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Rozellelily
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Hi to everyone,
Recently I have had to interact with quite a few health care practitioners due to my elderly mum’s serious health issues.
Sometimes I feel scared though to speak openly my views in case it offends then and then they “retaliate” towards my mothers healthcare.
For example, a specialist because angry because I cancelled an appointment at a certain (public) hospital that he wanted my mum to attend that hospital and I arranged an appointment instead at a different hospital that seemed more progressive and modern.
I cancelled the one at hospital he wanted because the doctor my mum was “randomly assigned to” I could tell that he was outdated both in personality and skill and still looked like from the 1970’s and I don’t want to make a wrong decision to affect my mother’s health as she is elderly and not young like myself.
When a doctor doesn’t even have a website and still used outdated things like pidgeon holes etc I don’t have much confidence they are keeping updated with skill.
Long story short, I am torn between doing what “doctors say always” for fear of reprisal towards mum and following my judgment and gut to avoid something negative happening to her.
Doctors often are right but sometimes they can bad judgment or refer to bad colleague with patient consequences.
It’s not that I feel I know better but sometimes there are instances patients should think for themselves.
Does anyone have any suggestion how to navigate the egos, stay pleasant etc but not just follow without using own judgment etc?
My mum will basically just do whatever doctor says, rightly or wrongly:/
Recently I have had to interact with quite a few health care practitioners due to my elderly mum’s serious health issues.
Sometimes I feel scared though to speak openly my views in case it offends then and then they “retaliate” towards my mothers healthcare.
For example, a specialist because angry because I cancelled an appointment at a certain (public) hospital that he wanted my mum to attend that hospital and I arranged an appointment instead at a different hospital that seemed more progressive and modern.
I cancelled the one at hospital he wanted because the doctor my mum was “randomly assigned to” I could tell that he was outdated both in personality and skill and still looked like from the 1970’s and I don’t want to make a wrong decision to affect my mother’s health as she is elderly and not young like myself.
When a doctor doesn’t even have a website and still used outdated things like pidgeon holes etc I don’t have much confidence they are keeping updated with skill.
Long story short, I am torn between doing what “doctors say always” for fear of reprisal towards mum and following my judgment and gut to avoid something negative happening to her.
Doctors often are right but sometimes they can bad judgment or refer to bad colleague with patient consequences.
It’s not that I feel I know better but sometimes there are instances patients should think for themselves.
Does anyone have any suggestion how to navigate the egos, stay pleasant etc but not just follow without using own judgment etc?
My mum will basically just do whatever doctor says, rightly or wrongly:/
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