In-laws want to stay with my parents when visit in same coty

[Emd1258]

My in-laws are coming to Atlanta for my husband’s step brothers graduation. my husband and I live in a suburb of Atlanta that is not as close as we were the graduation will be held. My in-law are asking to stay with my parents at their house because it is located closer to the graduation. I feel that this is a lot to ask of my parents. How can I best manage this situation?

 

[Clementine14]

Your husband should handle it. Unless you think your parents would welcome the company, he should tell them that your parents’ home is not going to be an option for them, and give them a list of hotels that are local.

 

[KCmedtech]

You don’t…this is hubby’s issue and not yours.

This was something my husband and I made sure was plain as day in the beginning of our marriage.

Rule 1: we would never let our parents get in the way of our marriage.

Rule 2: if rule 1 failed…it was the son/daughters responsibility to fix the problem.

It’s gone both ways for us and I’ve handled my parents while he handles his. If each of us has an issue with the in-laws…we voice our concern and the other takes care of it…even if it’s uncomfortable or we don’t entirely agree.

 

[Katie777]

I would stay out of it, it’s not your house.

Tell your inlaws to call your parents because it’s not your house or decision to make.

 

[Elf01]

I would stay out of it, it’s not your house.

Tell your inlaws to call your parents because it’s not your house or decision to make.

I’m leaning in that direction too. The only issue would be if her parents would be the type to say yes to keep the peace. In that case I think her husband should speak to her parents and say that if they want to say no it is not a problem.

 

[TheLittleLady]

You know your family.

My parents would be happy to open their home to guests, especially extended family.