I’m a strong Catholic and I just did this. Some may feel this might not be the case since we did invetro. First off, evil thinking does surround the process…simply because there are so many things that can go wrong or can be done without thinking of consequences. I viewed this as a sickness with my wife and I. I did not have sperm. You have to do tests to check it and I had nothing. (did 3 tests at different times)The doctor said we can do a surgery and we may be able to get some. I had a 70% chance. I did the surgery (wasn’t cool and I don’t want to sugar coat it.) They have to freeze the sperm…(they found only few) We made the decision to only do 3 eggs even though the doctor kept pushing 10. I said no. Only one sperm survived so we only had the option to implant one. We had one shot at this. Also, it is impossible for us to have children through regular sex. Even after the surgery.
My wife is now pregnant. I prayed and prayed and prayed for answers for this and that God’s will be done. I came to the conclusion that our circumstances were different and we were not about to do discard or even implant more than one egg. I hope to God I made the right call, but I do have mixed feelings. We are sooo lucky. Yet, I feel we’re absolutely blessed. From the science and the countless articles I read here’s what I learned. Mind you, I feel this could only be morally acceptable if it is impossible any other way and the science backs the soundest possibility to protect life.
- Only implant one egg. EVERY extra will hurt the statistical chances of a healthy child.
- Do not freeze the woman’s eggs. That can hurt life for reasons I don’t clearly understand but the articles tried to explain (This is still being researched)
- The woman has to be healthy.
- Research the doctor’s stats…ours was one of the best in IL located in Crystal Lake.
- Never discard an egg and in my opinion don’t fertilize more than 3. Remember, the church is completely against this all together. I simply feel it’s wrong to do 10 and then pick and choose.
- Pray about this and read articles. I am not an expert and it isn’t an easy topic to study.
I hope I made the right decision. There are reasons that we concluded this wasn’t an evil thing to do. I just hope to God is ok with our decision. I do have some mixed feelings for reasons that are hard to explain.
Please do me a favor and if you feel I sinned please ask for forgiveness and for me to seek repentance and confession. I don’t think I did sin but there is a part of me that’s not sure. This process was a huge painful sacrifice. It was also costly. I’ve always tried to do the right thing and I just felt that wanting to have a baby is a loving act, not a sin. Thanks for reading and I’ll continue to pray for our baby and for people who are infertile. God bless.