I skipped mass on a Sunday!

[tritcher1988]

I realize that this has already been discussed at length, but does it matter that I have been to daily mass every day last week? I felt down this morning so I left the parking lot of the church; Sundays are difficult for me because of all the commotion and wild music. Do I need to go to confession before tommorow morning’s mass?

 

[Domnall]

Well, we all have some reasons to miss Mass that may be valid to you, but not valid to others…but that is a different topic.

As a rule, no amount of weekday Masses can “add up” so to speak to equal missing a Sunday Mass. So, I would suggest that if you can go to confession tomorrow (which is good for the soul regardless) to do it. If there is no confession time, go to Mass, assuming you attend daily Mass anyway. You can always confess at the next opportunity!

I’ll pray for you

 

[dje101]

Well, we all have some reasons to miss Mass that may be valid to you, but not valid to others…but that is a different topic.

As a rule, no amount of weekday Masses can “add up” so to speak to equal missing a Sunday Mass. So, I would suggest that if you can go to confession tomorrow (which is good for the soul regardless) to do it. If there is no confession time, go to Mass, assuming you attend daily Mass anyway. You can always confess at the next opportunity!

I’ll pray for you

But they can’t receive Eucharist since they are in a state of mortal sin (or at least might be), correct?

 

[triumphguy]

I realize that this has already been discussed at length, but does it matter that I have been to daily mass every day last week? I felt down this morning so I left the parking lot of the church; Sundays are difficult for me because of all the commotion and wild music. Do I need to go to confession before tommorow morning’s mass?

Yes, you missed your Sunday obligation.

6 week day masses do not meet our Sunday obligation.

Confession before communion:thumbsup:

 

[PrayForMeStJude]

I realize that this has already been discussed at length, but does it matter that I have been to daily mass every day last week? I felt down this morning so I left the parking lot of the church; Sundays are difficult for me because of all the commotion and wild music. Do I need to go to confession before tommorow morning’s mass?

Do you mind if I ask what exactly you mean by “feeling down”? If it was a physical illness, or even a mental illness and you felt depressed, those could be reasons that could negate your obligation to be at mass. I would still ask a priest, though he could probably answer that question outside of confession and tell you if you must confess missing your Sunday obligation.

However, if by “feeling down” you meant that you didn’t want to put up with all of the “commotion and wild music” that unfortunately come along with too many masses, well then yes, you must confess missing your obligation. I understand this feeling; I can remember a few times when I just couldn’t stand the horrible mass at my local Church when I lived in California, and once or twice I went to an Orthodox Divine Liturgy instead. While I can understand reasons like this, they are still unacceptable and must be sacramentally confessed.

 

[LilyM]

But they can’t receive Eucharist since they are in a state of mortal sin (or at least might be), correct?

Correct.

It’s a bit like being a parent - you may give your kids gifts on days that are no particular occasion, but that doesn’t make up for deliberately neglecting a Christmas or a birthday, does it?

 

[Phaedra777]

I realize that this has already been discussed at length, but does it matter that I have been to daily mass every day last week? I felt down this morning so I left the parking lot of the church; Sundays are difficult for me because of all the commotion and wild music. Do I need to go to confession before tommorow morning’s mass?

As a couple of above posters have asked–did you drive away from Mass because you didn’t like the,“commotion and wild music” or because you were actually too ill to attend?

I’d say, if you don’t like your parish, find another but in the meantime, don’t let something so trivial as your taste in music keep you from Mass.

I’ll be quite frank here–I’ve seen any number of posters who are way too “holier than the priests/congregation” to attend Mass. Blech, Blech and what an abysmal excuse.

 

[tritcher1988]

The church that I go to is the same church that I went to as a small kid. The church was built in the mid-90’s with a non-traditional floorplan, making it impossible to enter the sanctuary without first crossing a large gathering space. And everything that is said in the gathering space before or after mass can be heard in the sanctuary. Also there have been many clashes between priests and community members over music liturgy issues, multiple priests, and also embezzlement, and fraud, etc. In addition I feel inadequate being around this community because I have dropped out of college and do not have a job, and as I cross the giant gathering space the first thing that everyone asks me is what I am doing with my life. So definitely some personal hangups of mine and but also some big divisions within this community with the traditional vs. modern liturgy.

And I dont think that my feeling down before mass could be called “illness.” So I recognize that I have committed mortal sin in not going yesterday. I am not holier than my priest or the other congregation members, I just want a peaceful and humble place to worship. I am going straight to confession and then to daily mass in the chapel.

 

[Mrs_Sally]

It sounds like you are letting your perceptions of other people’s opinions get in between you and God. It is natural to be nervous when you feel different or a bit unwelcome, but you should never let that stand in your way of fulfilling your obligations to God.

Is there another parish nearby that you could attend? Things at this parish don’t sound too healthy anyway, but you still need to find a way to get to Sunday Mass each week. If you need to attend here because of distance, etc. perhaps go to the earliest or least attended Mass time. Arrive early so that there aren’t as many folks to stop you and chat before Mass. Leave as soon as the priest walks down the aisle or alternately, stay and pray for awhile after Mass.

You’ll need to take some practical steps to figure out something that works. Going to daily Mass and then skipping Sunday Mass each week, even if you do go to confession, is not a good way to build up your soul.

 

[englishredrose]

My advice is

have a chat with the priest anyway about how you feeling. Some priests are really good listeners and he alone will guide you on Sunday Obligations and might offer other help too if you ask? But in between time, don’t get worked about it as its not as though you are not going at all to Mass.

Something my priest told me back in November was that sometimes they mayn’t want to be there, but have to be… he said other things too but in with the conversation. It has got me through a few times this year and I definately remember it off him this last week when he was definately ill and was there for Ascention at all the services he did that day. When we are depressed or just run down we often don’t feel like it but in reality that is the time we need to all the more. But we need help in learning how to get stuck in there sometimes. I love my parish church and we are a very typical real life family with the noise and bickering and competition and the love. And the love makes it all worth while sticking with same church for life. It the same in every community.

 

[LilyM]

The church that I go to is the same church that I went to as a small kid. The church was built in the mid-90’s with a non-traditional floorplan, making it impossible to enter the sanctuary without first crossing a large gathering space. And everything that is said in the gathering space before or after mass can be heard in the sanctuary. Also there have been many clashes between priests and community members over music liturgy issues, multiple priests, and also embezzlement, and fraud, etc. In addition I feel inadequate being around this community because I have dropped out of college and do not have a job, and as I cross the giant gathering space the first thing that everyone asks me is what I am doing with my life. So definitely some personal hangups of mine and but also some big divisions within this community with the traditional vs. modern liturgy.

And I dont think that my feeling down before mass could be called “illness.” So I recognize that I have committed mortal sin in not going yesterday. I am not holier than my priest or the other congregation members, I just want a peaceful and humble place to worship. I am going straight to confession and then to daily mass in the chapel.

Well, just remember you’re in good company. Jesus didn’t have whatever the equivalent of a college degree would’ve been in His day (eg formal rabbinical schooling or whatever).

And once He started His ministry at least He didn’t have what would be recognisable as a job either. Certainly nothing that He made a living at.