I wish my parents would call me

[Lady_Cygnus]

So I was thinking about this before heading to bed again. Thought, “shesh Mom, forgetting to call even after writing out a sticky note, well I had to inherit my forgetfullness from someone.”

Wait…who do I call on a regular basis besides my parents?? Well, I do have a slight phobia of phones, but I can call my parents without a problem and I know my friends would love to hear from me.

Oh dear, oh dear - seems there is a very big log in my own eye

 

[LSK]

Lady Cygnus:

So I was thinking about this before heading to bed again. Thought, “shesh Mom, forgetting to call even after writing out a sticky note, well I had to inherit my forgetfullness from someone.”

Wait…who do I call on a regular basis besides my parents?? Well, I do have a slight phobia of phones, but I can call my parents without a problem and I know my friends would love to hear from me.

Oh dear, oh dear - seems there is a very big log in my own eye

See what I mean about doing better than you think you are? I wish I could be this good at my own 10th Step every night. You have inspired me, thank you…

 

[Mom_of_5]

Well, well, I didn’t know there was a sweet person out there like you waiting for a call from home. Together we have 10 children. My five keep in touch. My five call me frequently, I call them…no reason, just to say “I love you”. On the other hand, hubbys five seldom if ever, call him except when they want to borrow money or some other request. If he says no, they say “you don’t love me, I’ll never talk to you again,” slam down the phone. Of course they do call again the next time they want something. Of course hubby feels guilty, and that he has to bend to their requests in order to have any kind of a relationship. After 14 years of watching my children and I communicate, he is finally figuring out that he didn’t teach his children how to love or what love truly is. His youngest daughter called on Sunday to borrow $500.00 because she just found out that her “shack up honey” is cheating on her. She has a 3 yr old by her previous shack up. She said she needs the money to move into a different apt. I suggested that Hubby talk to her about changing her life style, stop sleeping around, etc. He sent her the money, no strings attached,and did not talk to her about her life style which is dangerous for her and her son. Why??? He is chicken…“she won’t talk to me again if I don’t”. The last time she called him was Father’s Day. I tell him HE needs to pick up the phone and talk to her often and talk about things that are important in order to try to help her change her life around. All 5 of his children are much the same. Hubby is very kind and gentle but needs to grow a spine when it comes to his children, but it may be to late. I think hubby would trade all 5 for someone like you who really wants to hear from him!

Parent child relationships are very important and we all need to go the exra mile. Maybe write a note to your parents from time to time…just say “I love you”. I feel sure they love you, sometimes parents get busy and don’t realize they are slighting you.

God bless,

Mom of 5

 

[captaincatholic]

Wow! I have alot in common with the OP! I am the oldest of 12 and am the only one moved out, married, and out of state. My parents are obviously under more financial strain on one income to support everyone than we are, with DH’s full-time job and my part-time teaching, so I can’t expect them to call me long distance. I call them and chat, but they are often very busy, so the phone gets passed from person to person. It’s a neat way to keep in touch, but it gets annoying hearing the same story 6 times some days! Also, since I call often (at least once a week) they kind of take it for granted. They very seldom call, as DH’s parents seldom call. (We are out of state from both families.) At any rate, I know that they are not as starved for conversation as I am because there is ALWAYS someone there to talk to. Maybe when our little one is born they will start to call more and I will call less-- since I will be so wrapt in our little one!

As far as telephone calls to other people, I do call friends fairly often, and they usually aren’t very good at returning calls or visits. I chalk this up to their being busier than we are, or thinking that they are because they have more children, or more friends in the area, or whatever. I have the same conversations with my DH: “If I wouldn’t call these people, I would never talk to anyone but my violin students and you! No one calls or calls back!” Sometimes, you just have to be the one to make the first move.

A tip for being the one to make all the calls: Find a good rate for long distance. We have an internet telephone provider (PM for details if you are interested) that offers unlimited calling anywhere in the US and Canada for $25/month. THis has come in handy for us, since we live far away from all of our family and most of our friends!

 

[wacky_wonderful]

I enjoyed reading all your messages. Consider yourselves blessed that your parents and other family members even accept your overtures. I was born to parents who did not want children. I have a younger brother who has gone underground. He suffered much more trauma than I did. Not all people want kids, and not everyone should be a parent. Here it is, Christmas Eve and I have been surfing the net for hours. I have no place to go tomorrow, no one to be with. After church, I will come home. God keeps telling me I am not alone, but I sure do feel like I am.

Here’s a suggestion:

Rather than phone calls, get some greeting cards and stagger the mailings. They’ll enjoy the cards and that will keep you in their thoughts longer than a fleeting phone call. Call them on major holidays, etc. Make it more special.

God bless.

 

[contemplative]

wacky&wonderful:

I enjoyed reading all your messages. Consider yourselves blessed that your parents and other family members even accept your overtures. I was born to parents who did not want children. I have a younger brother who has gone underground. He suffered much more trauma than I did. Not all people want kids, and not everyone should be a parent. Here it is, Christmas Eve and I have been surfing the net for hours. I have no place to go tomorrow, no one to be with. After church, I will come home. God keeps telling me I am not alone, but I sure do feel like I am.

I know a few people in your situation. They always seem to get along OK.
Remember that there is a difference between feeling alone and feeling lonely. You can feel lonely or alone in a crowd of people who know you well and feel alone or lonely in a crowd of people you know really well.

It is true though…we are never alone because God is always with us everywhere all of the time.

Stop by CA often. Even though many of us have family and friends in our homes we often take time to check in and communicate any day or time! CA Forums is ‘God-like’ …amazing.
Merry Christmas!
God’s love and peace be with you!
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