Interview time - what to do

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I have a second interview for a job that I really want. In my previous post, I got offered a position but it has not started yet. And, I was interviewing for another job at the same time. I didn’t think I would even get a second interview for this position, so I was excited about it and couldn’t turn it down. Problem is, my second cousin passed away and the funeral is tomorrow (same day as my interview). The interview is at 11am, and the funeral/mass time is at 10am. My mom said it ends at 11am, and that’s when we would see the family. I wouldn’t be able to make it to my interview then.

We aren’t very close cousins, as we didn’t grow up with each other, and I don’t think I have ever met him. Although my sisters and I know his sister more.

Should I reschedule my interview time? What would any of you do? Is it terrible of me to not want to reschedule?
 
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I don’t blame you for not wanting to reschedule. If I were you I would do the job interview. But I would listen to other (name removed by moderator)ut too. Maybe that is not the ‘right’ choice. Somehow sounds wrong. The reason is that I have always been afraid to reschedule interviews - I realize that most employers are fine with it, especially for a funeral, but a second interview is so important for you right now and you need to make a good impression, be the best candidate. It is no disrespect to your cousin; I say this because you were not close; the loss of someone extends far beyond a funeral, which is just sort of a formality to my mind. Can you meet with the family another time, maybe later in the day - not be at the funeral but go to their home or something? Send your regrets in some other way? (card, flowers) If your conscience is bothering you, listen to it - go to the funeral if that is what it is telling you. You could very well get the job too. If not, it wasn’t meant to be.
 
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Thank you! I told my mom that I could meet after the interview, but she said that the next location is very far and that it’s ok if I can’t make it. But, I hate having a guilty conscious. I guess I could send my condolences in another way though.
 
Sure, maybe just call a member of the family you are closest to, the night before the interview. I don’t know the details of your situation. But if you just sincerely reach out somehow, so that they know you care for them - it is a difficult time for them. Good luck if you do the interview!
 
I think that’s a good idea; I should call his sister or you think a text would be ok? I am so awkward when it comes to giving condolences to someone who has just lost someone very close. And, thank you so much! God Bless
 
I would say call. Maybe ask your mom if that is a good idea. I don’t know about texting. Take your mom’s advice. I would call and just remember the point is to find out how she is - focus on her. Can you help in any way. It will be awkward but she might appreciate it. I liked calls in those situations (of loss). You might feel better after doing it. Maybe a text is ok - this could be a generational thing. 🙂
 
Thank you!! My mom just told me to call her the next day, not tomorrow. But, I am also asking my sister to see what she says, and hoping she says text is ok lol. Even without the fact of it feeling awkward, I feel with a text I could write a more beautiful message as compared to talking. thanks for your advice!
 
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