Invitro

[crazyage3]

I have a Catholic friend who is unable to have kids naturally. She would like to get invitro done. She is a strong Catholic and thinks that it is okay to do in certain situations. I’ve evangalized to her regarding this matter but she got really upset and so did I. I really dont want to hurt her. At the same time, I dont want her sould to get hurt either. How come we as Catholics dont follow all of the rules? Any advice on comforting her ??

 

[Joan_M]

Your friend is probably so upset with being unable to get pregnant that she has lost her sense of perspective.

She has forgotten that she does not have the right to have a child - children are God’s gift, and He does not give everyone the same gifts.

Even if she feels that God is calling her to the vocation of motherhood, it is totally wrong to try to get pregnant in any way other than through marital relations with her husband.

The in vitro method violates marriage in so many ways, and, besides, it involves killing many tiny babies, since it involves artificially (methods outside the woman’s body, by doctors) inseminating ova, in the hope that one will implant in her womb. This is in violation of the 5th Commandment.

Your friend should contact the Pope Paul VI Institute, which specializes in NaProTechnology. This is much more successful than in vitro technology, and is totally in conformance with the Catholic Church.

And, there is always the possibility of adopting a baby who might otherwise be relugated to an orphanage or foster care. This is such a loving and caring choice.

Why do so many of us Catholics not follow all the rules? Because we are all sinners, and, so often, we rebelliously decide for ourselves what’s right and what’s wrong, depending on what we feel, instead of what is really right or wrong.

Don’t give up on your friend, even if you cannot persuade her that she is heading in the wrong direction. If she does insist on going in that way, she will need your love to help her understand that what she did was wrong and that she needs to be reconciled to God and the Church through Confession.

 

[martino]

I cant imagine how difficult it is for her! Once you figure out how to comfort her, which I am no help at all, I would gently go back and show her why she shouldn’t try the in vitro.

She agree it is wrong in some cases but thinks that it is ok in others. That is a serious problem. Have her tell you why she thinks it is ever wrong to have in vitro done and then have her tell you why those same reasons do not count in other situations. This may help her to see that she is using moral relativsim to justify her particular case.

The truth is that it is just as wrong for her in her situation as it is for anyone else in any other situation and for the exact same reasons!

 

[Fox]

Here is the question:
What if the woman’s ovaries work just fine producing eggs but her tubes are jacked up and can’t get the egg into the uterus? It seems to me that she is meant to have a child since her ovaries work just fine, if not then God wouldn’t of made them so and she’d be barren.

What about the husband? His tackle works well and has no problems, isn’t one of the main point if not the main point of getting married is to have children? What would be wrong if the loving husband and wife to have medical science to help out with this. We do it all the time, don’t people use drugs to ease pain, cure sicknesses, have surgeries etc.

 

[Scott_Waddell]

Fox:

Here is the question:
What if the woman’s ovaries work just fine producing eggs but her tubes are jacked up and can’t get the egg into the uterus? It seems to me that she is meant to have a child since her ovaries work just fine, if not then God wouldn’t of made them so and she’d be barren.

What about the husband? His tackle works well and has no problems, isn’t one of the main point if not the main point of getting married is to have children? What would be wrong if the loving husband and wife to have medical science to help out with this. We do it all the time, don’t people use drugs to ease pain, cure sicknesses, have surgeries etc.

Procreation may not be separated from the marital act. In the example above the woman could certainly have corrective surgery. So yes, medical science can help out as long as it does not divorce the purpose from the means.

Scott

 

[crazyage3]

In most cases, Invitro involves a man masturbating. It also involves creating a life outside the Uterus, not natural. How would you like to tell you child, you were created by a doctor? I could never imagine that. That is wrong no matter what denomination you are. My friend in particular has a working ovary but the tubes are gone. Unless by some miracle (which could happen) there is no way she could have kids without invitro. Like I mentioned before, she thinks it is okay in certain situations. I really pray for her. Who knows, with GOd all things are possible. Maybe He’ll give her that gift!

 

[crazyage3]

Joan M:

Your friend is probably so upset with being unable to get pregnant that she has lost her sense of perspective.

She has forgotten that she does not have the right to have a child - children are God’s gift, and He does not give everyone the same gifts.

Even if she feels that God is calling her to the vocation of motherhood, it is totally wrong to try to get pregnant in any way other than through marital relations with her husband.

The in vitro method violates marriage in so many ways, and, besides, it involves killing many tiny babies, since it involves artificially (methods outside the woman’s body, by doctors) inseminating ova, in the hope that one will implant in her womb. This is in violation of the 5th Commandment.

Your friend should contact the Pope Paul VI Institute, which specializes in NaProTechnology. This is much more successful than in vitro technology, and is totally in conformance with the Catholic Church.

And, there is always the possibility of adopting a baby who might otherwise be relugated to an orphanage or foster care. This is such a loving and caring choice.

Why do so many of us Catholics not follow all the rules? Because we are all sinners, and, so often, we rebelliously decide for ourselves what’s right and what’s wrong, depending on what we feel, instead of what is really right or wrong.

Don’t give up on your friend, even if you cannot persuade her that she is heading in the wrong direction. If she does insist on going in that way, she will need your love to help her understand that what she did was wrong and that she needs to be reconciled to God and the Church through Confession.

By the way, I do Napro and it is a blessing from God! I wish more people knew about this. Hopefully the institute will reach out to Christians all around the world. I know I’ll be recommending it.