I was molested by my biological uncle :(

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This happened way back when I was very little (about 8 or 9). (I was baptised at age 1). I was playing the piano when my uncle came up and fondled my buttocks. (My parents were away on vacation). He actually put his hand down my pants. I stopped playing and told him to go away but he threatened to do worse. Then the next day when I came out of the bathroom wearing only towels he snapped a photo of me. I’m 26 now and he died last year and I don’t even know if he repented (he never apologized). Please someone, I need a hug :(.
 
I’m very sorry this happened to you. :console:

Along with virtual hugs I will pray for you and for your uncle.

If you have not had counseling, I would strongly encourage you to go. We often think things happened too far in the past for a professional to do us any good, but in my experience that is far from true.

God bless you.
 
I am so sorry this happened to you. I send you a hug and also agree with the poster it might be a good plan to get some counseling. I pray for an end of the molesting and abuse of children. It just breaks my hear to think of a child treated as such by an adult.

Mary.
 
I’m so sorry for what happened to you. I’ll be praying for your intentions as well as your health & well being. :console:
 
May God bless you. You and your uncle will be in my prayers today. I am so sorry for the harm done to your innocence. May God help us all to be gentle and kind and respectful to others.
Amen.
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I’m, so sorry! I’ll pray for you and your uncle :console:
 
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Prayer for Healing From Abuse

Praise to you, Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, source of all consolation and hope.
By your Son’s dying and rising He remains our light in every darkness, our strength in every weakness.
Be the refuge and guardian of all who suffer from abuse and violence.
Comfort them and send healing for their wounds of body, soul and spirit.
Rescue them from bitterness and shame and refresh them with your love.
Heal the brokenness in all victims of abuse and revive the spirits of all who lament this sin.
Help us to follow Jesus in drawing good from evil, life from death.
Make us one with you in your love for justice as we deepen our respect for the dignity of every human life.
Giver of peace, make us one in celebrating your praise, both now and forever.
Amen.
 
Speaking as a man who was molested by boys/men, I believe that, unless this is something that has come back to you and is nothing you dwell on most of the time, you’re probably concerned and sad right now because your uncle passed away and you don’t know if he ever repented. Pray for the repose of his soul, even if you don’t want to.

If you agree that you indeed might be going through a sad period and it doesn’t affect your entire life, generally, you need to talk to a priest before you go see a psychiatrist; and I say that because I have been able to forgive and heal in life by simply praying for those who have hurt me. On the other hand, if the matter is something you feel has left deep wounds, I would definitely consider counseling.

May God guide and bless you,
 
abdulmasih said:
This happened way back when I was very little (about 8 or 9).

i know hundreds of people who were sexually molested-- as i was growing up in a catholic community-- – and monsenior Reberito Bass , spent his priest career – dealing with the results–

get the book- prayers that heal the heart- and just (pray) speak them out- and then leave the power to errase the issue to the Holy Spirit-- becasue thats his job

it’s like a do–over
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Friendly greetings, Abdul Maseh,

I am no expert, but Jesus said one must be born again to enter the kingdom of heaven. Changing old clothes with the new one! This being said that you really have to forget the past in order to move forward and to find peace. I know how difficult it is, but nothing is impossible for Him! I pray that you will get the strength to completely forgive those who trespass against you, the strength to move forward, the strength to close your “old book of disappointment”, there is always hope in Jesus Christ our Lord! And Mother Mary prays for you! Amen.

You can read: Matthew 6:14-15 🙂

God bless!
 
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Even though he never apologized, you should try to forgive him because forgiveness is actually for the one doing the forgiving.

I will pray for you. :hug1:
 
Sean_St_Jude said:
Speaking as a man who was molested by boys/men, I believe that, unless this is something that has come back to you and is nothing you dwell on most of the time, you’re probably concerned and sad right now because your uncle passed away and you don’t know if he ever repented. Pray for the repose of his soul, even if you don’t want to.

If you agree that you indeed might be going through a sad period and it doesn’t affect your entire life, generally, you need to talk to a priest before you go see a psychiatrist; and I say that because I have been able to forgive and heal in life by simply praying for those who have hurt me. On the other hand, if the matter is something you feel has left deep wounds, I would definitely consider counseling.

May God guide and bless you,
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I fear my uncle is in hell, Jesus said to settle our accounts with those who have something against us before they meet the judge. Does that mean before I die or before he dies?
 
abdulmasih said:
I fear my uncle is in hell, Jesus said to settle our accounts with those who have something against us before they meet the judge. Does that mean before I die or before he dies?
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I know we must try to settle accounts. For instance, if we have stolen something, we need not only to repent but to return or make reparation for what we’ve taken. However, your uncle could have repented and just been too embarrassed to approach you, so he could have been forgiven and be in Purgatory or Heaven. God knows the heart and He is all mercy. Besides, I believe the majority of us have hurt someone to different degrees and have not apologized personally, but we have repented and been forgiven through the sacrament of reconciliation. I know it is true for me and that I have been forgiven, but in some cases, it is even impossible to reach a person and say, “I’m sorry,” for whatever reason. Also, too much time might have gone by and someone could just be reopening an old wound. Sounds to me like you loved your uncle or you wouldn’t be so concerned. Pray for him, as you probably do, and forgive him if you haven’t. Whatever your uncle did in his life, he needed to take care of before his own death, not anyone else’s death. And the same goes for all the rest of us.

May I ask exactly what part of scripture you are citing? Or are you just remembering, for instance, Matthew 5:23-24 “So if you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.”?
 
Sean_St_Jude said:
May I ask exactly what part of scripture you are citing? Or are you just remembering, for instance, Matthew 5:23-24 “So if you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.”?
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Matt 5:25
 
Did you consider your uncle an adversary all your life? Did you not forgive him? Let me ask you something personal since some of us bare our lives on here, but since you are a new – and welcome – member to this community: Did your uncle go further than you stated? It seemed odd to me that he would stop where you said he stopped. I know you might feel bad about talking about it, and if you do, then just don’t say anything.

If you never forgave your uncle, God has no past, present or future, so you can still ask God to forgive him, and that way, if he’s in Purgatory, your prayer could release him. People like your uncle who prey on children suffer from a disease and are driven by dark forces. I believe that if your uncle had known the impact this would have on you, he might have refrained out of love.

So to sum it all up, Mt. 5:25 talks about one whose adversary (you) is going to hold him accountable, and that’s were prayer and healing (the latter for you) comes in. If you haven’t, see if you can let it go. Hand your uncle over to God, not to judge Him, but in Christian love so that God may have mercy on his soul. Are you familiar with the Divine Mercy? If not, look it up. Beautiful!

Blessings to you,
 
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