years and we meet almost every month. Usually I speak about how I think God is working in my life, my weakness and sins, my discipline, etc. This spiritual director was pushed upon me by God himself as I really did not like him at all. Over the years, and we have greyed together, I know it has been a great blessing for myself as well, as for him, as I am told by my friend. He has seen the good, the bad and the ugly. My spirituality on the whole is John of the Cross…and Father Groeschel has a couple fo books that are really good on directing one’s soul in accompaniment with your director…

 

[Al_Masetti]

I was blessed with a personal spiritual director for a while, until my job took me away for a protracted period and then the Archbishop had to reassign a bunch of pastors after one died… they had rules about who could succeed who and to fill one slot the Archbishop had to juggle about five pastors around. And that was that.

But for the time it lasted, the experience was fabulous.

In my case, there were some interesting issues: the Rosary. Compulsive actions versus sins. Discernment. The history and origins of canon law. How often to go to Confession. How to answer questions put to me by relatives and co-workers. …

Discussing these sorts of things on an adult basis with someone who was well versed in all these topics and could weave them together coherently for me and how they fitted into my life was an incredible blessing.

How to be an adult Catholic and discuss things in an adult way.

 

[twiztedseraph]

shannin:

As hard as I try I can’t seem to escape from being drawn into gossip. Most of it is harmless, but some of it really isn’t.

As far as the exageration goes - I’m Irish - as in Irish blarney

Gossip is never harmless. I myself noticed that I was gossipping subconsciously. So I stop myself, and I stop others that do so. Its absolutely wrong, at all times, no matter what to gossip. Thats different however from warning someone.