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[maria29]

My, my!

We all need a little “Webster injection” every now and then.
The issue is not living arrangements…the issue is cohabitation…as it is explained in the dictionary…not as we misunderstand it…

So are you saying that you agree that living with your brother and sister is cohabitating and thus leads to them committing incest?

 

[rayne89]

We really should move this discussion to thread in moral theology because this really derails what the original poster had come here to discuss.
forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=171521
The above is the link to the new thread.

 

[Mary_Henley]

So are you saying that you agree that living with your brother and sister is cohabitating and thus leads to them committing incest?

If they are cohabiting…read above…they are living in a sexual arrangement.
This is the only arrangement I am commenting on.

 

[truelove_88]

Cohabitation itself is not a sin that is like saying to boys living together could make them homosexual - what my h2b and i did was wrong I have been to confession I have been forgiven!!!

This post was not about whether what my partner and I did was wrong I acknoledged that at the beggining it was about the repercussions of my actions.

I do not agree with your belief that should I choose to live with my brother it could cause scandal and it certainly would not in the UK nor would me choosing to live in a shared house with both men and women or all men or all women!!!

Men and Women are able to live together asexually it is not always cause for sin nor does it always imply sin I fear that some posters are far to worried about what others think in relation to their actions - mine were wrong and I have admitted such but if I wanted to live with my brother and others wanted to say it was wrong I would tell them to stick their sordid opinions.

Dear Bunneynessuk,
First off, to co-habitat means that there is a sexual relationship going on, so co-habitation in and of itself is sinful. I am simply stating that to co-habitat is gravely sinful and should be avoided at all costs.
I will say, however, I was a little too over zealous about the siblings situation so let me clarify. Living together just to make ends meet, or to help with rent, or because you need a roommate, that is really not a necessity for a brother and sister to live together outside of the family life, it would be improper and and could potentially lead to immodesty, temptation and sin. It could be very easily mistaken for something it is not, such as co-habitation because people do not know thats your sibling.

I seem to confuse people very easily so let me correct myself about my earlier posts, these particular situations deal with a case by case basis,
i.e your particular situation, where to live with a sibling would be completely fine and the best option, since out of necessity it is the safest thing for you right now, you are also in a society where the cultural norms are very different. i.e woman hold hands while shopping completely normal, people don’t assume there homosexual.
I live in the US and I know that living with a sibling of the opposite sex here has the potential to lead to scandal. So I will state again that it is a case by case basis, and in no way am telling you to not live with your siblings. Just don’t co-habitat with your siblings, which is a completely different thing. I also want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers during your troubled times.
God Bless
finis

 

[kage_ar]

I seem to confuse people very easily so let me correct myself about my earlier posts, these particular situations deal with a case by case basis,
i.e your particular situation, where to live with a sibling would be completely fine and the best option, since out of necessity it is the safest thing for you right now, you are also in a society where the cultural norms are very different. i.e woman hold hands while shopping completely normal, people don’t assume there homosexual.
I live in the US and I know that living with a sibling of the opposite sex here has the potential to lead to scandal. So I will state again that it is a case by case basis, and in no way am telling you to not live with your siblings. Just don’t co-habitat with your siblings, which is a completely different thing. I also want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers during your troubled times.
God Bless
finis

In this part of the United States, people hold hands - I do so with my friends, my sister, my brother, anybody - and I see people holding hands in public and I never once assume there is a sexual relationship.

Living with siblings also would cause no scandal at all.

Please, do not paint the entire United States with such a broad brush - there are many great places in this country where people do not automaticlly jump to “peverse” conculsions!!

 

[truelove_88]

In this part of the United States, people hold hands - I do so with my friends, my sister, my brother, anybody - and I see people holding hands in public and I never once assume there is a sexual relationship.

Living with siblings also would cause no scandal at all.

Please, do not paint the entire United States with such a broad brush - there are many great places in this country where people do not automaticlly jump to “peverse” conculsions!!

Here I will say again, it is a case by case situation, and I did not say it will be scandalous I said it has the potentiality to cause scandal, big difference. There should be a real necessity for brothers and sisters to live together outside of the family environment, i.e both parents died, horrible family life, abusive parents. It would not constitute a real necessity for them to just room together for college, or to make rent, or jut for the heck of it, this would be improper. Now unless the siblings are of such high character, and such good morals, and faith, that there would never even be the slightest tinge of improperness then thats a different story.
As far as “perverse” not really just cautious, I would rather play it on the safe side and avoid any scandal than to take an iffy chance, but oh well that’s just me not everyone.
So then let me clarify myself yet again, In the places **I **have been, big city’s and very small towns, it is not as accepted and does to a degree cause scandal.
I don’t know where you are from but it seems like a nice place.
I have lived in these so called acceptable situations only to find out what people were really saying, therefore I try my best to avoid it, I don’t want to damage my name nor any of my friends. It is not the best thing to walk down the street and hear a complete stranger, ask how your girlfriend/boyfriend is doing and say something very vulgar about it, especially when it is not your girlfriend/boyfriend. Then others hear and voilla scandal. Which is why I suggest to just avoid the situation.
As I said before it is a case by case basis, and this really is not about brothers and sisters living together, it was originally about co-habitating, yet got derailed to this current subject.
finis
God bless

 

[ack]

I live in the US and I know that living with a sibling of the opposite sex here has the potential to lead to scandal.

I’ve been trying to stay out of this thread to avoid further hijacking it, but this is absurd.

I live in the US too, I’ve lived in many parts of the country, and NOWHERE would living with a sibling of the opposite sex lead to scandal. Maybe you’re misinterpeting people’s reactions.

It is not the best thing to walk down the street and hear a complete stranger, ask how your girlfriend/boyfriend is doing and say something very vulgar about it, especially when it is not your girlfriend/boyfriend. Then others hear and voilla scandal.

Now you’re saying that I can’t even walk down the street with ANY women, or I’ll cause scandal???

 

[truelove_88]

I’ve been trying to stay out of this thread to avoid further hijacking it, but this is absurd.

I live in the US too, I’ve lived in many parts of the country, and NOWHERE would living with a sibling of the opposite sex lead to scandal. Maybe you’re misinterpeting people’s reactions.

Now you’re saying that I can’t even walk down the street with ANY women, or I’ll cause scandal???

Hmm you didn’t read the entire post did you?
I said it was my experience and I would rather play it safe than to have any of my friends names damaged because people only see/hear what they want to. case in point.

 

[truelove_88]

I’ve been trying to stay out of this thread to avoid further hijacking it, but this is absurd.

As far as “perverse” not really just cautious, I would rather play it on the safe side and avoid any scandal than to take an iffy chance, but oh well that’s just me not everyone.
So then let me clarify myself yet again, In the places **I **have been, big city’s and very small towns, it is not as accepted and does to a degree cause scandal.

I live in the US too, I’ve lived in many parts of the country, and NOWHERE would living with a sibling of the opposite sex lead to scandal. Maybe you’re misinterpeting people’s reactions.

I don’t know where you are from but it seems like a nice place.
I have lived in these so called acceptable situations only to find out what people were really saying, therefore I try my best to avoid it, I don’t want to damage my name nor any of my friends. It is not the best thing to walk down the street and hear a complete stranger, ask how your girlfriend/boyfriend is doing and say something very vulgar about it, especially when it is not your girlfriend/boyfriend. Then others hear and voilla scandal. Which is why I suggest to just avoid the situation.

Now you’re saying that I can’t even walk down the street with ANY women, or I’ll cause scandal???

Hmm, did you even read the entire post?
I said from my own experiences I would rather avoid the situation and not have my family and friends names damaged because people will only see/hear what they want. case in point.

 

[Zelie_Louis]

This thread has completely derailed from the original topic at hand, so it is now closed.