I want so bad to veil at Mass, but how do I say this to my mum?

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Hello!
So, first, let’s start with the basics:

I am 15 and I am a faithful Catholic girl. I really want to start veiling at Mass, but how do I say this to my mum? She always says that veiling is an old thing, and she calls me “Old” because I love traditional latin masses. How do I explain to her that I want to start veiling without being called weird?
Please, give me some advice!
 
I think just tell her what you’ve said here. You’d really love to veil, and although you know it’s not to her taste, it’s something you want to start doing. If she does call you weird, you could tell her it hurts your feelings, or that she might consider it old but you don’t and could you agree to disagree.
 
well, I only use them in winter to cover my neck. S at the moment I don’t know in which of the three wardrobes I’ve put them… 😅
 
I crochet my own. If you’re crafty and she’d buy you some crochet/knitting thread, you could make your own (crochet or knit). Lace weights are good for lightweight, but take a bit longer to crochet/knit up.
 
Uhm, I’m not good at sewing, but I’ve watched some tutorials on YouTube. It seems easy, but, as I said, I’m not that good at sewing…
 
I wouldn’t know where to start for sewing them due to lace appliques vs. lace making machinery.

Knit and crochet are possible just because they don’t require much investment to start (sewing machine is $$$-$$$$, knitting needles/crochet hooks + Yarn are $-$$). Plenty of youtube videos on this sort of thing though! Any triangle shawl patterns can be done with laceweight yarn/thread for a veil.

You might just ask your mom if she’ll buy you one, but if you have no luck in that arena, you’ll probably need to think/work outside the box
 
maybe I can ask both my grandmas. They have a veil somewhere for sure
 
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I don’t think it is within a parent’s authority to forbid a 15-year old to wear a headcovering to mass.
 
I’m not even seeing she’s directly been expressly forbidden, but that when she asks, she is treated a certain way (reacted to). That treatment itself is not a legitimate reason nor is it a legitimate no.
 
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I don’t think it is within a parent’s authority to forbid a 15-year old to wear a headcovering to mass.
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So parents don’t have a say in what their minor children wear? If the OPs mother says “no” (although it’s not clear whether she has said that outright), we cannot advise the OP to disobey or go against the wishes of her parent.
 
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As long as the minor in question dress appropriate, I don’t think that a parent has a right to decide exactly what a teenager is wearing. A 15-year old is not really a child any more but almost an adult.
 
tuffsmurf said:
As long as the minor in question dress appropriate, I don’t think that a parent has a right to decide exactly what a teenager is wearing. A 15-year old is not really a child any more but almost an adult.
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Definitions of “appropriate” will vary. Would you be comfortable with, or want, complete strangers on the internet undermining your authority with your child?
 
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I have not given any advice to the OP. I said, in a general manner, that I don’t think a parent has the right to forbid the wearing of a mantilla.
 
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