I’ve read several books that make the point that everything that happens is either by the direct action of God’s will or with his permission (in the case of a human acting against us with evil intent).
Thus, everything that happens is somehow good for us, and an opportunity to grow in love, even if the intent of the action against us was evil.
God loves us beyond anything we can imagine, and every microsecond of every day of our lives is a gift. The gift may involve suffering. But even suffering is a gift in that it allows us, if we use it correctly, to participate in Christ’s redemptive suffering. Our “passion” and “crucifixion” and “cross carrying” becomes joined to Christ’s for the purpose of our own redemption and the redemption of others.
I would recommend the following books:
- Surrender - by Fr. Larry Richards
- Trustful Surrender to Divine Providence (2 parts, 1 each by Fr. Jean Baptiste Saint Jure, and one by Saint Calude de Le Columbiere)
- The Fulfillment of All Desire - By Ralph Martin
- The Gift of Faith - by Fr. Tadeusz Dajczer
We need to absolutely have full trust on God, that everything that happens is ultimately for our good. We need to somehow, some way see how everything that happens to us is an opportunity. Because when we stand before God in judgment, and see his face - the face of infinite pure love - we will understand in full how everything that happens is connected to that love.