Intention: Not make babies

[johto760]

What can you say, or better yet, What does the Bible or the Church say about Married Couples Having Sex just for “UNITY” purposes only?,

I heard about “ABSTINENCE”, refrain from any sexual activity, or even “FAMILY-PLANNING”, marking the calendar when you want to have babies, but what if you’re still in the beginning stage of your marriage, and you’re still not ready to have kids, especially if you SO SO LOVE, your wife/husband, and you REALLY ARE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to each other, is it still a SIN, if you just do it for “UNITY PURPOSES” ONLY?

I’m not YET married, I just imagined myself being in this situation, and one important thing that I need is :“HELP”, also “ADVICES”.

GOD LOVES YOU>

 

[Leopard]

As long as the spouses remain open to the possibility of new life and do not deliberately do anything to frustrate their fertility, there is nothing wrong with spouses enjoying sex for the reasons you have stated.

 

[Wowbagger]

All acts of sexual intercourse need to be open to children. That is, they ought not deliberately frustrate the procreative function through barriers or technology. (This teaching against contraception has as much to do with the Law of Self-Gift–the unitive aspect–as it does with the procreative one… but this aside.) If an act of married sexual intercourse is open to a child, even if you’re not actively trying to have one, then, please, have lots and lots of it! Sex is not just good because it perpetuates the human race; it is one of the most extraordinary, wonderful, and godly acts in the entire created order! Get to it!

This is the basic premise of Natural Family Planning, by the way: it enables you to space your children if you’re not ready to have one, while still allowing for sex three weeks out of four… all without closing yourself off to God through the use of artificial contraception. Check out the Catechism on this, particularly 2366-2379. This site also abounds in information about Natural Family Planning. In fact, you can probably just google it and find a wealth of good information.

 

[AndrewK]

It seems to me there are situations in which “not making babies” is acceptable, although a couple must always remain open. I think that Pope John Paul II addressed this in an encyclical-perhaps Humanae Vitae:shrug: Please feel free to correct me or make my statement more accurate. My wife and I had our first child 12 months after marriage and were very happy and still are.

 

[Wowbagger]

Humanae Vitae was by Pope Paul VI, but people tend to think it was by JPII because it was so closely aligned with his thinking and message.

However, you’re substantially right: HV is a wonderful place to begin to learn just what the Church has to say about the purpose of sex and (more practically) the regulation of births. GG, AndrewK.

 

[Leopard]

Humanae Vitae was by Pope Paul VI, but people tend to think it was by JPII because it was so closely aligned with his thinking and message…

This is reportedly because Pope Paul VI consulted a certain Archbishop of Krakow as an expert advisor in the drafting of the encyclical.