Is an 18 year old woman too young for a 25 year old man?

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I’m only 18 and I like this guy but I’m worried if the age difference is too much. He is a very genuine guy who is strong in his faith and I know would not have any impure intentions. I don’t think it’s a dealbreaker personally but I’m worried if he would. Would most guys care?
 
It’s not necessarily a dealbreaker, but I still think you’re too young for him-and him too old for you.

Perhaps you need to discuss the matter with your parents rather than on a forum. They will likely provide you with better advice, since presumably they know/can know about the situation better than us on here.
 
There is no way to answer this question in a general sense that would apply to “most” situations. It really depends upon the two people involved.

Guidance on the issue should be sought in real life with people who actually know you and whose opinion you value and can trust.
 
12 years betwixt my mom and dad… still married. Had 7 kids.

Just depends on where you two are at mentally. If you’re out of high school, starting to figure out how to live on your own and he is too, go nuts.

Just stay safe.
 
It depends on the intentions of both parties involved, where they are in their life, and what they want to do with their life.

In some cultures, including in USA in the relatively recent past, this would have been seen as fine, especially if the young man was known to the girl’s father and family. A 25-year-old man would have had time to get started in a career and establish himself in business. Sometimes he also had to complete a couple years of military service, especially if his country had some kind of compulsory obligation at the time. Girls on the other hand mostly married young and did not pursue college educations. Their goal was to marry a responsible young man and start having a family.

In today’s society, there may be some concerns that the 18-year-old girl is too young to be making a commitment,that she may have to complete at least a bachelor’s level of college education first, and that the 25-year-old man may be looking for a younger woman for the wrong reasons, such as that he thinks he can dominate a younger woman more easily or that he has an unhealthy fetish for teenage girls.

I agree that your own plans should be your first concern.
 
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I have to be honest with you, to me that would be kind of weird, but y’all are adults. I’m interested in a woman that’s a little bit older than me, and I’m completely fine with that. But keep in mind, an 18 year old does not have all their mental faculties, I know because I acted very stupid when I was 18. I know I’m being a little hypocritical here, especially with some of my other posts, but maybe y’all should talk to each other about it
 
I don’t think it’s wrong. The one thing I can think of that may be a problem is where you guys are with your life. An 18 year old is probably not thinking about marriage, whereas a 25 year old probably is interested in getting married. You both have to agree that either this is a purely casual relationship or whether you both are looking for a potential partner for life. If one wants marriage and the other wants a casual relationship, that could introduce a lot of problems.

So just talk to him about it. See where he stands.
 
It depends on the two people. Some 18 year olds are very mature for their age.

In some cultures, even here in the U.S., it isn’t at all uncommon for older men to marry very young women, even girls.

In the deep South, especially in earlier times, this was a regular practice. My great-great grandfather married my great-great grandmother when she was only 12 years old.Shortly thereafter, he went off to serve in the Civil War (confederate side), and she was left with the servants to watch over her. She was still playing with dolls under the porch of the farmhouse.

That marriage was arranged. As my cousin has told it, he took one look at her when she was just a baby and said, then, that he was going to marry her. And, he did.

It just depends on the people, and the culture and whether the two are right for each other. Age differences alone shouldn’t be the determining factor, one way or the other.

I don’t approve of arranged marriages. Everyone should be allowed to choose his or her own spouse. Today, our society has pretty much gotten away from the practice of arbitrarily dictating who is going to marry whom.

It’s still done in other places in the world, mainly the Orient and the Middle East.
 
I think Tis_Bearself nailed it up above.
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It depends on the intentions of both parties involved, where they are in their life, and what they want to do with their life. In some cultures, including in USA in the relatively recent past, this would have been seen as fine, especially if the young man was known to the girl’s father and family. A 25-year-old man would have had time to get started in a career and establish himself in business. Sometimes he also had to complete a couple years of military service, especially if his country ha…
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It really depends upon the particular two people.

Also, by the time you did marry, were it to go that way, you’re going to be at least a couple of years older–and there’s less difference between 20 and 27 than there is between 18 and 25, and it drops by the year.

Also, at your age, gals tend to be a year or two more mature than guys, again leveling out by year.

And I just flashed back to my own senior year in college, where the three year gap to the 18 year old freshwomen seemed huge (then again, that was the year that they showed up with madonna-inspired “fashion”, no longer having to pass by their mothers on the way to the door . . . :roll_eyes:)

And if you go back to, say, first century palestine (where some rather interesting things happened :crazy_face:), a bride would typically be several years younger than the groom, who was expected to have established himself enough to support the family.

So it varies.

And there’s really only one way to find out . . .
 
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