Inappropriate Mass Behavior?

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I’ve read so much about inappropriate Mass attire, but how about this:

This month I’ve been filling in for the parish’s regular pianist who is on vacation. From my perch in the church’s rather small choir loft, I have been witness to some disturbing behavior on the part of one couple.

They’re in their 20s, married, and sit in the back. For lack of a better word, they fondle each other during Mass. Last week, I glanced down during the homily and the young man had his hand somewhere under his wife’s skirt. She was making no effort to dissaude him. I know the Church is all for marriage and marital acts, but isn’t this wrong? I mean, during Mass??

The entire choir has watched these two and we’re unsure about how to handle the situation. We talked to the priest but he said that they’re “young and in love.” I have young children who sing in the choir and I don’t want them seeing something like that. Should we take it higher or just let the matter go?
 
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Meghan:
I’ve read so much about inappropriate Mass attire, but how about this:

This month I’ve been filling in for the parish’s regular pianist who is on vacation. From my perch in the church’s rather small choir loft, I have been witness to some disturbing behavior on the part of one couple.

They’re in their 20s, married, and sit in the back. For lack of a better word, they fondle each other during Mass. Last week, I glanced down during the homily and the young man had his hand somewhere under his wife’s skirt. She was making no effort to dissaude him. I know the Church is all for marriage and marital acts, but isn’t this wrong? I mean, during Mass??

The entire choir has watched these two and we’re unsure about how to handle the situation. We talked to the priest but he said that they’re “young and in love.” I have young children who sing in the choir and I don’t want them seeing something like that. Should we take it higher or just let the matter go?
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either speak to the couple or remove your children from their vantage point… man, if you only had a camcorder, then you could show them how silly it looks… mail them the tape… with an advertisement of brochures will be forthcoming in the vestibule… 👍
 
**You know, I think I would say something to this couple…especially since, as you say, there are young children present. **

**Maybe they think no one can see them…OR, maybe they don’t care…Either way, it is not right for them to embarrass others…no matter where they are. **

**So…perhaps a little embarrassment on their part is in order…😉 **
 
Their focus at mass should be God, not eachother.

Ah…well…best way to tell them would be to say “You are aware that you’re being watched from the choirloft, right? I mean, you’ve become quite a bit of entertainment. You might want to…you know…keep it under wraps until you leave mass?”

Just let them know they’re being watched. That should nip the habit in the bud.
–Ann
 
The BEST the Priest could come up with is “they’re young and in love”??? :confused:
 
The next two week-ends, I have to fill in as Leader of Song. I was joking with my son. I said I planned to wear shorts, a revealing tank top, chew gum and have my cell phone ring in the middle of Mass. Do you think they’d get it? 😃
 
not likely Mary - inconsiderate people rarely realize they are being inconsiderate and usually aren’t offended by rude behavior on the part of others. The priest really dropped the ball on this one - he should talk to them. Married or not, that’s simply not appropriate behavior in church, or any public place for that matter!!
 
They’ve mistaken the back of the church for the back seat of the car? I think I might approach them after Mass and say something like, “You know, you’ve been distracting the choir.”

My father in law would have just told them point blank to take it outside.

JimG
 
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Meghan:
The entire choir has watched these two and we’re unsure about how to handle the situation. We talked to the priest but he said that they’re “young and in love.” I have young children who sing in the choir and I don’t want them seeing something like that. Should we take it higher or just let the matter go?
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The temptation is strong! I have been tempted to look at pornography on the web. You and the choir need to resist the temptation to watch and keep your eyes on the alter.
 
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Meghan:
She was making no effort to dissaude him.
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The behavior is so inappropriate that I wonder if the woman is a willing participant or is in fact living a nightmare. A woman can appear compliant in public and to others…but she could be afraid of what will happen at home if she does not comply.

Having the priest talk to her might be a good course. But I realize you have no control over that. If you see no way to check it out, pray about it and protect your kids.:yup:
 
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either speak to the couple or remove your children from their vantage point… man, if you only had a camcorder, then you could show them how silly it looks… mail them the tape… with an advertisement of brochures will be forthcoming in the vestibule… 👍
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Embarrass them. Tell them you will be selling admission. Unfortunately, they might like this, and ask for a cut of the profits. 😃 :rotfl:

Maybe the camcorder is best, after all. 😃

John
 
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