I still feel bad

[Mistaken]

Last week my former sex buddy cheated on his girlfriend with me. We gave each other oral sex.
He was the one that initiated it. I did want to do it too, but not in that particular time (because he has a girlfriend). And because I felt pressured by him and because I was scared to say no, we ended up just giving each other oral sex.
I felt really bad about it so I went to confession last night.
Even though I went to confession, I still feel bad.

I also want to do plenary indulgences, and I talked to a priest today and he said that because it’s Advent season, if I just say long prayers, pray to the Pope, or even just go to church and receive communion, I can fulfill a plenary indulgence.
Can I really do this?

 

[Jitterbug]

A few notes.

Firstly, Assuming you’re really repentant, God has forgiven you. Now comes forgiving yourself. We all do that differently, so you’ll need to find your method.

And secondly…Did he say pray TO or FOR the Pope? And were his words “Long prayers”? Because that seems…odd.

 

[wanabesaint]

Sorry, but what the hell? or is that what we are promoting here…

People, it might take you some time to get in your mind, you have to chew on it for a while.

Alienation cannot be “”"“reasoned away”""""", it has to be healed.

Alienation–acts of sin we commit on or witih others, the list is endless.

People, going to confession doesnot remove sin, if your using it as a tool to reason away sin… To murder the soul of another is the same as if you had taken a knife out and stuck it in somebody and killed them, but since you dont see the evidence, you “reason” its not the same.

So, if your committing these acts today to this magnitude, do you really think/reaon you can marry someone and cheat on them, run to the confession and its forgiven??

NO, its as murder, the evidence is still in your heart, you have committed adultry, you have broken the Ten Commandment and if you break one, you break them all, and its cannot be reasoned away…
If your this undisciplined today, you will live your entire life as such. but the greater sin, your teaching others to sin, and that you have not recognized and need to truely work to stop…

Sin is being commited, but it cannot be reasoned away, it must be healed.

Feel bad, your in a serious state of mind of evil is accepted, and your well on the path to Hell, but more so your teaching that which is a sinfull way to others…
To see sin, and to condon is sin… you have an obligation to, admonish the sinner, and you need to start with yourself, and stay away from those that are setting the wrong course for you… former sex buddy???

God did away with sodomn and gamora, are we reasoning that God now condons what we deam as not sin today, is that what we came to???

this idea that sin canbe reasoned away needs to be recognized and stopped… confession is not reasoning away sin, that is sin to accept that. confession is to heal sin, and that should call that we then go and make our sins right, and work to avoid. but sin cannot be reasoned away… that is not .

 

[mommamaree]

Sorry, but what the hell? or is that what we are promoting here…

People, it might take you some time to get in your mind, you have to chew on it for a while.

Alienation cannot be “”"“reasoned away”""""", it has to be healed.

Alienation–acts of sin we commit on or witih others, the list is endless.

People, going to confession doesnot remove sin, if your using it as a tool to reason away sin… To murder the soul of another is the same as if you had taken a knife out and stuck it in somebody and killed them, but since you dont see the evidence, you “reason” its not the same.

So, if your committing these acts today to this magnitude, do you really think/reaon you can marry someone and cheat on them, run to the confession and its forgiven??

NO, its as murder, the evidence is still in your heart, you have committed adultry, you have broken the Ten Commandment and if you break one, you break them all, and its cannot be reasoned away…
If your this undisciplined today, you will live your entire life as such. but the greater sin, your teaching others to sin, and that you have not recognized and need to truely work to stop…

Sin is being commited, but it cannot be reasoned away, it must be healed.

Feel bad, your in a serious state of mind of evil is accepted, and your well on the path to Hell, but more so your teaching that which is a sinfull way to others…
To see sin, and to condon is sin… you have an obligation to, admonish the sinner, and you need to start with yourself, and stay away from those that are setting the wrong course for you… former sex buddy???

God did away with sodomn and gamora, are we reasoning that God now condons what we deam as not sin today, is that what we came to???

this idea that sin canbe reasoned away needs to be recognized and stopped… confession is not reasoning away sin, that is sin to accept that. confession is to heal sin, and that should call that we then go and make our sins right, and work to avoid. but sin cannot be reasoned away… that is not .

What is your problem, wanabesaint?
This was cruel and inaccurate.
The OP felt bad (sorrow for her sin) so she went to confession. The Lord forgives us when we repent and confess. The words of absolution remove the sin from her soul. Now, after penance, she desires to do extra forms of penance to demonstrate her renunciation of her sin and her choice to relinquish that sin. This is all well within the Church’s teachings on the sacrament of penance. The Lord Himself has forgiven her. You have no right to place a burden back upon her that Lord Himself has removed.
On top of that, it is wrong to compare her past behavior to violent murder or wanton adultery. I still haven’t decided if I should report your post.

 

[Delaine75]

Sorry, but what the hell? or is that what we are promoting here…

People, it might take you some time to get in your mind, you have to chew on it for a while.

Alienation cannot be “”"“reasoned away”""""", it has to be healed.

Alienation–acts of sin we commit on or witih others, the list is endless.

People, going to confession doesnot remove sin, if your using it as a tool to reason away sin… To murder the soul of another is the same as if you had taken a knife out and stuck it in somebody and killed them, but since you dont see the evidence, you “reason” its not the same.

So, if your committing these acts today to this magnitude, do you really think/reaon you can marry someone and cheat on them, run to the confession and its forgiven??

NO, its as murder, the evidence is still in your heart, you have committed adultry, you have broken the Ten Commandment and if you break one, you break them all, and its cannot be reasoned away…
If your this undisciplined today, you will live your entire life as such. but the greater sin, your teaching others to sin, and that you have not recognized and need to truely work to stop…

Sin is being commited, but it cannot be reasoned away, it must be healed.

Feel bad, your in a serious state of mind of evil is accepted, and your well on the path to Hell, but more so your teaching that which is a sinfull way to others…
To see sin, and to condon is sin… you have an obligation to, admonish the sinner, and you need to start with yourself, and stay away from those that are setting the wrong course for you… former sex buddy???

God did away with sodomn and gamora, are we reasoning that God now condons what we deam as not sin today, is that what we came to???

this idea that sin canbe reasoned away needs to be recognized and stopped… confession is not reasoning away sin, that is sin to accept that. confession is to heal sin, and that should call that we then go and make our sins right, and work to avoid. but sin cannot be reasoned away… that is not .

Pretty sure this could have been put in a more charitable manner.

 

[ProdglArchitect]

Pretty sure this could have been put in a more charitable manner.

Yeah, his post is not only uncharitable, but also wrong.

To the OP, do not worry, if you are truly repentant of your sins, then they have been forgiven through the grace of confession.

I will say that, that part of confession, and part of forgiveness, is the desire to reject the sinful actions that lead you to confession in the first place. In your instance, it is not only that you engaged in sexual acts with someone who was in a relationship with someone else, but also that you engaged in them with someone who is not your husband. You really need to consider your life, and work to turn away from actions like that. Sexual activities are intended for a man and a woman, brought together in the state of Holy Matrimony; they are the ultimate expression of your love for your spouse, not simply something that feels good.

I would ask if you have decided to stop engaging in these sorts of actions with anyone, not just this person, until you’re married. If not, you may be feeling bad because you are not actually repentant of those sins, and your soul is trying to tell you something.

I pray that you will find peace and repentance, and that you will overcome the sins that trouble you.