**Alindawyl, NeedImprovement, sancte joseph, and anyone else who wishes to reply.
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Okay I have to want an indulgence to get it. Does desiring to be closer to God count as wanting an indulgence? Or do I have to want less time in Purgatory? These are mostly the same thing but not entirely.
Basically I often do acts that I now know have indulgences attached but I have never known anything about indulgences and so have never desired to specifically gain any. Have I never gained indulgences?
These are great questions Mel (I could see smoke coming out of my ears as I read them

Unfortunately, without the situational specifics, it can remain difficult to provide detailed responses; but here are a few thoughts that might help.
To begin, as a general rule, we should never (even inadvertently) try to impose limits on God’s Mercy…it’s way too awesome for us to be able to conceive. Here is what Jesus told Saint Faustina about His Divine Mercy (from the following site)
thedivinemercy.org/library/article.php?NID=2262
"My mercy is so great that no mind, be it of man or of angel, will be able to fathom it throughout all eternity."
To concur with you and sancte joseph,I think you hit the nail on the head when you speak of desiring to be closer to God. That is the purest of intentions. Indulgences also work towards this same end by leading us in the direction of detachment from sin. According to what the holy souls in Purgatory told St. Faustina, their longing for God is their greatest torment (from the following site)
pwhs-mfi.org/newsletter/news13/st_faustina.htm
Diary No. 20
(Vision of Purgatory)
“One day I asked the Lord, ‘Lord, who else should I pray for?’ Jesus said that on the following night He would let me know for whom I should always pray for.
The following night, I saw my Guardian Angel who asked me to follow him. In a moment I was in a misty place full of fire in which there was a great crowd of suffering souls. They were praying fervently, but to no avail, for themselves; only we can come to their aid. The flames which were burning them did not touch me at all. My Guardian Angel did not leave me for an instant. I asked these souls what their greatest suffering was. They answered me in one voice that their greatest torment was longing for God. I saw Our Lady visiting the souls in Purgatory. The souls call her ‘The Star of the Sea.’ She brings them refreshment. I wanted to talk with them some more, but my Guardian Angel beckoned me to leave. We went out of the prison of suffering. * which said, My mercy does not want this, but justice demands it. Since that time, I am in closer communion with the suffering souls.”*
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Basically I often do acts that I now know have indulgences attached but I have never known anything about indulgences and so have never desired to specifically gain any. Have I never gained indulgences?
If you have ever availed yourself of the sacrament of Reconciliation/Confession and performed the penance prescribed by the confessor, then
yes you must have gained some indulgences. Obtaining that fullness of forgiveness concerning the temporal punishment which might remain after Confession is the whole point of giving someone penance or performing one’s penance.
(from this site; bolds are mine)
newadvent.org/cathen/11618c.htm
…“So far as pertains to its force and efficacy, the effect (res et effectus) of this sacrament is reconciliation with God, upon which there sometimes follows, in pious and devout recipients, peace and calm of conscience with intense consolation of spirit”. This reconciliation implies first of all that the guilt of sin is remitted, and consequently also the eternal punishment due to mortal sin. As the Council of Trent declares, penance requires the performance of satisfaction "not indeed for the eternal penalty which is remitted together with the guilt either by the sacrament or by the desire of receiving the sacrament, but for the temporal penalty which, as the Scriptures teach, is not always forgiven entirely as it is in baptism"…
As the Catechism tells us # 1471 ], indulgences are closely linked to the effects of the sacrament of Reconciliation
vatican.va/archive/catechism/p2s2c2a4.htm
Additionally, if anyone has prayed, say, a Hail Mary with the intention, “Lord, I’m praying for the souls in Purgatory” or, “Please have mercy on the souls in Purgatory”, or “Please relieve their suffering (even w/o the Hail Mary)” ., then they have probably gained a partial indulgence for the holy souls…since what they are asking is a relief/respite/reprieve from temporary punishment due to sin … even if the word “indulgence” itself never comes to mind.
As for all those indulgenced works one had already performed w/o knowing about indulgences, I think I might personally confide these to Jesus’ “unfathomable Mercy” and ask (I’d personally request it through our Blessed Mother) that the holy souls receive the maximum benefits possible from those works. Then I’d try to concentrate on gaining a single plenary indulgence, which entirely remits all temporal punishment due to sin.
Jesus to Saint Faustina on the souls in Purgatory - meditation for Day 8 of the Novena to the Divine Mercy
ewtn.com/Devotionals/mercy/novena.htm#8
Eighth Day
“Today bring to Me the Souls who are in the prison of Purgatory, and immerse them in the abyss of My mercy. Let the torrents of My Blood cool down their scorching flames. All these souls are greatly loved by Me. They are making retribution to My justice. It is in your power to bring them relief. Draw all the indulgences from the treasury of My Church and offer them on their behalf. Oh, if you only knew the torments they suffer, you would continually offer for them the alms of the spirit and pay off their debt to My justice.”