For my wife and myself, we had been doing contemplative prayer for a while and were looking for a 3rd Order Franciscan community. The closest one to us, disbanded a few years before.
So, we gave up the idea until my wife found a parish bulletin which was four years old. In it, a parishioner whom we knew, placed an article about the Secular Discalced Carmelites. My wife called her and sure enough, we were at the next meeting and never looked back.