Impure acts committed by ones self

[MyGuardianAngel]

I am a 14 year old male who has been addicted to Masturbation for 3 years. I can not stop. I have tried everything I have ever heard. I pray the rosary daily. I pray the liturgy of the hours. I pray to God in all three persons I asked for my guardian angel to protect me. I wear a miraculous medal, a crucifix, and a sacred heart medal.But it doesn’t work and I’ve begun to despair. Whenever I begin to feel the urge I pray but it doesnt help and I fall.Are there any other possible methods of curbing my Lust?

 I try to go to confession regularly but the times for my parish are aimed towards adults (ie during school) The only time that I'm not in school is Saturday at 10 AM. This causes me to feel like I can't have an active social life on Friday nights because I then can't wake up the next morning in time to make it to confession. If I want to schedule a confession in an email what would be the best wording to use?

 Finally, if I am in the act of abusing myself and then take control of myself and stop. Is that a mortal sin? It is much harder physically to stop, but somehow I can stop easier once in the act.

Thank you, and God Bless!

 

[Julia_Mae]

The only time that I’m not in school is Saturday at 10 AM. This causes me to feel like I can’t have an active social life on Friday nights

You can’t get to bed by 1am to get up at 9 and to church by 10 to confess this very serious sin because it will disturb the “social life” of your 14 year old self?

The email is: *Dear Father, I need to have Reconciliation and have school conflicts, could I make an appointment with you sometime soon between these hours: ____ on one of these days:____? Thank you,
*

 

[Blossoming]

I am a 14 year old male who has been addicted to Masturbation for 3 years. I can not stop. I have tried everything I have ever heard. I pray the rosary daily. I pray the liturgy of the hours. I pray to God in all three persons I asked for my guardian angel to protect me. I wear a miraculous medal, a crucifix, and a sacred heart medal.But it doesn’t work and I’ve begun to despair. Whenever I begin to feel the urge I pray but it doesnt help and I fall.Are there any other possible methods of curbing my Lust?

 I try to go to confession regularly but the times for my parish are aimed towards adults (ie during school) The only time that I'm not in school is Saturday at 10 AM. This causes me to feel like I can't have an active social life on Friday nights because I then can't wake up the next morning in time to make it to confession. If I want to schedule a confession in an email what would be the best wording to use?

 Finally, if I am in the act of abusing myself and then take control of myself and stop. Is that a mortal sin? It is much harder physically to stop, but somehow I can stop easier once in the act.

Thank you, and God Bless!

It sounds like you are really trying to curb your lust and as your hormones balance out after the teen years I think it will be much easier for you.

I really wish you the best and I want to say a prayer for you that you find more strength and also that you give yourself credit for really trying.

If you are only going to Mass on Saturday or Sunday, you can confess right before Mass and I would think there is a confession time as long as you arrive early enough to make that. You can confess once a week for the whole week’s sins and still take communion each week right after in that state of grace, although you have to be really trying to stop. It sounds like you are, I’m convinced you are fighting the battle as best you can from your post, so good for you.

Hail Mary, full of Grace the Lord is with you.
Blessed art thou among women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Keep heart, I think this is a battle you will win even if you have to age out of it. Don’t quit trying! It gets better.

 

[Rahn]

I am a 14 year old male who has been addicted to Masturbation for 3 years. I can not stop. I have tried everything I have ever heard. I pray the rosary daily. I pray the liturgy of the hours. I pray to God in all three persons I asked for my guardian angel to protect me. I wear a miraculous medal, a crucifix, and a sacred heart medal.But it doesn’t work and I’ve begun to despair. Whenever I begin to feel the urge I pray but it doesnt help and I fall.Are there any other possible methods of curbing my Lust?

I try to go to confession regularly but the times for my parish are aimed towards adults (ie during school) The only time that I’m not in school is Saturday at 10 AM. This causes me to feel like I can’t have an active social life on Friday nights because I then can’t wake up the next morning in time to make it to confession. If I want to schedule a confession in an email what would be the best wording to use?

Finally, if I am in the act of abusing myself and then take control of myself and stop. Is that a mortal sin? It is much harder physically to stop, but somehow I can stop easier once in the act.

Thank you, and God Bless!

I’m not sure this will be the advice you want, but you need to try harder. You have a free will, and because you belong to Jesus Christ, you’ve been given a new nature. You DO have to power to stop, you just need to do it.

Prayer is great, but it has to be combined with positive action and true repentance.

You can look at avoiding the near occasion, if there are external factors you can avoid (porn, the JC Penny catalog, being alone too much, boredom) that make it easier to commit this sin, by all means, eliminate them. Also, if you can find someone to “keep you honest”, that will help. “Practice the presence” of Jesus as well, we know that God is omnipresent, so that means that every time you do it, Jesus is there. Try to imagine Him there bodily.

But, the bottom line is repentance, and you do have the power (through Jesus Christ) to do it.

 

[Paul_theApostle]

Keep asking the Lord to help you love him more and more

The Lord says he who loves me keeps my commandments

So what and whom do you love more?

do you love lust and fleshly pleasure more than the Lord?

Pray to the Holy Spirit and ask for his help and his Grace to keep you pure and strong

When you are tempted ,remember that you love the Lord and out of love for him you will resist sin and say no to yourself and your bodily desires

Keep reading and learning from books/online about Chastity and teachings from the Church about our sexuality

Bless yourself and Put lots of Holy water on your forehead and hands every day

God be with you and i pray and hope this struggle gets better and easier for you

 

[Edmundus1581]

I assume that you are familiar with the Catechism on this, but perhaps a reminder is in order:

2352 …

To form an equitable judgment about the subjects’ moral responsibility and to guide pastoral action, one must take into account the affective immaturity, force of acquired habit,** conditions of anxiety or other psychological or social factors that lessen, if not even reduce to a minimum, moral culpability.**

Try to find a regular confessor. It can be embarrasing admitting the same things again and again, but never despair!

 

[Allegra]

Spend less time alone. Obviously, this will cut down on the opportunity. Do you have a brother? Maybe you could share a room? 10AM is not very early in the morning. You could shower and make it if you were up by eight.Your parents should not be allowing you to be out so late at your age that you can’t wake up by 8AM! If you are truely addicted to masturbation, you should ask your parents to get you some help. This is a really hard habit to break and despite being sinful, it will have a horrible effect on your future marriage if you aren’t able to get it under control. It’s good that you realize the harm you are doing yourself and are taking steps to stop it while you are still young. Many boys your age don’t realize what they are doing could ruin their lives and there are precious few out there that are willing to tell them. Then by the time they want to get into a real relationship with a woman, they find themselves hopelessly addicted and end up hurting the woman they really love and perhaps even losing her.

 

[underacloud]

Finally, if I am in the act of abusing myself and then take control of myself and stop. Is that a mortal sin? It is much harder physically to stop, but somehow I can stop easier once in the act.

This is something to ask your confessor. That said, in my opinion, to stop during the act is a sign that your are not fully consenting to the act to begin with and that your will is fighting your urges. To stop is a victory of the will, through grace, and a turning towards God, not away from Him. It doesn’t seem to me to be mortal sin. Each time you find yourself in the act, know that it is not too late to start praying and it is not too late to stop. But speak to your confessor.

 

[Happy_Convert]

This is indeed a difficult issue. You said that you pray the Rosary daily, and that’s commendable. It might help if you try to pray the Rosary before you go to bed at night and/or in the morning when you first wake up. This will occupy your mind with something sacred. This might go without saying, but avoid any and all pornography at all costs! Finally,consider the situations that trigger this issue for you. For example, if you’re lying in your bed, bored and unable to sleep, get out of bed, go into another room, if possible, and do something else, like for example, pray the Rosary. Finally, keep on going to confession as often as you need to, even if it’s inconvenient. After all, saints aren’t people who nver sin, they’re people who never give up trying to be holy. I don’t know if you have a special relationship with a particular saint, but if you do, you can always ask him or her for his or her intercessory prayer. I hope this helps and I’ll keep you in prayer as well.

 

[CallMeCatholic]

Just cut down as much as possible. I know it’s very difficult, but it is possible. I’m 19, and I used to be in the same boat, minus the incredible faith you’re displaying. I started off with limiting how many times I would do it a week, then a month, then I would go every other month, and I’ve now gone since March without “committing the act”.

It’s very difficult, friend, but believe me, it’s possible, and the feeling of being actually more pure is so redeeming and wonderful. Just stick with your faith & start small if you’re having trouble. I tried to go cold turkey once or twice & it didn’t work. Just small increments if anything & then cut it down from there.

Best of luck & God Bless!

 

[mdisse]

yeah cutting down worked for me too. but your doing alot better than me, i never say the rosary. i dont even know how. kudos to you man, especially at your age!