Invitation to a homosexual union

[MvGeel]

I have dear friends who have no internet who have asked me to post this question:
“If a friend or family member is about to be married in a ‘homosexual wedding’, are we as Catholics allowed to attend or participate in it? I feel like we should not attend homosexual weddings, satanic weddings, or weddings between divorced people. I was told by a member of the Church that it’s okay to attend a homosexual wedding as long as we let him know we don’t agree with it, that we’re just there for them. I am not comfortable attending weddings not recognized or sanctioned by the Church. And, if you say we can attend a wedding where divorced people are marrying outside the Church isn’t that just as wrong as homosexual weddings or satanic weddings? I don’t see how we can attend any of them. Please advise. Signed: Richard and Lennie Senft.”

 

[stbruno]

As cruel as this may sound, do not go! Just because you have received an invitation that does not mean you must attend everything, least of all something that is morally wrong. Jesus invites us to repent…turn away from sin and return to the gospel. He walked and ate with sinners, but he also told them, that he loves them, but they must turn away from sin, not continue to sin. I know that in today’s society, we are needing to be “politically correct”. But politically correct does not mean that we need to support what we know to be wrong. cityofgod.net/courage-seattle/cardinal.htmIf you need some help on this topic…consider visiting this website too.
couragerc.net/

 

[Lisa_N]

I have a very dear friend who decided at age 30 he was homosexual and is now in a ‘committed’ partnership. I have thought about what I would do if asked to attend any sort of ‘wedding’ or blessing ceremony and I would decline. Frankly I’m not much good at hiding my feelings of revulsion toward the physical aspects of this relationship. The thought of seeing them in some sort of passionate clutch or kiss makes my stomach turn and I imagine having a guest upchucking in her seat would be rather distracting. Best to stay away.

I do love my friend but if it were a female friend who was say marrying a man who was also in a state of grave sin, well I wouldn’t attend either. When you attend a wedding you are in effect saying you approve of the union.
Lisa N

 

[JustSomeGuy]

there is a difference between ‘can you?’ and ‘should you?’ in the abstract, one might be able to argue the immorality of tacit support of an evil act. maybe it could somehow be construed as a sin. whether attending is a sin at all, a venial sin, or a mortal sin, entirely depends on the disposition of the person and the practical circumstances. such a thing can really only be judged in that place and at that time. so can you go? sure. should you go? no.

it is admirable when people say that they want to be present to be supportive of someone. but IMO that is bogus. first, if they are friends, they know that they are supportive whether present or not. second, if they are friends, the men should know that they are Catholic and what their views are. if they are friends, they will understand that their absence is a statement of their beliefs and not an attack on the people. if the two men expect them contravene their own beliefs, or if these men allow absence to diminish the relationship, then they are not friends.

of course, this assumes that they profess Catholic beliefs, which would include opposition to same sex “marriages”, AND the unalterable dignity of the human person. no matter what a person does, they are still a person, etc. if they have not made their views clear, or don’t believe as Catholics believe, then this is moot.

And, if you say we can attend a wedding where divorced people are marrying outside the Church isn’t that just as wrong as homosexual weddings or satanic weddings?

the key point here is “just as wrong”. there are different degrees of evil, immorality, wrong, etc. the presence of a person is a statement, but lacking words, it is an ambiguous statement. to attend a wedding of divorced people outside the Church is one thing. but, standing around while people are ‘honoring’ satan in anyway is another deal entirely.

everything we do must be informed by Christ. Jesus is always in your presence. if people were standing around insulting Him, what would you do? What statement would you make? would you tell Him, “it’s cool Jesus, don’t worry about it. you still love them, right?”

i think of it this way. when Jesus ascended into Heaven, His presence became voiceless. He became like He was at the Nativity in the arms of Mary. we now have to act as Mary did. we need to protect and defend Him, not because He can’t, but because we should. as much as we imitate the Son, we should also imitate the Father. out of love, we shouldn’t make the Son fend for Himself.

 

[eleusis]

Lisa N:

The thought of seeing them in some sort of passionate clutch or kiss makes my stomach turn and I imagine having a guest upchucking in her seat would be rather distracting. Best to stay away.

Lisa made me laugh out loud. I would have to agree, puking in the pew is definitley bad form.

 

[Kevin_Walker]

Ten years ago when I worked at a Boston area university one of the female department heads had a lesbian wedding, and she held it against me when I politely declined to attend a mock wedding.

I would have only laugh out loud through the whole mis-affair and get sick at the (ick) homosexual kiss :whacky: .

 

[JustSomeGuy]

she held it against me when I politely declined to attend a mock wedding.

if mock wedding is a quote, she probably wasn’t mad about you not going. she was pissed because you’re rude.

I would have only laugh out loud through the whole mis-affair and get sick at the (ick) homosexual kiss.

The thought of seeing them in some sort of passionate clutch or kiss makes my stomach turn and I imagine having a guest upchucking in her seat would be rather distracting.

being against homosexuality because it is morally wrong is one thing. being un-Christ-like is another. your self-righteous bravado is what makes the Church look like a bunch of hypocritical asses. if i had any idea where you people live, i would drive to your town, go to a bar, pick a guy, drive to your house, ring your door bell, kiss him in front of your face, and prove before God and your neighbors that you are liars.

be nice or shut up.

 

[Kevin_Walker]

JustSomeGuy:

if mock wedding is a quote, she probably wasn’t mad about you not going. she was pissed because you’re rude.

be nice or shut up.

“be nice or shut up” and I’m the one who is supposed to be rude?

Wait until 2006 when the state referendum shuts up homosexual marriages here in Massachusetts. And that will be nice!

 

[Island_Oak]

JustSomeGuy:

being against homosexuality because it is morally wrong is one thing. being un-Christ-like is another. your self-righteous bravado is what makes the Church look like a bunch of hypocritical asses. if i had any idea where you people live, i would drive to your town, go to a bar, pick a guy, drive to your house, ring your door bell, kiss him in front of your face, and prove before God and your neighbors that you are liars.

be nice or shut up.

If modeling Christ-like communication was your intention, might I first suggest adjusting the dosage on your medication–you’re coming on a little strong.

 

[Elizabeth_B]

JustSomeGuy:

if mock wedding is a quote, she probably wasn’t mad about you not going. she was pissed because you’re rude.

being against homosexuality because it is morally wrong is one thing. being un-Christ-like is another. your self-righteous bravado is what makes the Church look like a bunch of hypocritical asses. if i had any idea where you people live, i would drive to your town, go to a bar, pick a guy, drive to your house, ring your door bell, kiss him in front of your face, and prove before God and your neighbors that you are liars.

be nice or shut up.

Pleasse refrain from using vulgar language. It harms, rather than helps, the discussion.