Infant Baptism

[lassie_21]

I have a question…I am not Catholic but my husband is. We are planning on our first born to be baptised, but right now his family is pushing us to pick his 15 almost 16 year old sister as the godparent. We have already actually considered her. But recently she has started Demanding to be the godparent, and it has persuaded us otherwise. Are we right in this choice?

 

[puzzleannie]

Does the sister meet the requirements for godparent, including age, which you can find out from the person who gives the pre-baptismal classes? Does the sister express the desire to be a godparent through a sincere wish to fulfill the duties or a godparent and to be a mentor to the child? Is the sister’s demand more of a teenage attempt to manipulate that has created a power struggle in the family to which the parents must give a firm response? I would suggest her parents discern the situation before making a decision and announcing it.

 

[netmilsmom]

lassie_21:

I have a question…I am not Catholic but my husband is. We are planning on our first born to be baptised, but right now his family is pushing us to pick his 15 almost 16 year old sister as the godparent. We have already actually considered her. But recently she has started Demanding to be the godparent, and it has persuaded us otherwise. Are we right in this choice?

I personally would not give in to any 15 year old Demandings, I would actually look at her and state that if she is throwing a pout like a three year old, she is not mature enough for the Godmother role.

That being said, I became a Godmother once at 15 and once at 16. Today, the role is what you make it. I am very involved with my Godchildren and even have “Godgrandchildren” (according to my Goddaughter). That age is a matter of maturity.

This girl sounds like she doesn’t have it.
I would chose a couple to be Godparents if you possibly can.
Tell her that she can be a Godmother with the next one and see if she matures a little.

 

[lassie_21]

Thank you! I agree with you. I do not feel comfortable with my husbands sister being our childs godparent, after her show of imaturity.

 

[netmilsmom]

She may be out of the running because of age anyway**

DISQUALIFYING AS A GODPARENT **

13. What follows is a list of personal characteristics that

 

[OutinChgoburbs]

I agree. It appears they want to railroad you into their choice. An your s-i-l has a case of bigshotitis.

If your husband has a favorite aunt and uncle who are practicing Catholics, they might make a good choice. If your husband has friends who are practicing Catholics, they would make good choices.

I know in our diocese, one has to be 16 and a practicing Catholic.