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Antigone97
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Dear all, I would like to ask you a question about morality of male/female friendships and about boundaries a young Christian girl should set. I would like to apologize first for asking on a Catholic forum even though I am Orthodox, but I believe that this consideration matters for any Christian teenager.
I am a 17 year old high school student (female). Since my school grades were exeptional, I received a scholarship for an international summer course in a subject which really fascinates me. It was a great experience for me and I met many friends who share my interests. I was particulary close to two friends (a girl and a boy, both 18), with whom I had very much in common and who were both Christians too. Unfortunately, they live in a different country, but I would still like to maintain this friendship. That is why I considered inviting them to my city, so that we can do some sightseeing together. I live in a boarding home of my school where we are allowed to invite friends from time to time.
I will certainly invite my female friend for two or three days, but I have doubts if it would be appropriate for a christian girl to invite a boy (even though he is just a friend and a Christian too) to her home. However, he would have an own room and I would never spent too much time alone with him (I wanted to invite both friends in the same time).
I know that I should discuss this with my parents, but I didn’t want to dissapoint them by asking directly, since they know that I am a demure girl who would never flirt with boys or commit something sinful.
Could I ask you about your opinion on this topic before I ask my parents? Would you allow your daughter to invite both a boy and a girl?
Thank you very much for your time and I am looking forward to your opinions
P.S. I am sorry for my English, I am not native
I am a 17 year old high school student (female). Since my school grades were exeptional, I received a scholarship for an international summer course in a subject which really fascinates me. It was a great experience for me and I met many friends who share my interests. I was particulary close to two friends (a girl and a boy, both 18), with whom I had very much in common and who were both Christians too. Unfortunately, they live in a different country, but I would still like to maintain this friendship. That is why I considered inviting them to my city, so that we can do some sightseeing together. I live in a boarding home of my school where we are allowed to invite friends from time to time.
I will certainly invite my female friend for two or three days, but I have doubts if it would be appropriate for a christian girl to invite a boy (even though he is just a friend and a Christian too) to her home. However, he would have an own room and I would never spent too much time alone with him (I wanted to invite both friends in the same time).
I know that I should discuss this with my parents, but I didn’t want to dissapoint them by asking directly, since they know that I am a demure girl who would never flirt with boys or commit something sinful.
Could I ask you about your opinion on this topic before I ask my parents? Would you allow your daughter to invite both a boy and a girl?
Thank you very much for your time and I am looking forward to your opinions

P.S. I am sorry for my English, I am not native