I want to marry a Muslim guy without him getting converted to Christianity

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Hello, I am a Roman catholic Christian from Tamilnadu. I’m in love with a Muslim guy and I wanted to get married to him. When told about this to my parents they were asking him to get converted into Christianity as I’m their only daughter.

Given the point, he is not ready for a conversion as he will lose his identity and he has got a single parent as his father passed away recently.

While, I’m aware of “Dispensation in disparity of cult” I wanted to know how many priests in Tamilnadu will agree for such a thing and give me papers where I can approach bishop to grant the above.

As they might think that the after marriage life can be complicated between religions and my faith would fade.

But that’s never going to happen as we both are faithful to our religions and both are unanimously are unwilling to get converted either side.

Also, my parents only want a church wedding and are having zero agreement to a register marriage.

If the dispensation in disparity of cult is working then it’ll be my que that I can fulfill my parents dream of me getting married in church and at the same time I can marry the love of my life.

Any leads in this would mainly in TamilNadu will really help me as I’m planning to get married between June 2021.

Thanks.
 
Immaca said:
But that’s never going to happen as we both are faithful to our religions and both are unanimously are unwilling to get converted either side.
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You both need to sit down with your Priest and discuss these matters. This is a complicated situation that cannot be sorted out online. You both need to be on the same page.
 
Immaca said:
While, I’m aware of “Dispensation in disparity of cult” I wanted to know how many priests in Tamilnadu will agree for such a thing and give me papers where I can approach bishop to grant the above.
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At least in the US, dispensations are pretty readily given. You do need to make it clear that you and your fiancé are on the same page as far as the religion of any children you might have.
 
Immaca said:
But that’s never going to happen as we both are faithful to our religions and both are unanimously are unwilling to get converted either side.
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Please reread what you wrote above…

over and over…

and over…

and over…

and over…

Catholicism and Islam have diametrically different beliefs. Have you discussed about raising the children in the Catholic faith? Will he require you to use artificial contraception, which is a mortal sin, the penalty of which is loss of heaven?

Have you thought the above things through?

Aren’t there any Catholic men near you that are eligible for marriage in the Catholic Church?
 
Immaca said:
But that’s never going to happen as we both are faithful to our religions and both are unanimously are unwilling to get converted either side.
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Yeh… but the question of religious upbringing of the children will be raised one day or another.
You know that for a Catholic to have a marriage recognized by the Church he needs to agree to raise his children Catholics. And Muslin men who marry outside of Islamn should raised their children as Muslins.
There is a contradiction and one or both will have to compromise.

We cannot answer for the numbers of local priests who are willing to agree with your step, and it is not important. Start by asking your pastor an appointment for both of you and fiancé. All the local questions will have to be managed by yourself, not people from aboard.
 
StKates said:
always marry for Love and for love alone! the key is you both have to be completely HONEST with each other. I was a Catholic who married an Atheist now we’re both agnostic so we both compromised? But realize you might have to compromise too, and that’s what a good marriage is about, listening and working together.
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I’m sorry to hear that you compromised your faith and are now agnostic.

To the OP, please consider what your relationship with God means to you and whether you’re willing to “compromise” your relationship with God for a relationship with one of God’s creations.
 
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Immaca said:
Hello, I am a Roman catholic Christian from Tamilnadu. I’m in love with a Muslim guy and I wanted to get married to him
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Islamic Law permits a Muslim man to marry a believing Christian (or Jewish) woman. She retains an absolute right, not only to retain her Faith, but to practise it.

It is expected that children from such a marriage be raised as Muslims. This could be a problem for some; but much depends on the strength of relationship between the couple themselves. What is important for the child is having parents who are shining examples of what it is to love and serve the Exalted, in whatever way He has chosen for them; and who support each other - and their children - through all that life brings.

This is something for you and your intended husband to work out for yourselves. It is not the business of anyone else.

I wish both of you well; and may the Beloved bless the two of you, and hold you to Himself.
 
definitely not a Catholic advise on a catholic website whose goal is to give a Catholic answer…
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No love is not enough.
 
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You are so correct. Especially since ‘love’ now can mean just about anything for however long the person wishes.

What happens when the man this woman ‘loves’ is no longer ‘lovable’? What happens if HE no longer loves HER? Ever looked at divorce rates worldwide? The vast majority of these people LOVED each other when they married.
 
After watching 90 day fiancee. Not a good idea to marry a muslim.
 
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