I'm catholic my husband came back from vacation saying he is Seven day advent

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I need advice, recently my husband went to visit his family in south America for a week. He’s been having anxiety, depression, panic attacks for several months. So I agreed with him to go and reconnect with his father. Plus I felt it would be good for him to get away and forget about all his issues. Once there he said he found God, next thing I know he is telling me he is getting baptized (fail to mention SDA) I asked him catholic he said it shouldn’t matter which religion it is. This man was raised catholic (not practicing) and as adult said he was atheist. Im catholic, our daughter is catholic and goes to private catholic school.
I pick him up from the airport and starts to tell me he can eat bc he is fasting, and he couldn’t listen to the music on the radio can’t spend money and that he is now SDA.
I couldn’t do anything else but cry and told him we would talk about this later.
Next morning I told him that I felt offended that he didn’t discuss this with me as his wife, and how could his father and step mother ( she’s SDA and her whole family) allow him to go through this without discussing it with me first. They know im catholic and our daughter and she is being raised catholic.
I feel offended, betrayed, I am hurt and can’t forgive him for this. I told him I with support him eating well, healthy lifestyle and no alcohol, caffeine but will NOT change our life style bc he decided to become SDA.

I need advice on how to deal with this, I love my husband he is a great man.
 
This sounds like an emotional based experience, which probably wont last.

I would try to let it run its course, while staying stable in your faith. Dont be too confrontational, because it doesnt sound like it’s a rational decision. If it was, I think it would have been talked about with you, and you would have seen his thought process.
 
Perhaps you could ask your husband to slow down. Since he just “found God” ask him if he would be willing to at least try coming to mass with you a couple of times before deciding anything more about SDA. Make an appointment with your priest if your husband is willing to go with you and maybe the priest can discuss matters with your husband. ( Let your priest know what you are asking and what you wish him to discuss with your husband before the appointment.) If he will not go, you should meet with your priest and see what he recommends you to do.
 
First and foremost your concerns are very valid and you should take comfort that your reaction/response is normal and is actually a good sign that you are a spiritually healthy Catholic otherwise you would not be concerned. I agree with some of the other people and I do believe that your husband is having a emotional reaction that is lacking spiritual substance in my opinion at least. I think his parents have certainly had influence in his experience. However last time I checked, only the Catholic Church produced saints so that should tell him something. Second, sainthood is not optional for Catholics it is not like a vocation that we choose do but rather it is a surrender to the reality. The realty that have this Creator who made us for Him and by Him and we do not even belong even to ourselves, we are in totally his and the path towards sainthood is to recognize that and the live out that Truth. This is why St. Pope John Paul II’s motto was “Totus Tuus” (Totally Yours). I highly recommend your husband read some of Scott Hahn’s books and listen to some of his talks. I also recommend that he read the book “Rome Sweet Home.” While you bits and pieces of the same Truths shared by our Holy Mother Church, only the Catholic Church has the full and complete Truth. I say this as someone who was raised with a father who had a mostly Hindu based spiritual background, and I was thus raised with a mixture of Christianity with the Hindu/Vedic tradition. I myself was baptized a Methodist, raised by Baptist caretakers who are like family to me, educated mostly by Lutherans, became a confirmed Lutheran. Not exactly the best pre-requisites for becoming Catholic. Yet by the power God, I converted to Catholicism. So take comfort and refuge in Christ and I suggest asking for the intercession of St. Augustine and St. Paul who were notable converts to the one true Church. I will pray ask for St. Augustine’s intercession that your husband’s restless heart will finally gain rest in Christ through the Holy Catholic Church.
 
Thank you so much, I will look for the books you suggested and pray to St. Augustine and St. Paul.
 
Thank you, I will stop by the church and set up a time to speak with the priest.
 
I definitely agree with what you are saying, I have been tying to stay positive. Eventhough at times I find myself being confrontational.
I have stopped myself and try to calm down and think before I speak again.
 
Your husband’s conversion is ultimately between him and God and that’s who I would trust with this matter. Just prayerfully intercede on your husband’s behalf like the saintly wife you are! Also writing down your thoughts, prayers and spiritual encounters with God and his saints helps.
 
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