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I grew up Catholic, went to church every Sunday, went to private Catholic school pre-K through graduation. I married an inactive LDS person, he reactivated, I got baptized in LDS church to help my mess of a daughter. I am so unhappy I want to practice my true religion - Catholicism. What do I do? Do I have to be rebaptized in the Catholic Church? I feel like a mess!
 
Kell said:
I grew up Catholic, went to church every Sunday, went to private Catholic school pre-K through graduation. I married an inactive LDS person, he reactivated, I got baptized in LDS church to help my mess of a daughter. I am so unhappy I want to practice my true religion - Catholicism. What do I do? Do I have to be rebaptized in the Catholic Church? I feel like a mess!
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welcome to the forums kell!!
if you have gone thru the catholic school system then you probably have made all of the sacraments, baptism, eucharist, reconcilation and confirmation. if so, you still are a fulfledged catholic. BUT, to reconcile yourself with the church you need to go to confession. since it probably has been awhile since your last confession, you might want to make an appointment with a local priest, just to be courteous about time in the confessional.
and you definitely do not need to be baptized again, we only get baptized once in the catholic church. confession/reconciliation is the cleanizing you need.
welcome home!!
 
I have a meeting next Monday. Thanks for replying to me so quickly!
 
Kell said:
I grew up Catholic, went to church every Sunday, went to private Catholic school pre-K through graduation. I married an inactive LDS person, he reactivated, I got baptized in LDS church to help my mess of a daughter. I am so unhappy I want to practice my true religion - Catholicism. What do I do? Do I have to be rebaptized in the Catholic Church? I feel like a mess!
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You definitely don’t need to be rebaptized! Once you’re baptized you’re baptized for life.

The main thing you will need to do is go to confession. In this case Reconciliation will be truly the word for it, since it will bring about the reconciliation you seek with the church.

Ask in your parish if they have a group for returning Catholics. It may help you reconnect.
 
My advice: Don’t let anything stop you Kell, I’m a former Mormon and I know how you feel. I would never ever leave the One True Apostolic church that God left for us all.

Welcome home!🙂 .
 
Great going Kell! One step at a time, I hope this helps your daughter and husband also. There are so many women that bring the their family to the Catholic church. I’m married to one but it took time for me. 😉
 
Sounds like you’re getting good advice. See your parish priest and tell him your story. If your marriage was in the Church you have no problem. However, if not you’ll need to have it recognized through convalidation or senation. Senation is for those cases where a spouse refuses to participate in the convalidation.

Sacramament of reconciliation was difficult for me at first. I dumped 18 years of sin at once. But that was after an hour discussion a week prior. It feels coming home. I’d suggest you find a good RCIA program to get you back up to snuff and use the time like a date with your husband. Tell him to think of the most difficult questions he can come up with that he has issues on. Put the RCIA instructor to the task.

Welcome Home.
 
My kids have both been baptized in Cath church, our marriage has been blessed. My husband is not on board with me going back to Catholicism, but I know he will be supportive once he gets used to the idea. Part of my problem is I live in Utah and literally 98% of my neighbors are LDS, all of my social life is with LDS people, my daughter goes to BYU and I will screw my son up if I try to change his religion after this long.

So I think this is going to be hard, but I need spiritual peace.
 
Kell, that is the best news I’ve heard all day. :extrahappy: I’ll pray that God gives you the strength and the peace that you desire. Definitely keep in close contact with a priest who can give you regular spiritual counseling during this time. Hopefully your priest can refer you to others as well who can give you support.

Welcome back!!! :dancing:
 
I thank God too, for your courage and the graces He’s giving you. I ask Him to bless and help your family to accept your reversion.

My welcome also 🙂
 
I think you have an opportunity to be an example to your children. Faith does come at a cost. Be unafraid of it, it is paltry in the end.
 
For the past almost 7 years I have brought up my issues with the Mormon doctrine to my husband about once every 6 mos. I did it again last night, let him know I was going back to my church and although he was mad, he told me this morning he just loves me and wants me to be happy. It will be interesting to see how many “friends” I still have in the neighborhood. If I lived anywhere but Utah county it would be easier. I know I at least have 1 good friend here who I have shared my doubts with over the past couple of years. I am excited to meet some people in the Catholic community here - it should be interesting…
 
stelline said:
Kell, that is the best news I’ve heard all day. :extrahappy: I’ll pray that God gives you the strength and the peace that you desire. Definitely keep in close contact with a priest who can give you regular spiritual counseling during this time. Hopefully your priest can refer you to others as well who can give you support.

Welcome back!!! :dancing:
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I echo the above quote. I went through RCIA last year, and attended a fabulous parish in Austin, TX. My husband accepted a new job in Orem which moved us to Utah. So, I am finding my way here and amidst of LDS folk . I live in Draper which I handpicked because of the big Catholic Church and nursery thru high school campus 😉 . Good luck to you, and if you ever need a Catholic friend message me!

Victoria:)
 
Kell,
You and I have so much in common on this issue! :console: I too married an inactive Mormon, and am also in a town where most people are Mormon. I was not an active Catholic when I was married, so when I rediscovered my faith it was a disappointment for my husband, and even more so for his family who are all Mormon. I tried going to that church for a while after I first got here, when I wasn’t going to the Catholic Church yet, but found too much that was too contrary to everything I’d ever learned about God and Jesus Christ. It scared me, but it was wonderful fun for my daughter (3) whom is a very out-going little girl who gets lonely without other around children to play with. I want my children to grow up with a solid foundation for faith in God, but I want them to learn about the same God I did. So in part, this is what has led me back to the Catholic Church, besides a lot of what I consider to be not-so-subtle hints from someone upstairs trying to make me get the point. It’s also that mysterious pull that I’ve heard many others who are also fallen-away.
That being said, I am struggling to fit into the Catholic community here. I’m an “outsider” in this town because I wasn’t born here, even though my husband grew up here and a Mormon, but I believe his family blames me for his refusal to go back to ANY church, and they definitely do not approve of where I go to church. It’s just part of that culture to shun those that are not like them. The LDS neighbors will likely not talk to you anymore, that is true, and they will send the missionaries over time and time again to try to revert you. I hope you either already know people at the Catholic church, or you are very outgoing and easily make friends–I’m not, never have been, don’t care to change who I am if I could. I’m not sure why, but even the priest doesn’t seem interested in my return, maybe he’s just so overworked, but I keep hearing stuff that sounds to me like, “If your husband is Mormon, why don’t you just go to *that *church?” I hear also, they believe in the same one God we do, what’s so wrong with that?" This is obviously not a very traditional Catholic community here, from many other things I’ve seen as well.
I will pray for you. It takes a very strong commitment of faith, and extreme perseverance, especially if you have the same issues I do. I admire your bravery though! 👍 God will strengthen us so that we can face persecution or isolation if we pray. I pray and pray for strength in my faith in GOd and the Catholic Church. It’s all that gets me through some days.
GOD BLESS YOU!
 
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Sounds like you’re getting good advice. See your parish priest and tell him your story. If your marriage was in the Church you have no problem. However, if not you’ll need to have it recognized through convalidation or senation. Senation is for those cases where a spouse refuses to participate in the convalidation.

Sacramament of reconciliation was difficult for me at first. I dumped 18 years of sin at once. But that was after an hour discussion a week prior. It feels coming home. I’d suggest you find a good RCIA program to get you back up to snuff and use the time like a date with your husband. Tell him to think of the most difficult questions he can come up with that he has issues on. Put the RCIA instructor to the task.

Welcome Home.
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My priest seems weirded-out when I suggest talking to him in person about the convalidation issue, (or anything else for that matter) with which I have to go through with a husband who doesn’t really want to cooperate. This “senation” thing is pretty elusive, no one here seems to know what this is, or at least would rather not do it. I know the priest has told me he doesn’t want me to do ANY of this stuff without my husband’s permission and full cooperation, especially on the issue of having my children baptized!
Note: Someone has already told me to write my bishop about this type of behavior, but I’m ex-military and I know what happens when a grunt like me goes and complains to the person above the person you have issues with. In a very hierarchical culture that the Catholic Church is, I would rather avoid getting myself in even more distress than I am. Instead, I pray for strength and perseverance on the narrow path, and consider the resistance I am getting not of God’s will, but Satan’s.
 
Welcome home! You are doing the right thing! I hope you will soon meet some Catholic friends. God bless you!🙂
 
Thanks all for your support. Being alone and Catholic in Utah County is a bit lonely, and this is getting me through. I feel better about myself now spiritually than I have in the past seven years even though it is going to take a while for things to mellow with my husband. I know he loves me and I pray that our relationship gets stronger because it is based on truth. I know he will never become Catholic, but I hope he finds a way to deal with and respect that I am…:
 
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